Hi, I wanted to share my story with someone, and if anyone can let me give some advice. I am 27 years old and I have been living with my love for 5 years, we also have a wonderful 2 year old son. Everything between us was just wonderful, we were happy, we loved each other insanely. But a few months ago they had to operate on my father (with whom we are not on good terms) and he is currently disabled in bed. Along with these problems, I began to change imperceptibly for me. I started to get nervous, to shut myself in, and it all affected our relationship. She withdrew from me, happiness was lost, the smile on her face was lost, the magic of love was lost ... A week ago she admitted to me that she was no longer happy with me, that she missed our old way of life. And so we broke up, she lives with her parents, and I go crazy with grief in our home. Now I know where I went wrong but it seems too late. I am ready to return them to everything, I am ready to change the whole world if necessary. I can't live without her and our child. I want to get them back, but at the same time I don't want to press her. I don't know what to do, how to act.
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If you are sure that you will change and you can give her what you had before - it is not too late in any case! But only if you really want it and you're sure you won't hurt her again. I don't think what it's like to take care of a sick person, much less your own parent, it's definitely hard, but that's why you got together with this woman - to share happiness and sadness together, instead of getting nervous. and close in on yourself, share with your wife, give each other courage and strength. Otherwise, what do you gather and create children for? !!
I'm sorry to tell you, but to me she's selfish. Life is not just flowers, is it? People come together in good and evil, right? Or I'm wrong, maybe just for good. That's how it turns out. You are practically a family you have a child. You went through a difficult time, where she was then. What does it mean I'm not happy with you? Your pain is also her pain, it is logical to go through it together and overcome it, not to pack your bags, take your child and go to mom and dad. This does not solve family problems. If I were you, I would feel betrayed.
If I could, I would ask a question. Is this the first big difficulty in your relationship? Because if she is the first and she has bent down and left, even if she comes back now, it will be until the next time you find yourself in a difficult situation, she will still not be with you for support. And this whole situation only hurts the child. Children feel, even at 2, that they do not fully understand things. My advice is to think carefully about what you want, how you see the three of you in the future. And talk seriously. Living together is not just about flowers and roses, there are also difficult moments when you have to share (you may have missed it completely) and support it. Whatever you decide, success!
If she fell in love with someone else, forget to get her back. If not, then there is a chance, you just have to be sure that you can change things for the better and do everything in your power to prove it to her. Doriana
If you do not miss something in your story, I am of the opinion that married women acted selfishly. The easiest way is to leave in case of a problem. What about everything built so far? What about the child? ... I do not know. This woman is either stupid or very hurt. Think hard. Is it worth being together? !! The child remains yours and you will see him and spend time together. But if you are still determined to get it back, I don't think you lose contact with it. Call often. Because the more time passes and you are separated, the more she will get used to it without you and your presence in her life. Maybe she has suffocated, she needs to be a little alone ... But you don't back down too much. Wait for the right occasion or create one yourself, go out to a nice place, eat, relax. Don't step on it right away by talking about how you want it back. Just win it again,
I obviously didn't have much difficulty. On the one hand I understand - a young family .. she wants attention - she is a young person .. but she is selfish on the other hand. I have said this many times - it does not matter how many years I have been with someone, the situations in which the relationship has passed are important ... this could have happened in 5 years, yours. for example, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years, but for the first time it happens that he progresses financially, and since I don't know him in that light, all sorts of things go through my mind. but this is life - you never know!
Sorry to say that so directly, but I don't think she loves you. Your father is sick - for God's sake, it's normal to shut up, it's normal for tension to build up in you, it's normal to spend more time with him. And where is she and what is she doing during this time - grumbles and goes out. Do not look back! I know it's hard, but try to overcome it. She made her choice - she left you! When a woman leaves, when nothing is holding her back. Let her sit with the technician, file for divorce and find out in a civilized way how you will raise your common child. And you, look for a woman who completely wants to be with you, and not just when you take her out. Selfishness is not a manifestation of love. And proof of its complete absence. She manipulates you and obviously does it well when you're ready to change. Friend, since you love her, do you expect her to change because of you? translated into female "to walk your bagpipe" Love always brings change and development, but it is not manipulated or imposed. Instead of wondering how to get it back, think about whether you need a woman who doesn't really love you! Good luck, whatever you decide!