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He Who Knows How To Wait Always Gets The Best!

By bbluvver August 12, 2020 17 answers Last updated August 12, 2020

I write to all the girls and boys who can't wait; D And they want to do it just out of curiosity. I want to tell you it's not worth it! I used to be crazy about this, I wanted so badly to lose my virginity and see what it was. All I wanted was sex, not a relationship, not a boyfriend, not love, just sex. So ... I registered on a dating site and there I came across a boy who turned out to be from my city. I had no intention of going out with anyone on this site, I just wanted to have fun, but he was quite insistent and we finally met for coffee. Then he continued to annoy and we went out a few times, after a while we left. I saw nothing in him but the fact that he was experienced and that excited me. We kept pushing everywhere, and it was so good for me, even more so, that I was hiding from ours and I knew I was doing something wrong excited me a hell of a lot. We had only been walking for a few months when we did.

I felt good then, yes, it wasn't very nice, but I had sex just now! Now, however, my memories of that moment are far from pleasant. I even feel cheap and insignificant after so easily letting go of a boy I met online. Even more so from the fact that he laid an old and dirty sheet under me because he was worried about getting dirty. While we were doing it, I was dying in pain and pushing him, trying to tell him I wanted him to stop, but nothing came out of my mouth. He could see that I was not feeling well, but he kept going until he was drunk. He must have thought - it hurts, it's a big deal, it's normal ... I never fell in love with him, even though he told me he loved me. Only 3 months after we did it, the boy I always fell in love with and was secretly in love with him admitted to me that he liked me. I've been with this boy for almost 2 years now and I'm constantly thinking about how I couldn't wait a little longer.

Yes, it's true, and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would still hurt so much and I probably wouldn't like it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't put a dirty sheet under me and he would be much more careful. . I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. which I have always fallen in love with and secretly fell in love with, he admitted to me that he liked me. I've been with this boy for almost 2 years now and I'm constantly thinking about how I couldn't wait a little longer. Yes, it's true, and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would still hurt so much and I probably wouldn't like it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't put a dirty sheet under me and he would be much more careful. .

I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. which I have always fallen in love with and secretly fell in love with, he admitted to me that he liked me. I've been with this boy for almost 2 years now and I'm constantly thinking about how I couldn't wait a little longer. Yes, it's true, and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would still hurt so much and I probably wouldn't like it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't put a dirty sheet under me and would be much more careful. . I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. I've been with this boy for almost 2 years now and I'm constantly thinking about how I couldn't wait a little longer. Yes, it's true, and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would still hurt so much and I probably wouldn't like it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't put a dirty sheet under me and would be much more careful. . I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. I've been with this boy for almost 2 years now and I'm constantly thinking about how I couldn't wait a little longer. Yes, it's true, and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would still hurt so much and I probably wouldn't like it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't put a dirty sheet under me and he would be much more careful. .

I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would have hurt me so much again, and I probably wouldn't have liked it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't have put a dirty sheet under me and he would have been much more careful. I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust.

Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things. and if I had done it with him for the first time, it would have hurt me so much again, and I probably wouldn't have liked it again, but I'm sure he wouldn't have put a dirty sheet under me and he would have been much more careful. I mean, the only thing that matters when you have sex for the first time is to be with someone you love and trust. Because I'm really sorry for what I did now, the only thing that comforts me is the thought that at the time it was exactly what I wanted - sex without love and the idea of ​​doing "dirty" things.

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esea answered · August 12, 2020

   If you had done it with the one you love, you would have wondered (if not now, then in the future) what it is like to be with another, what it is like to do it without feelings, etc. There are many such topics here. Usually women always want something different from reality and are never satisfied with it. There is no pleasure and that's it.

