I am asking for advice. I got the concepts wrong. In short. I have had an unhappy marriage from the very beginning - without respect, without understanding, without sex, only insults and reproaches. I am 38 years old with 2 children. For 2 years I have been in a relationship with a married man who claims to love me, but at times is distant if he shares about his problems in the family. He says, "I'm not mistaken." He wants some things from me as proof of my love, which I thought was abnormal, but I got confused over time. Please for your comments. He wants me to have a child with him, but to stay married and look after him in my family. He always made it clear that he would never divorce, that his wife was perfect and that he loved her too. She says that if a woman loves a man, she will give birth to him. I get nothing from him except sex. I also instinctively want a child, but not like that ... that means changes in many directions for me. Love it. What to do What does this look like from the side?
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He looks very selfish on his part, you must have moved to give birth to a child, given that he loves his wife and wants us to part with her. Aren't 2 children enough for you? but you have to prove your love to him ... because he doesn't prove his love for you by leaving his wife and having a normal family with you. Never give birth to a child. This is the biggest mistake you can make and there is no going back.
My case is the same. I also have two children and my lover wants me to have a child. He himself has three. We love each other very much, but mine also tells me that he will not leave his wife. I am ready for something more. I would divorce my husband. But I know that even if I do, he will not leave his wife. He wants me to have a child just like yours and my husband and I to raise him. But my husband agreed at first, but then withdrew. Now I don't know what to do.
Eiiiiiiiii women find other lovers who will not want children from you. As soon as they leave their children with "another father", they are ardent molders.
This will be the biggest mistake of your life !!! Fuck the egoist! If you only get sex from him and you want something more, I would advise you to just end your relationship with him! I see no reason to prove anything to him. And since he owes so much to "evidence" of this kind, why not prove it first ?? And if you have two children, isn't it super insulting and humiliating for the FATHER of your children to raise the child of your lover? How will you sleep at night ?? Will your conscience leave you alone? Anyway, my advice is to break up with him, and if your marriage is "unhappy" - get a divorce!
I know that in order to have lovers, your husbands have done something to you ... but I still don't accept it as normal. It's powerful ... I'm a 21-year-old man, I have a serious girlfriend of 3 years and older, and to be honest, if one day we get married and the last one starts cheating on me, the problem will be my divorce, especially if we have children. You are literally making fun of the men next to you !!!
What kind of love is this when you only see sex from him? Please do not be deceived. If you are not doing well in the family, you decide for yourself whether you will continue to live with your husband or get a divorce, but to show your love to someone who obviously suffers from some complexes is just stupid. If you can, just have fun with the pipe and that's it. I know we women make love with our hearts, but no man deserves to prove anything to him. I also proved to my lover for a year how much I love him and that I am ready for anything for him (of course without having children) and finally he gave up on me when I asked him to prove how much he cares for me. These are the men - today if it's you, tomorrow it will be someone else and they don't care how much it hurts you and how much you suffer.
from the AUTHOR: Thank you for the comments! I don't know if it's normal. He claims that this is perfectly fine. He also says you want a child, don't you? And I guess I really won't sleep at night and I'll be ruined, especially if he leaves for America for a long time / a visit to there is in his plans if they let him go /. I don't know what would happen. He thinks that he gives a lot in the relationship, much more than me, because he bears all the expenses of the meetings. He believes that each other would bear half the cost. I don't know - I'm not tight-lipped, but this is the first time I've been hinted at. Otherwise he is a very nice man, he is used to great female attention, he has 2 higher educations, a good career, gallant, good, with a submissive look, he is the nicest man I have ever met. Although I am 9 years younger and I am also a pretty woman.
Well, the fact that he is the best man, I raebirat, eashtot and it happens to me that with the "best man" I have no alms. It's hard to leave him and that's it, but he did it, I've already done it. And that's the way to go - if he wants to see you, he'll pay. Don't make a mistake with a child of his. Anyway, you will have to work as an eamine, do it now, it's easier, I tell you again from experience "my nice man was in Italy".
