Hello! I am 20 and have recently had sex. I have always been shy and anxious and this continues to this day. I love my boyfriend, but I still can't relax completely, no matter how damn good he is: D. Last week, when it came to not having sex, he told me: now go up and act. She wanted me to insert his penis myself. I blushed with shame, I didn't know what to say or do. I am ashamed of what my body looks like if I am on top, I am ashamed of having to do it myself and I am afraid of failure. I told him I didn't want to be on top and I wanted him to act. And he said, Ah, no, no. I always act, I always try and control things. It's your turn. I went up, but I didn't. He is a very hot-tempered person and he got nervous that I didn't do what he wanted and took me down and started acting. My eyes watered at the fact that there was nothing I could do, I want him to be happy, I want to give him pleasure, but I am too inexperienced, with a lack of self-confidence, with a fear of failure. At that moment, I thought about how easily he could replace me with another who acts on his own, is experienced and can give him 100 times more pleasure. I know that sex is not everything, but as far as I know about men it is very important ..
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Sex is not the most important thing, but if it doesn't work, the rest doesn't work. Learn to accept your body. F22
Your friend's demeanor is not good at all. She should be more patient with you, considering she was a virgin until recently. Otherwise you have nothing to fear as much as you are on top. Just make movements that give you pleasure.
Poor girl, he's a complete drummer
What are you doing with this one ??? Tell her to go give her commands somewhere else
I am experienced enough, but to this day this pose gives me zero pleasure. I'm not worried about my body or anything, but when I'm on top, I don't feel anything. It's not a problem for me to do it if the man insists, but I just don't feel it. I still hope that it will work at some point, so I do not refuse when a case arises, but so far it has not worked. What I'm trying to tell you is that not everyone likes every pose and it is not necessary. Yes, it's nice to give men a break from time to time when we're on top, but if we don't like it, it's far from necessary. That is why it is important to look for partners with similar tastes. For me personally, it is most pleasant when he is on top and my legs are on his shoulders, and I am folded in two. It probably sounds very acrobatic, but it's never been a problem for me and it comes naturally, especially during sex. My body relaxes a lot and I can do anything. It is natural for a man to lead and control things. Your friend did the wrong thing. When he sees that it is difficult for you and you are not coping, to help you, to show you what is happening. He's probably aware that you're inexperienced, I don't understand why he expects you to jump on his cock as a porn actress, with an apology. Things adjust over time. Even sex between experienced partners is a matter of adjustment and does not happen all at once, but develops over time. Talk to him and explain how you feel, ask him to help you a little next time if he wants to ride it. Even if he is more impulsive as a person, if he loves you, he should control himself and not react in this way to such trifles. Because this is a minor and fixable problem, which with conversations and practice can be easily resolved. If you ask me, this is simply not your man, because if he cared about you, he would be more delicate and approach the problem more carefully. One of my exes, for example, instinctively saw that I did not enjoy this pose and stopped wanting to do it. I explained to him that I couldn't do it, I didn't like it, he showed me how much he loved it, but he noticed that I was doing it for him and he didn't bother me. The most important thing in sex is that whatever is done is pleasing to both of them. Everything else is torture. but he noticed that I was doing it for him and he didn't bother me. The most important thing in sex is that whatever is done is pleasing to both of them. Everything else is torture. but he noticed that I was doing it for him and he didn't bother me. The most important thing in sex is that whatever is done is pleasing to both of them. Everything else is torture.
And I was like that before, with my ex, I was very rarely on top and generally I didn't do anything, only he acted. But with my current boyfriend, I "accelerated" and I go up on my own and he likes what I do. I didn't want to before because I have small breasts and I was also worried about my body, but it gave me a little self-confidence and it affected our sex life for good. Apparently he doesn't predispose you enough to make you feel at least a little sexy and wanted.
His reaction shows that he shows no sympathy for you. Try to explain that you are ashamed of your body and that is why you cannot relax and take matters into your own hands. If he is patient and careful with you, you will relax. If he loves you, he will like your body with all its flaws and it will not explode if you do not want to do something, after all, sex is for two.
