here is another story of mine at work. So - my colleague and I work on the same floor-to-room, it's summer, the doors are open and every time he walks down the hall he looks through my door and smiles at me. My colleague is 6 years older than me, kind, nice, smart, educated, with a high salary and his own home, hardworking - abe, in general - the man - a dream! Or, more precisely, the man I have always dreamed of! BUT, I don't know exactly what his opinion is about me - he makes some hints to me, then withdraws. From outside sources / from the colleague from his room / I learned that he has a girlfriend with whom he lives on a family basis and even together they took out a loan for an apartment. One day I asked him and he just answered that he is not married and has no children! Do me some small favors, made a very romantic gesture - went to sea and brought me sea water in a bottle. When scandals break out between me and another colleague, he is always on my side and fiercely defends me. But I don't know - whether his feelings for me are just friendly or more than friendly, I perceive him as more than a friend! To ask him directly what he thinks of me and whether he is really seriously engaged, because the others also notice the special relationship between the two and gossip and intrigue begin. Now I go on vacation and go on vacation, he promised to come on the weekend to see me in the resort where I will be. However, I do not know if he will be afraid to come. On the other hand, I'm almost 30 years old, I don't have time to wait for him - to take 2 steps forward, 1 - back. Please, is it worth a try,
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It would be nice to find out about his intentions, because this with the bound waters is only a waste of time!
Wait for him to see if he will come to the resort, if he appears, use it while you are together to ask him indirect questions whether he is committed, how he feels, whether he has found the man of his life, etc. Keep your friendship, but also tactfully ask a little more depth, whether he has serious intentions for someone else, whether he is happy and whether he is seriously engaged. If he is seriously engaged, do not spoil your friendship with him to start an adventure that will be just wild sex and after the wave of strong desire passes, you will move away and you will lose even your good friendship. Moreover, you work together and no matter what happens between you, you have to see each other every day and somehow work together, which if you are in conflict will be almost impossible without upsetting each other. I personally, with colleagues and friends, would not risk embarking on adventures, but it depends on the person. People say that where you get your bread, you should not get other things because things get much more complicated. You can't make it up on your own unless you ask him tactfully, starting a conversation from afar about his intentions, and so on. Don't overconfidence, he's a man after all, and if he senses that you've stumbled on him, he won't forgive you and pass you by, and then he'll back off after he achieves his goal. Men are ready to say anything until you sleep together, then the game turns. We have already read books about them, and then we women go after them, because of sentimentality, emotions and feelings, which is a colossal mistake in women's tactics, in my opinion. If someone wants to be with you, they will find a way, if not, they will find excuses. I wish you success!
Really study things. I had a similar colleague - supposedly engaged, loans, housing with his girlfriend, and he had no problem going where he wanted and sleeping where, what, because his girlfriend lives in London. A lot of girls lied.