Abe told her to look after his work and his wife. It can't have everything in this world for someone else to watch !!!
I am entering here for the first time and I am amazed at how insolent creatures can breathe the air of this world! What kind of thought is this - to give birth to my child, but for your husband to look after him !!! Hey girl this "handsome" is not the last man in this world. Just look around and you will notice many more, among which there are normal ones for sure!
I am 14 years old, but I think that if he is unhappy, he just kills his children and runs away.
As he claims that it is normal, ask him to tell you how many such cases there are. And there is no doubt that you will ruin yourself after that. Think about how you will feel watching your children play with his ... even more so if he is no longer there. Even if it is in Bulgaria. I hope you understand me. Ask yourself what situation you will find yourself in if this child needs to be tested by blood type or other indicator, your husband and children find out about it. Do you think that your husband will be sure that your children are his and they will ask themselves if he is their father? Think about it.
Abe, were you normal !? How can you even think of having a child by someone ?! That you are whores, you are whores, men are not enough for you and I understand that, but to have a child from him is already the top! People say that women were stupid, but I think men are even more stupid to look after other people's children! My advice is ... Get this nerd away from you while it's time !!! He can make you dirty, he can punch a hole in the condom, he can drop it in you and then you want it, you don't want it, here's your child. And think this child when he grows up and understands who his father is and that your husband is not his father, will he be happy ?! I hope I have not offended anyone with my opinion! I hope you understood me correctly, and you are smart with this one not to do the irreparable from which then not only you will suffer, but also your husband and your children, and possibly the foreign child !!!
So it is a mistake to get pregnant and give birth to him crookedly, I can understand that. But you plan to crash, I don't get it. Everything you described is abnormal, I'm sorry to say it so directly. Your lover may be handsome, but he is a star-sized simpleton, on top of everything, and he will go to America. And who will itch his potpourri here? I'm a woman, and if a man tells me to share the cost, I'll delete his number from my phone, honestly. I can suggest, but should he question it ?! And how will you divide the costs of his child, he says? Isn't he from some Mormon sect ?! Girl, come to your senses. As it's just sex, please, we all need a little more sex, but don't confuse your head with nonsense!
I recently got married but I had a lover and I continue to meet snow even more now we want a child together. He does not suspect a wife yet, but his change of marriage was only an account.
Wow, how many crazy women there are !!! Do you go to a psychiatrist and not write on the forums? She will give birth to her lover, and the man will look after and support the child. Well, no words? This is oligophrenics.
Remember that feelings are transient. However, the children are not. Do not be so reckless in creating children without a father. You have two children, that's enough. After the age of 50-60, children occupy a very important place in the life of their parents. A place that used to be occupied by love emotions. Once you have married this man, then something has attracted you. You have two children and he is looking after them. If you want emotional emotions so much, ie have a new love, but without harming the family with it. you think your children don't feel it. Children suffer the most from their parents' divorce. Not so much when one of them dies. Be responsible and do not succumb to the whims of your lover. he is irresponsible. Do you want to be like that too?
Let this one stay with his smelly wife, I was even angry at his nonsense. To share the expenses, and to give birth to a child. Are you normal, but take this one away. Horror! But there are abnormal stories, but that's it.
Author, it is normal when he wants a child from you to separate from his wife and you from yours and to start your own family and have as many children as he wants. Did you think, did you explain to him that you don't have sex with your husband and you can't tell him that the stork brought him another child. What kind of stupid person is your lover? He seems to have gone too far with watching soap operas .... Be sensible and don't play his whistle, because in the end it's bad for you - and your husband will kick you out, and your lover will leave you. Brrrr, I think my board is pounding and I'm too dumb, but there were some dumber than me
Egati tarikata, there will be tarikats, while there are balami like you. As he loves to be with you and to support you in the most difficult moments and not in words and outside of marriage .... * take a little consciousness, drink water and go to bed ... :)))
God. Crazy woman!!! Crazy people .. It would be very stupid if you did!