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wanyhasrita answered · August 12, 2020

   Well, I'm an 18-year-old boy. and so far I have not had sex, I want to be special with the girl I have always dreamed of, and to love me as I am .. and not with a muffin that is sold cheaply, looking only for sex, muscles, biceps, tiles, money, cars, where he goes only to discos, and every time he gets drunk and does it with the first person he meets. And if I haven't had sex before, then the fact follows that I'm a virgin, but I DON'T CARE about what people think. –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– –––––––––– I was dating a girl that day and she asked me if I had ever had sex, I said no. Then he asks me how old am I? I answered 18. And her next sentence was, "AHAHAHAHAHAHAH 18 years old virgin." Then I thought, what is "strange," "wonderful," "amazing," "funny." something that I'm a virgin at 18, and why do people laugh at that? Do they brag in any way? Or do we virgins regret that we didn't experience the "amazing feeling" in bed? –––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– –––––––––––

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nikkyylondonn answered · August 12, 2020

   I am a boy of 21 and I am a virgin. Well done to the author for what she wrote!

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mimibabygirl answered · August 12, 2020

   He who "knows how to wait" FAILS TO COLLECT LIFE EXPERIENCE, and even to meet the best, Inevitably misses him, because he is not at his level, and very few people are ready to endure all the horror to grab you by the hand. and yet to teach you "A" and "B" ... This shows the practice, otherwise the dreams are free ...

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psg_inside answered · August 12, 2020

   Абе донякъде е по-добре, че първият ти път е бил гаден и такъв, защото сега си с този, с когото искаш да бъдеш и наистина обичаш. При мен е нещо подобно. На 19 съм, почти 20. Малко преди да стана на 18 го направих с едно момче, с което излизахме в обща компания. Имаше симпатии, повече от него към мен, но и мен ми беше забавно с него. Бяхме се събрали една вечер и двамата знаехме, че ще го направим, и двамата знаехме и че е само за този път. При мен обаче той специално беше направил спалнята за нас, яка спалня, завивки т. н. , но това не е толкова важно. Имах възможности да му откажа, но не го направих горе-долу от глупост, но причината е, че не исках на тези години вече да съм девствена, не ми е непознат все пак чак вчера да съм го срещнала, а и защото исках момчето, с което наистина ще ходя сериозно да не ни е гадно пъряият път като го правим, смисъл кръв, болка т. н.. И знаете ли какво се случи? Направихме го с този, за когото разказах, той после ми викаше да повторим, но му отказах вече. Аз го исках колкото да не съм девствена вече. И след няколко месеца мой близък приятел ми разкри чувствата си и аз му отвърнах и сега сме вече почти година и половина заедно. Казвала съм му за онзи и защо съм го направила. Той ме разбира, разбира се щеше да се радва да ми е първият, но то с онзи беше само 1 път и колкото да не съм девствена вече и да съм минала гадното, та със сегашното ми момче да сме направо на хубавата част и аз него си го считам за първият ми. Донякъде се радвам, че съм била с този. Видях какво е да го правиш без чувства - ужасно, хич не ми хареса. А с това момче сега сексът ни е невероятен (не искам да ставам досадна, но е така). Отвътре изгаряш от желание да направиш нещо секси, мръснишко за него, защото го обичаш и знаеш, че ще го зарадваш много, а с всеки друг би ме било ужасно срам, няма да мога да се отпусна просто защото това е той именно всичко е супер. Толкова е страхотно всичко, че поне няма да си мисля ако той наистина ми беше първият какво ли щеше да е да съм с друг и т. н.. И преди онзи съм имала предложения, но не бях готова за това още. И наистина момичета, които все още не сте го правили : Направете го когато се чувствате готови за това, не само защото всички го правят, и по-важното - с човек, за когото ви е грижа и когото го е грижа за вас, а не с някой случаен и по някакъв долнопробен начин, защото първият път наистина се помни винаги. Нека имате горе-долу хубав спомен за това. Горе-долу, защото не съм чула досега при някоя първият път да е хубав, защото просто не е приятно заради болката и възможната поява на кръв. При мен нямаше много, само малко. Но ще бъде хубав въпреки всичко, защото ще е с някой, който ви обича и когото вие обичате :)

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wickes answered · August 13, 2020

   The woman is still dissatisfied, no matter what happens. Pr0cK

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kris_pis1 answered · August 13, 2020

