Hi ... I'm a 20 year old girl. I soon ended my 5 year relationship with the man I loved very much and still love because I cheated on him. We have been together since we were children and he is my first love as I am his. Over the years we became like brother and sister, sex did not work, there was no thrill, quarrels and his parents always sat between us until at one point a boy appeared who attracted me as much as I attracted him .... unfortunately only once, he no longer shows much interest in me and this hurts me mentally ... It hurts me a lot that I failed my relationship, but I can't live only with love without thrill, respect and terrible sex ... but I still love him and I don't know what do i do ... even if i come back i won't be happy if i'm had such a passion with this guy i'm really attracted to,
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Exhausted connections are doomed. You will cheat again in time. Put an end to it.
Do not regret the first. You don't love him. You will find another, but not long after and the thrill will pass. I am 100% sure of that. The truth is that people get bored. Some will deny it, but only because they are afraid of the salty truth. I don't think it's natural to be with one for a long time. Yes, there are those who have been together for 20 years, but they have already numb souls. The fear of loneliness keeps them together. In time you will understand it. I know it sounds weird, but you always have to look for that thrill, but it costs a lot of time, and time nowadays costs money. People are aware of this and choose a routine and try to pretend to be well, but their souls cry! Over time, one gets used to this role and ... tries to live! If you manage to play your role well, you will be an honest person in the eyes of society. Many people can't stand it and start infidelities, quarrels, etc. Not to mention the haters. And it is precisely these haters who are the cowards. And they envy others who fall in love and live truly. That's how little Life is sex, passion, love and a little money! Philip 36
The boy is drawn by mistrust and fear that something might catch you and you can continue your long-term relationship. You often cheat on someone briefly and fight with them again. It has happened to me twice to entertain such young ladies. Both were bored and looking for diversity, but they were economically dependent on their friends. I am against infidelity and I think that if a relationship loses its thrill and gets bored, there is no need to continue. Believe me, if it doesn't happen to the one you're pulling, it will happen to someone else in time. And it's not fair to your longtime boyfriend. There is no attraction between you. In fact, I have noticed it between a lot of relationships. I get on the bus and some boy and girl cuddle and the girl stares at me dreamily. Follow your instincts, not your interests.
You can't go back - it's not fair to your longtime friend. If he calls you, discuss everything honestly, but if one woman sleeps with another, it is very difficult to forget, and erodes the relationship. This is what happens when you think that sexual intercourse is something invariable in a relationship ... That's why people used to sleep together only after marriage. Otherwise they become unimaginable porridges. Accept things, and try to move forward, making the appropriate serious conclusion.
The second man got what he wanted and lost interest in it. If you keep looking for him, you will become annoying to him and you will completely catch his eye. And if the thrill is gone with your ex-boyfriend, you better not bother to get back together, because even if you do, you will never be happy together. From personal experience I tell you that if there was infidelity, it will always, every day stand between you, even if you do not talk about it and pretend that you forgot. In my opinion, it is best to start fresh. It will not be easy for you, considering that you have been in a relationship since you were a child, but it will be useful for you to be alone for a while and organize your thoughts. And when you meet the right person, be ready for it and be aware of your thoughts and feelings.
I don't know about your friend, but I would break your head without blinking, because I personally do not tolerate infidelity and I hate them with all my heart. I can't just leave before I smash your face, no matter you're a girl.
Hi, I've been in a similar situation. I know what it's like to have the most appropriate, kind and serious person standing next to you and to draw you somewhere else ... And now I'm still with this person. The advice I can give you is never to put on the thrill! It comes and goes ... bet on respect, on a stable person. There will always be rays in the boring everyday life. You will always find something to laugh at, something to smile at. Bet on a solid foundation. True love is not the thrill. It is care and compassion. Love is passion. Love ... is known to very few people. :)
Once you've slept with the new one, you're unlikely to turn it into a relationship. There is a saying "If you take milk without money why take the cow." If he has not invested time, energy .. he will not give his best for a girl he has already slept with ... you must be very impressive in bed and not to be obsessed with it. And the other connection ... is just worn out. There's a chance you'll make things right if she doesn't know about the infidelity, but I don't think you want to keep the relationship going. In my opinion, let yourself recover from the old relationship ... from each other if you jump you can hurry up and hurt yourself more.
You forget the mold and the macho, you live your life without drama and remorse and you wait for such a moment of burning passion and selfless love. The other is routine and miserable existence.
If a man forgives infidelity and still loves his chick, then he is a very serious loser.
And one answer to number 8. The logic in nature is to attract individuals. And this is not a law that we have to obey, but an instinctive feeling, opposing it is a purely unnatural process. Enough of this nonsense about stability and sound foundations, since it is obvious that nothing is stable to lead to infidelity. Such connections are doomed! The author is one of the millions of girls around the world with such a failure. The former dumped me because of a boy who was older than her and was a security guard 600 leva and did not have a driver's license, lived with his mother, and I settled in a company for 1200 and even live alone for rent! When we broke up, everything was clear to me. She liked him because he attracted her physically, sexually and visually, even though we had a lot of happy moments, but here, that radiation and attraction play a great role, and instincts already work here. It has always been so and it will always be so. My theory is that individuals should be attracted, only then will there be no infidelity. :)
Just to let you know that the new one is not interested, but the reason is not that you are leaving a serious relationship. Otherwise, both are probably not for you. I don't know, you know best. But you don't have to be with someone just to be in a relationship. You can stand alone. g
Number 12 I agree with you. But by your logic, I should have changed 5 women by the time I got to the store. The same goes for the woman. These instincts and passions must be controlled. We are humans we are not animals. But people get bored. And that's very naughty.
From 12 to 14, you're exaggerating a bit. I'm just trying to say that a relationship without attraction is doomed. You may like 10 women on the way to the store, but it is not known if each of them will like you. I'm talking about mutual attraction. It's clear that when you get married you'll see five times cooler than your wife, but will there be chemistry between you and any of the chicks, remember? All I know is that my ex has been with him for a year now, just because she's attracted and they fit in bed. Author, you will cheat many more times! Stop this farce and move on.