Hello, everyone. I have had a boyfriend for 1 year now, we often fight and argue, like almost everyone is engaged, but we also love each other a lot. The problem is that I finished school this year, and he is already talking to me about children. He is 8 years older than me and I understand that, but at the beginning of our relationship, he told me that he has no problem, that I am small and will wait for me as long as it takes. As much as I love him, it's too early for me to take this step, and if he tells me he won't wait for me or gives me a deadline when it should happen at the latest, because he already wants a family ... We'll have to separate. What do you think? Am I right about what I think?
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I don't deal with men who set deadlines for me.
No, no, no, not again. At this age you have to qualify in something, study or learn a profession. To travel, to go crazy, to experience your youth, so that when it really becomes time for a child, you do not regret that you did not make a living and you pass it on to the child. In addition, it is a way to become financially dependent on this person and to become vulnerable to manipulation and harassment.
You're right, of course! To look for his age, ready and willing children! Does he really kick for children or does he just want to tie you up ... By no means does he do such a thing against your will! This is for life! It's not just a toy that you can then return to the store or change! And think seriously about why he's so confused to decorate you with children! Then what? You with the child, without the possibility of realization, rotten from fatigue and worries, without any time for anything else, and He? Tc, choose the father of your children very carefully! This one is definitely not like that, he doesn't want to be a father, he just wants to get you pregnant, the goal is different!
Men often like to have power over women. If you have a child from him now, you will not work, you will not study at university or have any profession, you will not even receive childcare. You will be his cleaner, cook and babysitter and you will be completely dependent on him. When he says something you have to do, you will buy food and clothes according to what he gave you as money. If you stay together then it will be difficult for you to find a good, ie well paid job. I would not allow it. I have a husband, we have a child, but I have a profession and my own income, I can rent my own home at any time and support myself and the child. My husband and I are equal and he behaves like an equal.