   From the author To 1. and 6. Yes, I really think you are right. Now that I have experience with a boy I am not in love with and a boy I am crazy about, I know that I will not repeat my mistake again, because when there is love I like sex much more. But I don't agree that it's worth going through the bad part with someone else and then straight to the nice part with the boy you love. And number 5. I don't understand what you mean by saying that no one will enjoy teaching you A and B. If you really love who cares, have you done it and how much experience do you have, and I am left with the impression that most boys like to be a girl's first. For example, my friend was disappointed that he wouldn't be my first, I don't know why, but he thought I was still a child. And I think its title is very appropriate to me, personally for my story; Yes, I think so, and this is also important, not to be guided by others and the choice to be our own. Because we want it, not because everyone else is already doing it or because our partner is pressuring us.

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jackgospel answered · August 13, 2020

   Boy, 21, virgin. I completely agree with number 5. I'm very sorry that I'm such a sleeping bastard. I had many opportunities, but I wasted them all because I'm mega capricious. And what happened - who chooses ... you know the rest. For me, things are like this - up to 27-28 VERY sex, then a serious girlfriend. And if you are still together until 32-33 and you have the opportunity to have a child. As I am 21 and as it turned out, I may not have the opportunity for a long time and what should I do? My biggest mistake was waiting. No waiting! If I could go back in time, I would do it with every one I had the opportunity. If you don't make a living on time, you will have to catch up, and it is very likely that you are already committed and it becomes unpleasant. That's why my advice is - great sex.

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elianarosa answered · August 14, 2020

   but my first time with my wife caused a hell of a psychological breakdown. You have to be very careful the first time. I was 18 then .. now I'm 23. My 16-year-old friend lost her virginity with a boy she dated for 2 years, but he was a hell of a cripple and then she didn't think about sex for 2 years.

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rachwinwong answered · August 14, 2020

   Thank you for saying what is right! But to know that in the future you will have problems when they come, not to wonder where they are from and not to whine, but to know the reason.

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missjadejolie answered · August 15, 2020

   I am №5. I don't mean "A" and "B" in terms of sex at all, although there is some significance there as well. He means in the maturity of human relations. It is always obvious when a person is a boy and inexperienced - he gets nervous about some things, he is afraid of others because he has no experience, he makes an elephant out of a fly, etc. Sometimes it is extremely unpleasant for someone to learn their lessons from scratch at your expense! With all his dramas, WITH ACCUSATIONS and doubts about you, because he forgot to grow up. With your childhood - abe with everything! Virgos have not gone through the fact that they have no sexual experience - this is relatively easy to catch up. Nor is their problem that they "missed" who knows how much of his life and pleasures ... it's vanity. THE MOST OF THAT THEY FAIL TO GET EXPERIENCE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE OTHER SEX, and with people in general. They fail to learn a mature and serious relationship - to be wise, patient, not to dramatize, to sift the grain from the chaff. Succeeds in life who pushes in the slaps - in learning, in business, in love, in sex ... Succeeds the one who TRY, MISTAKES, ANALYZES AND TRY AGAIN, not the one who stands aside and just watches as pissed geranium ... Have you heard that someone got rich and waited all his life, and in the end millions poured on his head? Or has someone succeeded in some field - science, business, politics, while "waiting for the best"? Absolute nonsense! This is a pathetic excuse for LOSERS. So the title can be paraphrased: "The one who always waits at the end gets the biggest ..., and in the meantime he has forgotten to learn a number of important things about life ..." They fail to learn a mature and serious relationship - to be wise, patient, not to dramatize, to sift the grain from the chaff. Succeeds in life who pushes in the slaps - in learning, in business, in love, in sex ... Succeeds the one who TRY, MISTAKES, ANALYZES AND TRY AGAIN, not the one who stands aside and just watches as pissed geranium ... Have you heard that someone got rich and waited all his life, and in the end millions poured on his head? Or has someone succeeded in any field - science, business, politics, while "waiting for the best"? Absolute nonsense! This is a pathetic excuse for LOSERS. So the title can be paraphrased: "The one who always waits at the end gets the biggest ..., and in the meantime he has forgotten to learn a number of important things about life ..." They fail to learn a mature and serious relationship - to be wise, patient, not to dramatize, to sift the grain from the chaff. Succeeds in life who pushes in the slaps - in learning, in business, in love, in sex ... Succeeds the one who TRY, MISTAKES, ANALYZES AND TRY AGAIN, not the one who stands aside and just watches as pissed geranium ... Have you heard that someone got rich and waited all his life, and in the end millions poured on his head? Or has someone succeeded in any field - science, business, politics, while "waiting for the best"? Absolute nonsense! This is a pathetic excuse for LOSERS. So the title can be paraphrased: "The one who always waits at the end gets the biggest ..., and in the meantime he has forgotten to learn a number of important things about life ..."

