Hello, I want to tell you my story. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, we went through many difficulties, but we finally knew that we were for each other, we talked about our future together, we really loved each other. We were students, I'm 24, he's 22. He had financial problems and took the step to go to England. I understood it, of course, it would be in 2 3 months. He left with his mother, they worked there and he came back ... His mother stayed there. Another year passed .. the summer we worked on a seasonal job, then for a while he was looking for a job and could not find anything, he wanted to go again to make quick money and hoping to help his mother (because she had not returned for 1 year in Bg) I couldn't stop it, there was a good reason .. we cried a lot, but we broke up again .. 4 months passed, we heard each other all the time, he came back, but there were a lot of accumulated bills, be it for bills, loans, etc ... and so again in the same way .... I knew that the possibility of not returning is greater, it made me leave, but I love the country I was categorical, I loved him too but I couldn't .. 4 more months have passed. we started arguing and finally he told me that he had nothing to come back for, that we didn't understand each other and I didn't want to leave .. My heart hurts, I love him, but he doesn't want to hear about Bulgaria .. How to overcome him, I'm 1 year every day with the thought that he will return, every 1 second I think what he's doing ..
I feel like he's dead and I won't see him again, I miss him very much I was categorical, I loved him too but I couldn't .. 4 more months have passed. we started arguing and finally he told me that he had nothing to come back for, that we didn't understand each other and I didn't want to leave .. My heart hurts, I love him, but he doesn't want to hear about Bulgaria .. How to overcome him, I'm 1 year every day with the thought that he will return, every 1 second I think what he's doing .. I feel like he's dead and I won't see him again, I miss him very much I was categorical, I loved him too but I couldn't .. 4 more months have passed. we started arguing and finally he told me that he had nothing to come back for, that we didn't understand each other and I didn't want to leave .. My heart hurts, I love him, but he doesn't want to hear about Bulgaria .. How to overcome him, I'm 1 year every day with the thought that he will return, every 1 second I think what he's doing .. I feel like he's dead and I won't see him again, I miss him very much
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Come on, she loved her country now. Choose your country or him. You have no other option.
You obviously love your life more than him. What is the problem with going to England, living, working and deciding what to do. If he is in Bulgaria with a salary of BGN 500, will you be more satisfied? 80% of people have an income below the average wage. Let's not be fooled by how many alternatives and bombastic opportunities there are in Bulgaria. Find him a good job in Bulgaria. Apparently your parents have always been behind you and financially you don't know what's wrong.
Really - a dilemma, and I guess hundreds of other couples are going through the same thing. If you don't want to go abroad (which is completely natural - I've lived abroad for 21 years, I know), it's better to separate if he doesn't want to go home. It's painful, I know; but you will not feel well there either, and if you do get married, you will know that your children will be English. I experienced this, and I have the example of a woman who went against her will, who locked herself in her room and cried all day. Living abroad is not a good thing - leave them, what people say. It's better at home. And when people are together and love each other, they don't get miserable. However, abroad is very tempting with empty money and its social order. But the Motherland is the Motherland.
Author, you just don't love each other. You would find compromise, patience and strength in yourself to overcome the problem and find the right solution for both of you. The fact that there is no other man in your life is the reason you suffer for him and whine about how much you love him. You can easily turn the page, but you don't want it. There are people who just make them feel alive suffering. I do not know why.
Stay true to yourself! Many men, life is yours! Wrong or not, the decisions are yours! Don't ignore your inner voice! If your inner voice speaks to you Bulgaria, then you stay here. Love for you, not for this or that, must be leading. Even if people tell you "how simple you are, go ahead", don't listen to them! Make your decisions solely according to your inner voice and how you feel about them. There is no guarantee that if you force yourself and then you will be happy. Imagine a scenario - you force yourself, you leave, you don't feel ok there, a loved one and he is at home, at work, the money is still not enough, they treat you like an emigrant, you have no warm words to say . Unhappy pregnancy and broken nerves. And here - you meet a good and cheerful man, you are a support for relatives and friends, money, of course, is not enough, but you are happy, everything is dear to you - every brick of your old house, every sweet, suffering face, even the strange quirks of your neighbor. You know, you have a conflict with your loved one and he is on a moral, if you will and material level - you will not be ok there, you feel it with your heart, and it is more important for him to make bad financial decisions and live like strangers. abroad. And if we take Slava's predictions about what awaits the island, in time you may bless your inner voice.
Ah, women, your inner voice is usually a voice of fear and indecision! And my great love thought so 15 years ago and after our separation she quickly married a cattle to forget me faster. Well, don't forget me! After the fifth year of their marriage, she started drinking and beating her, but she already had two small children. I went and said that I was ready to accept her again, even with children foreign to me, but to come to me abroad. She cried so much and told me that the biggest reward for her was that I still loved her. He refused to follow me, but I hoped for some more time. Now he watches a sick drunk and works in two places to support himself. Do you think that at the moment she is up to patriotism and love for the Motherland. I am now 40 years old and I am expecting my first child. My wife is 30 years old, a wonderful Finnish woman. Everyone pays for their own indecision sooner or later.