You may have heard that a woman in bed must be a slut .... it's completely true, try not to think too much when you do and you will understand that you will also make dividends and feel better and more desirable Than ever
When you have made the choice to be with someone, you should not be ashamed. Look around you at what kind of women there are, all if they think like you, what they will do, but as you get older. Read on the subject and do not force yourself to deliver it to him, but to both, because sex is for 2. Why don't you challenge yourself, so what. You blush because he will look at you. Young 20 year old body.
Hello lovely girl! I fully understand what you are talking about, because I had this problem myself. You need to know that you are not the only woman who is ashamed and worried about something. Everyone has different problems in sex. Some don't want to do it, others go too far, others have weird fetishes that can't share a bunch of other problems. Don't worry, because there is nothing fatal or irreparable in your case. The whole problem that worries you is shame. Shame on the body, on inexperience. I understand! However, you have been having sex recently, which is completely justified for your concern about inexperience. If this man didn't like your body, he wouldn't have sex with you. And if he does, then he wants to. Think about it. Sex is important, but you have to interpret it the right way. The body is just a tool, it's all in the head! Good sex is one that overflows with emotion. You have to feel more than good in your skin, to release your feelings. You have to fly! Try to remove the chain of the complexes, remove it only for one night and see. A woman is attractive and sexy when she is free. When he does what he really wants. Shame will disappear when you open the door for him to leave. Things won't work out if you refuse him every time. This way you do not solve the problem, on the contrary - you deepen it! All you need is courage. Believe at least for a while, give yourself a chance. If a person is tight, cold, insensitive, worried, do you think he will be good in bed? Do you think? No! You have to feel it. Sex is built on many things, not just movements, body, etc. There are all kinds of people. People who have no legs, arms. There are disabled people who are confined. Women without one breast and many more problems. What about these people? They would envy you for having everything, you just have to learn how to work with it. How did you learn to ride a bike? Well, as you tried! And that's what you need. Try only for one night, only once and then take stock. But you should know that a problem is solved when you make the effort to solve it. If you procrastinate all your life out of shame, you will not learn. I believe that you are a wonderful and attractive woman who has a unique body. Rejoice in him as he is, because I would give everything to walk again ... But you should know that a problem is solved when you make the effort to solve it. If you procrastinate all your life out of shame, you will not learn. I believe that you are a wonderful and attractive woman who has a unique body. Rejoice in him as he is, because I would give everything to walk again ... But you should know that a problem is solved when you make the effort to solve it. If you procrastinate all your life out of shame, you will not learn. I believe that you are a wonderful and attractive woman who has a unique body. Rejoice in him as he is, because I would give everything to walk again ...
Honey, you're not guilty, don't blame yourself! The boy is obviously watching a lot of porn! And he's probably seen porn actresses put it on themselves, you're a normal person, not like that! Tell him "I'm not a porn actress, I'm a normal girl." As you are shy, you have to be considerate and not press. Even having sex with him is a lot, but when I look at him, he CANNOT predispose you, so he is not your man. Try talking to him if he doesn't understand you, he's not your man.
Look now ... and I don't think he did well, but people are different and everyone reacts differently to certain situations. The next time he asks, go upstairs and tell him "Show me how" or something. He can easily guide you with his hands to see which movements are pleasant to him, and in time you will understand which ones are pleasant to you. After all, in this position you lead the parade;)) Good luck
Shame away from the bed. Men die for this empty ride from time to time. I'm not the perfect beauty, nor does it give me much physical pleasure, but I like the reactions of the man below me. With this empty shame you miss a lot.
You all believe that the author was a virgin until recently. God, who knows how much she changed before him, but now she pretends to be modest. I had a friend who had told me how she pretended to be very inexperienced and shy with one of her exes. I asked her why she did that and she replied that she wanted to do an experiment and see how he would react. And how did he react? Well, the fool believed her. As she told me this story, she kept laughing at how stupid the men were.