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ferrari answered · August 15, 2020

   From the author To number 5. You don't seem to understand what the topic is about. Yes, it is true that nothing is achieved in life if you sit and wait. If you are waiting for a good opportunity, you can miss it only because you did not recognize it. One must act, make mistakes, and learn from one's mistakes. But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about a very personal experience that only happens once. And with my topic I turn to everyone who thinks they miss a lot. Children do not pass with anything! There are others who have acted like me, but do not regret it. That is why I share a personal opinion and I am sure that if someone listens to me they will not regret it. I try to say that the topic is about a specific thing, not about things in life in general. And that's exactly what it's worth waiting a while for. :) So, number 5, stop criticizing my title! : Д

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itsgabrielleu answered · August 15, 2020

   I do not agree with number 5/13. The behavior you called "childhood" does not outgrow intimate partnerships, but a number of life situations in which everyone parted with their naive notions of the "ideal life." You have to wait for the best and be able to wait for it. Everything else is self-underestimation, "compliance with the situation" and other self-justifications. It is best for those who set high goals and do not lower the bar for incomplete and marginal relationships, just so that it does not remain empty and "be in the game". Good experience is built with correct, reasonable decisions, judgment of motives "for" and "against", and not in the so-called "pushing between the slaps", which is usually chaotic, reckless and downright stupid. The quiet and meek "observers" finally come out into the deep, because they cleverly wait for their turn and know when and where to strike. So the motto of the topic is correct.

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mayemusk answered · August 16, 2020

   I quite agree with 5/13. the problem of virgins is not so much in the lack of purely sexual skills, but in the lack of experience in a whole kind of relationship with the opposite sex. because these skills cannot be acquired by reading and watching movies, at least because they are strictly individual. one must find out for oneself who one is, what one wants from the relationship, what one can come to terms with and what one does not, such things. here the author has realized that dirty sex is not for her and she will not do it another time. otherwise she could have dreamed for years and when she had a family and 2 children she could be hit by the hormone and run after men. so it's not a pain to die, she's had a little negative experience, she's figured out what she doesn't want. and for the wait: see for yourself how many stories there are on the site such as "I'm a virgin at 30", "I've never had a boyfriend", "I'm alone", etc. consider for yourself whether waiting for these people has brought them anything good. and the author had no way of knowing that she would succeed with her current boyfriend, it could turn out that he was only looking for sex. so don't blame yourself so much. Well, I'm not saying to jump in bed with the first person you meet, but the truth is somewhere in the middle. F42

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globebrand answered · August 16, 2020

   Thanks №16 and thanks for the support! I have nothing to add. From 5/13, M42

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flowermoon87 answered · August 16, 2020

   To be good at sex you don't have to have sexual experience and be ... thousands of times. I only did it once before I caught a serious friend. With this first one it was really funny, it was very bad (not only on my part, on his part too), then I decided not to be so congested and I read a lot of work on the topic of interest and with my new permanent friend, with whom we left after a few months, from the first time I stunned him and still continues to be better with me every next time. He knows that I've only been with someone once before, and he's upset that everything I do is so great (I don't mean to brag). I just want to say that sex is great when there is passion, desire, not to catch someone and have him ... You even know the movements, postures, etc. if you do not have a special desire for this person, and you just for fucking, of course it won't be as good as you expect. It's not about experience, but about passion and desire :)

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shuapeck answered · August 16, 2020

   Abstinence hardens the mind and body! Through it, a person "explodes" when the time comes