God, you are very stupid! First, if you don't love your husband and you don't have sex and your marriage is unhappy, tell him in his eyes and leave him, and don't poison your life and don't live a lie! 2. Or tell your lover to leave his wife and be with you, if he really LOVES you or forget about you - you must be very crazy and stupid to have a child, and he to live his life peacefully with his IDEAL wife -Don't you have dignity? !? And think of the poor child you intend to give birth to - what fate will he have - with a debauched mother and a foreign father, while his real father has another family and will not hear him - your tongue for the years, woman, your tongue that you are mature, that you have children, for many things language !!!
Author, in your film, now you want to make it a series. Don't be attached to nonsense. Find a person who will appreciate you UNCONDITIONALLY, not one who emphasizes what he gives in your relationship and wants you to prove it to him. In time, he will want you to show him the receipts for the diapers ... He is pathetic, his language about upbringing, education and "morality". Wake up!
If this is not a fabrication of a sick brain, it is the loudest and most impudent simplicity I can imagine! If such a man exists, then he is not a good man at all, as you describe him, but sick, psychedelic, accustomed to power and manipulating a brat! But you know, he's not crazy who eats cabbage ... for a number of years I haven't had sex with my husband, for a number of reasons, I looked outside, I had several lovers who each tried to manipulate me in their own way. .. but there is no master! For one. ur not know if you are going to be gods in sex and if you are going to be men done! For this reason, I am totally disappointed with men and I am not looking for men! I satisfy my sexual needs with vibrators and porn, and judge me now! I will not allow anyone to equate me with a rag and manipulate me for his own benefit! At no cost!
I can't stop laughing, although for some it's a drama :) That's what female cuckoos do in nature - they like to leave their generations to be raised by others. It's so disgusting, especially when you imagine that a man's intention is realized !? His slum work.
24, the fact that you don't want to be ragged and manipulated is understandable and commendable, but what exactly does it have to do with your sexual needs? I mean, what's stopping you from satisfying them with men and still not letting them play you? The long-term vibrator alternative seems a bit ... unattractive to me. Kubrat PP I have nothing to say on the subject, and probably the case is long over.
Wow, what a wretch, what are you doing to him? Even if you give birth to a child, wow, run away, you're still 38, you have to be sensible, don't make mistakes
This problem must have been solved years ago, but I want to share what I think about it. In my opinion, two people create a conscious child when they are sure that they want to enjoy it and grow it TOGETHER. Sometimes things go wrong, they separate and the child is looked after by the parent's next partner, but no one creates a child with the intention of someone else taking care of him. A father is not made by someone having sex with you, but by taking care of the child, raising him ... Once you have children, you know what a sacrifice it is to be a parent. From the moment this baby is born, your husband will be his father. What satisfaction will it bring you just to bear the fruit of this man?
Kubrate, I answer you - the moment I ask for clear and high correctness, they start to slip away like a wet cord, I can't stand it and end the relationship, or the other option - I don't see them anymore. That's why I hate them and I don't want any of them anymore. To keep their masculinity, to place it elsewhere - where they will tolerate them .... I will not! 24
Number 24/29, all right, but why should you hate? You just say that you want respect and fair treatment, in fact you don't even need to say it, it shows quite soon when a person wants to be respected and when he is allowed to be played. From there, whoever is curled up - the one who is looking for a person to manipulate will see that he has the wrong address with you and will move out on his own. And that is, things are so simple. Why should you hate someone just because they are looking for something that you are not (ie an easily manipulated person)? It's like the market - if they want BGN 20 per kilo of tomatoes, there are two options - either for some reason you decide that it settles you and you make a deal, or you say that it doesn't settle you, you don't make a deal and you keep going. And that it is pure impudence to ask you for BGN 20 for tomatoes is true, but there is no point in occupying your mind with this, let alone go to argue or "hate". I hope you understood me. Kubrat