It is normal to want variety, but if you clearly see that the other person is not comfortable with something, if you hold on to him, it is not ok to force him and be angry with him. What does "he's angry and my eyes water" mean? Well, please, do you have sex or does he experience himself as a boss, and you are a submissive performer - whatever the boss says. This is not your office, and he is not your boss to tell you what to do and how to do it, that even when you can not get angry? The next one you clearly tell him that you don't like a point. And if he changes you for another because of that, he obviously doesn't love you at all and doesn't care about you, and he only uses you for sex. I guess you don't want that kind of connection.
I read and think, isn't sex discovered by Bulgarians !? There were great connoisseurs of sex here, all specialists and wit !? He this, he that !? What's so hard about stringing on his bottle if he's hard and aroused enough? It's like they're making you stuff a gut in your gut !? Grandfather God created us in such a way that the hard member finds a place to enter on his own (if he is really woody), the woman is only asked to relax and moan with pleasure. If this is difficult for you, you better not get involved, sex is not a filling! And it was a shame, it was hard to sit, and this, that, all forced work and that's what you call sex !? You better not bother, and again the men became guilty. Not only do they have to torment themselves with various rubber cuffs, but they also have to invent special poses, and the woman just wants to lie on her back, like on the beach.
This one sounds like a complete jerk. It is clear to me that men like the Rider pose, but it is good to keep in mind that you have recently had sex. You are yet to gain experience. However, think about whether you want a hot-tempered and nervous person in your life. The man must be calm and able to control himself. The woman too. I hate all kinds of hysteria and nerves.
I may sound frivolous, but I can add to the idea of number 12, because it won't give you an exact idea of what exactly to do. and you downstairs, with a vibrator. This way you will see clearly and understand much better than if he tells you and gets angry that you do not follow his commands. :)
N. 17 Do you really think that the author is 20 years old and has recently had sex. Even if she is 20, I guarantee you that she started having sex at the age of 15, 16 and for 4, 5 years she has ridden at least 15, 20 men, and now she pretends to be very modest, shy, anxious and God. what a "horror" she has to grab his penis and insert it herself. She blushed with shame that she had to grab his penis. You women are such big liars when it comes to sex and you believe your own lies. What about women!
19, if the author is really 20 and has been with one or two partners and has modest experience? How did you determine that she was with 15-20 men from the age of 15 through the site? Black Sabbath
My previous comment was disapproved, I hope you post this one. Number 19, how can you guarantee how many men the author has been with and since when has she had sex? Didn't you shine on her? Another misogynist, desperate for women. There are actually quite liberated young people who start early with sexual life. But let's not put everyone under a common denominator. It's ridiculous.
For the first time I hear a woman does not like to be on top. Compared to what I read, the majority likes to lie and wait. Maybe I was mistaken, de .. I do not like my husband to be on top and weigh me, even only when I'm on top I cum. I like to control my own things and I rarely let my orgasm depend on the man. But of course the woman must know how to do things. I do not know how much experience the girl has, it is normal to worry if she is new to sex. Author, the man was a little rude and tactless, but he is not the subject of your topic. Try to relax, have sex in the dark in this position until you relax. Or drink something for courage, not to get drunk - for mood. In the position of the woman above, the eye contact with the man is disturbing. There are men who stare and this is distracting and can be irritating. When you close your eyes from above, relax and start moving smoothly as you like. If it bothers you to look at you in the eyes at the right time you can make a slight remark to him. Everything is learned, even sex. Calm down. Play an erotic, not porn, movie and see how it goes. There is nothing shameful, give yourself time and you will learn. Greetings. give yourself time and you will learn. Greetings. give yourself time and you will learn. Greetings.
