Hello. I am a woman of 24, my friend, who is 28, and I have been together for almost 3 years. Everything is wonderful - restaurants, walks, romance. Later I moved in with him. He really tries to make me feel wanted and often takes time off to be together. He recently opened a topic for me for a baby, I was quite surprised, and I told him that it was too early and I was not ready for children. He told me how he had already started thinking of names for the baby, seeing our future and us as a family. And so he argued with me for almost a month and kept talking about it. We fought, I explained to him, and he blamed me, he thought I was "more mature." I considered leaving him, taking a break, but I really love him, he apologized to me after each of our similar disputes. But if all this continues, it will not last.
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You are the one who will give birth, not him. You can tell him you agree and take action. Tell him I'll give him mine to watch him for a day and think again. It's not normal to insist when you don't want to. Life changes a lot with the child, it's good to travel a little before that ...
You will never be ready, even if you think you are ready. Ask in a women's forum (if you haven't already).
First Congratulations on the right choice of a serous man who has long-term intentions and plans for the future. There are many Bulgarian "men" who are startled only at the thought that the cycle of their friend is delayed by 1 day and are filmed how they will spend the money on oil and cigarettes to feed another throat ... So. 24 is a great age to become a mother. You haven't started so put it 26 until you give birth. If you met the man, don't wait. After 3 years together, something freezes. Everyday life becomes monotonous, passion and surprises are gone. You need something to bring back the excitement of your days. When you have a baby you will wonder why he is waiting until now. You will feel that you have the sun at home and your life will be full. Today's girls are struggling to give birth and wait until 30, 35 when it is no longer so easy and successful. I read that you live in his apartment, you are not to say lodging or with your parents. I hope you only have a well-paid job for a few years, I hope to get a good motherhood
Everything will be wonderful if you just leave him and find a girl who does not like to hang out in restaurants and wants to have a child
If you don't feel ready, don't. He is a man and neither suffers from pregnancies nor from childcare. He just thinks it's time for him to continue his family. If he continues to insist, he obviously uses you only for that.
Why are you fighting? If you don't want children, the reason is in you, what does "I'm not ready" mean? Just leave him, let him find a girl with whom they will want the same things in life.
I think he's trying to tie you up, otherwise why would he give so much trouble? You are 24, not 35.
The reason is in you. Your mind is partying, a serious relationship involves starting a family with all its possessions. If you are not set up to have children at this age, should I, who is antisocial and a lone wolf, have children?
24 years old and early? It's 17 - yes, it's early. Before, when high school was up to 11th grade, girls gave birth (not to think) at the age of 18-20, now it's 19-21. And with more than half who do not continue their education. In three years, if you have sex regularly (several times a week) it is normal for the baby to become, are you very well protected or is there a problem? It is not early at 24 for a woman and the younger you are, the easier it is to experience stress from children. Only if you have hesitations towards your husband (come on friend).
You are 24 years old the EXACT age to become a mother! How come you're not ready? If you love a person, shouldn't you want to start a family with him? What is happening to you Bulgarians? You're 24 and you're not ready YET ... shame. The man is 28 years old, it's time to be a father, so he wants a baby. If you do not want SO MUCH, leave the man, and let him find a BETTER woman than you and a woman who will want children. You weren't ready at 24, will you be ready at 40? Don't break his heart, and I hope he finds something better than you. Have you been together for three years, is that a little for you? The man is stable wants a family! Think about it ... some women want to be mothers but they are sick and they can't, there was such a topic here soon. Paris.
The reason is in you, sweetheart. After coming of age, such a concept as "it's too early for me", "I'm not ready yet" does not exist. The truth is simple - one is never ready for a child. Never. And this is realized the moment the child appears. Don't get me wrong - there are people who can't, don't get up and don't want to raise children. This is not a critique, but a fact. But I tell you from personal experience - when a person has decided to have children, it is best to do so as soon as possible. Because with age it becomes more difficult. You won't understand it now, but one day you will. It's simple - find out what you want for your life. If you want to explain to the public for another 10 years how it's still too early for you, and then it turns out that physically you can no longer have children for a bunch of reasons, especially the disgusting way of life of the average Bulgarian - leave the boy and look for an uncle who doesn't care about babies at all. You have obviously come across a mature and decent man, do not waste his time. If you still decide to have children, act. You will not become younger, and when they appear after the stress, time begins to fly like a song. And it's better when the child rejects being 31-32 than 40. Trust me.
He has no right to oblige you for such a thing and to harass you. Once you're not ready, don't make babies now. However, keep in mind, a serious relationship is not just romance, restaurants, walks, good sex, etc., when starting a family it becomes quite difficult and there is almost no time for such a life. M33
It's not the fault of either of you, you're just at a different stage of your development right now. Obviously, it is important for you to live, to be alone, while he is ready for family and children. Things will not be resolved by quarrels and mutual accusations, but by conversation. You sit down and discuss the topic calmly, each trying to listen to the other and understand his arguments. After all, you didn't say you never wanted children at all, you just didn't want them right away. I don't see what's so scary about waiting a little longer. See if one wants and the other does not want at all, not only at the moment, but in principle, this is already a problem, but if your case is not like that, but if he really cares about you and loves you, he can wait another 1- 2 years, right?
"When the child rejects" to be 31-32? !? Ha-ha-ha. A child is considered "rejected" only when he begins to support himself financially - only to pay all his bills and only to buy his smartphones and rags. Rarely are there 40-year-olds who could brag about a "rejected" child.
I feel strange when I read that a 24-year-old woman is not ready for a child and that she lived, she wanted to study ... It's like a hen deciding not to lay eggs so that her cock doesn't expand. Do you remember what happens to hens that do not lay eggs? Well success in / with the life of a girl.
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I read the comments and am speechless. People do not have an exact age for a child! When you feel ready - then. Either you want it or you don't! This is her life, she will still risk her career and her body.
Your husband is barren. And he knows it, so he wants you to start experimenting as early as possible
I hadn't read such crazy comments in a long time. Of course, at the age of 24 you will not be ready for a child. You've probably just started to support yourself. Now is the time to spend your own money with pleasure, to go to restaurants, vacations and trips. Do not rush in any case. Children are a wonderful thing, but once they appear, your life changes radically. Yes, you will probably never wake up and say to yourself, from today I am ready for children, but to rush to create them when you have other priorities is simply devoid of any logic. Besides, according to my personal observations, the simpler people who have no ambitions in life (more for women) - their first job when they graduate is to have children. It's just that there's nothing else worth living in their lives that's worth living, and that's why they attack, that the problem was in you. If you have a good profession with a field for performance, a good social life and finances for excursions, you will not rush to have children, as if your life depends on it. I am 28 years old, my friend is 30 years old - both with a very serious and respected profession. We talked about children, but they can appear at the earliest after 2 years. Now there are too many places we want to go, too many evening gatherings and professional engagements. Just for reference: the people from my hometown who first had children were the people with the least mental capacity and the least qualified work. my friend is 30 years old - both with a very serious and respected profession. We talked about children, but they can appear at the earliest after 2 years. Now there are too many places we want to go, too many evening gatherings and professional engagements. For reference only: the people from my hometown who first had children were the people with the least mental capacity and the least qualified work. my friend is 30 years old - both with a very serious and respected profession. We talked about children, but they can appear at the earliest after 2 years. Now there are too many places we want to go, too many evening gatherings and professional engagements. Just for reference: the people from my hometown who first had children were the people with the least mental capacity and the lowest skilled job.
№19 Do not think that after 2 years. will you stop wanting career development, going to new places and there will be no evening gatherings?
If he wanted children, he would have done it for you so far!