Hello. I'm a 21-year-old girl. 1st year student see I have a big problem that is tormenting and oppressing me more and more. I haven't had sex with anyone yet. Over the years, I had the opportunity, but the fear was greater. I'm afraid that even if I find someone, he'll dump me and not want to be with me. Otherwise I am very sociable, cheerful and I go out all the time. I don't stop, but when I think about it, I get depressed. Please help me .. Give me peace ...
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Well, what can I tell you, here is the opinion of a boy, I think that this should not bother you, I think you have not met the right one !!!!! When you find him, don't miss him or at least chase him :) !! Just knowing that sex is not everything
Everything with your time! ...
I have an awful lot of problems that many young people are struggling with and can't deal with. And he that I take DRUGS-HEROIN. The only thing I stopped him for was the girl of my life. One day she told me that she was leaving for VIDIN and while she was there we could not be together. And I started shaking again. And she had a boyfriend until she was in VIDIN. Please help me please. [censored]
Don't worry, it will just come when the time comes when you meet a very special person for you .... you will understand and wish for yourself ...
You are not the only one. I also haven't had sexual intercourse, I'm 20 and I'm also a first year student. If you want to do it yourself simply "when you meet a very special person for you" do not be afraid of anything - it is not a pain to die, right?
Don't worry, it's not the most important thing to do with a person you love and who loves you. Above all, you need to make sure you want it so you don't regret it later. Good luck
Fear? don't worry, it's not soap to rub ...
It's not a pain to die that you haven't had sex yet. Every thing at a time. When the time comes, it will happen. You are not the first one, you will not be the last.
I want to say just one thing - you don't have to love the person you're going to do it with for the first time, it's even better to have only a sexual attraction to him. I did so and I do not regret it at all. I was looking for a person who would know how to "give me a quality and competent start" :) That's what happened! I had many opportunities to do it with boys who "died" for me, but I wanted a teacher, not one who feared him more than me (as if he would break me :). Gone are the days when the first was for life. Take advantage of this! Success!
Honey, the first time it sucks whether he's with someone you love or not. I was 18 when I went to bed with a man for the first time and I decided to take this step only because I was tired of waiting for the prince of my dreams, and everyone wanted the same thing - sex and if you don't give it to him, he jokes. There is no such thing as a prince. Make it so that you do not regret one day when you think of that moment. Give it to yourself, not because someone wants it. But don't procrastinate, because now is the time to live and look for a man who values you as a person, not as a sexual object.
Thanks for your feedback! That is exactly what I intend to do. I'm not waiting for princes, I'm just finding a man for it and doing it, without even asking for anything in return. Thank you all for your understanding and advice!
I agree with the girl who said that the beginning is better to do it with someone for whom you do not sleep much, but just attracts you sexually. I'm 19. "They printed me out" 1 year ago. I found an experienced man (I was in another city) to do my dirty work, but I'm so cramped that I wore sanitary napkins for three days because I was bleeding. Not to mention that after he put it in, I was covered in blood. Do not be afraid of what I am writing to you. This is an isolated case. It will hardly happen again with you. I just wanted to say that I, like you, was very scared and ashamed, and even though a lot of guys were dying for me, I chose a simpleton who was only sexually attracted to me and didn't care about him. Moreover, he was in another city and there is no way to talk about his hit. Now, not that I hate him, but I don't want to see him. So after that incident, it was a bit of a trauma for me, but nothing had to happen sooner or later. I haven't been with anyone. They just opened me up and then I didn't want another one ... Until I found an experienced, quite sexy man. I was still scared. I didn't want to give myself to him. I went with him for half a year or more without letting him go, but he, although not patient, waited for me for a day, while he himself did not expect, so I decided to give it a try. I told him I didn't have sex, I just wasn't a virgin. He was very surprised, but I explained to him what had happened and he knew what to expect. We did it a week and a half ago. I said I was very tight and I bled again, but less. He was afraid he had hurt me. What's more, I was so scared, again, and I backed away, and he went crazy for fear of losing me because of it, that he caused me pain. I didn't call him for a week, shut him up, or talk to him a lot. But in the end I passed. We did it for the second time three days ago. The only thing that worries me is that I'm not experienced, I don't know what to do. It's good that he guides me, teaches me and calms me down. And I don't reach orgasm. Well, girl, that's how far my experience goes. I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Don't you always reach orgasm the first time? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! I shut him up or didn't talk much. But in the end I passed. We did it for the second time three days ago. The only thing that worries me is that I'm not experienced, I don't know what to do. It's good that he guides me, teaches me and calms me down. And I don't reach orgasm. Well, girl, that's how far my experience goes. I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! I shut him up or didn't talk much. But in the end I passed. We did it for the second time three days ago. The only thing that worries me is that I'm not experienced, I don't know what to do. It's good that he guides me, teaches me and calms me down. And I don't reach orgasm. Well, girl, that's how far my experience goes. I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! The only thing that worries me is that I'm not experienced, I don't know what to do. It's good that he guides me, teaches me and calms me down. And I don't reach orgasm. Well, girl, that's how far my experience goes. I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! The only thing that worries me is that I'm not experienced, I don't know what to do. It's good that he guides me, teaches me and calms me down. And I don't reach orgasm. Well, girl, that's how far my experience goes. I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!! I am one step ahead of you, but you will catch up with me quickly. Now, a question from me too. Is it not always the first time you reach orgasm? And something else. He does not use condoms. The second time, I was brave enough to tell him I wanted to, but the condom slipped. I do not want to drink contraceptives! How to protect myself? It does not end in me, but I am afraid, because I know that a little semen can be released before the full evacuation ... Advise me something, please!:)) !!!!!!!!!
You all have sex because it's fashion! And because it's fashionable, you do it without being ready! You don't understand anything - only inside - outside and then - "Hurray, I'm not a virgin !. Yes, but you can't deliver real pleasure to your partner - you just think that at once you are already a lot of things! just something with a hole or something with a growth!
You know, I want to share something with you. I'm 19 and I've already done it - it's been a while, but I want to tell you that when you find the right one, you won't worry, you can't say that there is a man who is 100% suitable, but theoretically you need to feel good, to be able to predispose the boy to you. There are a lot of guys who put a lot of feeling into this when they find out you're a virgin, but that's not a criterion. Honey, you need to find the person who makes you goosebumps with one touch, knows what to do to make you feel comfortable and happy, and most of all, he needs to understand you. So do not worry, if you love the person, the pain is small, therefore, I wish you fell asleep and be confident in your actions!
13) Thank you very much for the surroundings, I will keep that in mind. I know, however, that each organism is strictly individual, and as for that, I have not done it myself, but I think so now, because I know I want it. thank you for the comments, everyone!
Calm down, I'm a 20-year-old boy and I haven't had sex yet ... I'm not ugly, I was a model until recently. The problem is that I just haven't come across the right one. I've had opportunities and not a few, I just want my first time to be with a girl I really love, not some bloated doll;)
sex makes things more complicated!
Be sure that you will be happy to be a child !!! PS: "What do polar bears and childhood females have in common? Both individuals are extinct."
try there is nothing to lose you are already mature enough I tell you from personal experience I did it when I was 15 and I don't care about anything anymore except that I can't stand without sex
God! yes i have your problems! what's so great about being a virgin ... you like your boy, he likes you and you do it ... and you're dying for fun: D it's important how you're set up ...