I am the author. First I want to thank you for your opinions, each one is very important to me. I don't know why some people think I'm lying that I've been having sex lately. What will I achieve with this? It was very funny to me. This is an anonymous site and I don't mind telling the truth. :) There is a difference from person to person. I didn't mention it at the beginning, but apart from sex, it is my first and like everything else. The first person I fell in love with, the first kiss, etc. Strange as it may sound. Until now, I've always been waiting for the right one, I didn't want to be with this and that, just to gain experience.
I can't understand why the emphasis is on sex itself? Is that really the problem? Techniques, acrobatics ... Who could do what, who knew what, how should it be ??? Wasn't sex fun? If you're good with someone, you'll be fine anyway. The same woman can be a tree with one man and a real slut with another! It relies heavily on the man whether he can predispose! Well, if someone came to me and told me how to stand and what to do, any desire would evaporate. Even if I'm angry. Author, the problem is not your inexperience, but that you came across a naughty man. He is inexperienced in this case and that is where your problems come from. And they are that the boy is very likely to overdo it in porn, his ideas about the attitude towards women are wrong and more. Apart from making you feel inferior, I don't see anything else. You better get away from him!
Author, you are an incredible liar. Although the site is anonymous and you could tell the truth about yourself, you still don't tell the truth. Why are you lying and what will you achieve with this !? Well, in the eyes of visitors you want to look interesting and intrigue the opinion of readers that you see there are girls like me at 20 and still inexperienced and modest and shy and blush to hold a penis with his hand. It was not one or two lies of your author, you are now easily recognizable. Although on an anonymous site you want to present yourself as exceptional. Your behavior is called extreme grandiosity.
He only uses you. As soon as she makes you cry ... it's best to break up with him. You don't have to let anyone crush your psyche like that!
I am the author (again). Number 27 made me very angry, honestly: D. I think you know super naughty women :) .. I will disappoint you, but I am far from what he described. Although rare, there are still decent women like me who do not attack everything alive from an early age. There is no point in explaining and proving to you in any way, I know what I am, I can't understand what your problem is and what you are attacking me for. I don't have time to make up nonsense to pretend to be great. I wrote the post in order to hear the opinions of the people on the site. No one has made you mess with stories you think are fakes. If you don't like it, don't bother to comment. Thanks :)
Come on. My girlfriend was 25 and she was a virgin. Not everyone is 15 years old. So on the topic - when I'm downstairs I like that my hands are free and I can crush whatever I want - her ass, her breasts. At the same time, someone else is doing the work. My friend was also worried, but she overcame it, even at one point she started to cum on her own. Strangely, he was less worried about giving me blowjobs than from above. The whole point is to find a way to have fun and have fun. You don't have to think much, especially about what the other person imagines - it kills everything in both of them. Believe me, if you like it, he will surely like it. And he already likes you when you get there. There is nothing stronger than a chick having fun strung on top of you while you crush her. Several times it has happened that I have brought her to the point where she cannot think and just have fun, there is no such pleasure in watching this. To stay between us - the female body looks sexier from below than from above ;-) Have fun, this is the purpose of sex!
The bad thing about you, author, is not that he wants such a pose, but that he does not know how to ask for it. A matter of upbringing, culture, mentality, character. And these things are for life. I'm sorry, but only a simpleton can behave and speak like that. You don't have to do anything you don't like and don't want to do for anyone. Remember that. I wouldn't associate my life with someone like your friend. Think about how you will feel when he asks you and other things (remember what - oral, anal sex, back thong)? They are completely natural in sex, but they must be desired by both of you, to be wanted with tact, respect and tenderness. Think of yourself first, not him, he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Draw your own conclusions.
BULLSHIT ! My beauty is very happy to be on top, she puts it on herself, adjusts and rides it, and it's so nice for her, because she and I are playing with her big tits, which is her other joy, so for every train there are passengers!
Up to 34. That's the big deal her friend wants. Below and above are the two most practiced poses. It depends on who wants to be active at the moment. We often took turns, sometimes fighting over who was upstairs (or downstairs - both happened). In general, monotony kills desire, but so does violence.