I have a serious problem. I changed 3 schools, but in all 3 they didn't like me very much, even at all. In the third school I have already taken "tactics" to behave like them, not to give my opinion anywhere. Ok, everything was fine until one "wonderful" day I started to give my opinion and to stop behaving like them to some extent. But here's the problem, after a while they started teasing me, insulting me and being arrogant with me. In principle, I like people like me to love school, to be good, not to gossip and not to be hypocrites, but such girls in my class are rarely only 2. I contact both them and those who offend me. I don't want to disturb anyone, just when I started behaving like a good and exemplary student, they started insulting me and just behaving very badly with me. However, I do not know why I am in contact with everyone, even those who hurt me mentally. I want to be liked, but I don't know how to do that. The worst thing happens when I negotiate my lesson an hour ago, then they start calling me "toothpick" and all sorts of things, and when I'm in the company of boys (it's a particle) and I go home to the classroom it starts "you are boyfriends" and so on. I don't like it, I don't know if the problem is in me or they just aren't used to a studious, good girl who likes to be in the company of boys more. Please help me do not know what to do, and I want to have friends. :( then they start calling me "toothpick" and all sorts of things, and when I'm in the company of boys (it's a particle) and I go back to the classroom it starts "you're boyfriends", etc. I don't like it I don't know Is there a problem in me or are they just not used to a studious, good girl who likes to be in the company of boys more. Please help me do not know what to do, and I want to have friends. :( then they start calling me "toothpick" and all sorts of things, and when I'm in the company of boys (it's a particle) and I go home to the classroom it starts "you are boyfriends", etc. I don't like it I don't know Is there a problem in me or are they just not used to a studious, good girl who likes to be in the company of boys more. Please help me do not know what to do, and I want to have friends. :(
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Hello. I have 1 question and has it tried to behave naturally in the sense of not imitating someone. And as far as friends you can't have 100 friends for example. True friends can be 3-4 people, and the others are just good acquaintances or acquaintances. And let me ask you how old you are, that these girls call you "you are boyfriends" when you are in the company of boys (I think only girls around 10-11 years old behave like that). Again, I tell you to act like yourself, watch your teaching, and don't worry about these tales like "toothpick" and "you're boyfriends."
Honey, there was a girl in my class with the same problem as you. Talk to them, ask them what irritates them in you and why they behave like that, when they answer you just correct yourself if it doesn't violate your principles. Constructive criticism is useful.
Hey, don't get so attached to your stupid classmates !!! What I can give you as a recommendation comes from my personal experience in this regard. I also changed a few schools (there were probably 5), but we just moved often, and I also changed my desires about what I wanted to study. So, like you, I thought it was right to learn my lessons, and to some extent I even enjoyed it, but in all the schools I went to, I was, so to speak, the leader of the class, you know, the one around whom everyone gathers and whose seeking approval. How's it going, just don't flaunt your attitude to the lessons, why you have to negotiate an hour ago, you've read things like that at home. Otherwise, what can I tell you, I think you're on the right track, because those of my classmates who "didn't bump" are nowhere, they have not achieved anything in any aspect, until those who gave themselves a little more effort .......... Here I am studying law at Sofia University, I also graduated in Social Affairs there, I have a wonderful person next to me and everything in my life is ok. You predict who and the loser, live with the confidence that you have taken the steeper road, but at least you will get somewhere !!! Success!
Watch yourself and be yourself. You can learn to be called a "bison" but that will be in your favor, I think. It seems that you are about to graduate and this study of yours will be rewarded. The important thing is that you like yourself, not someone else. Don't look to please someone else to fail yourself. Good luck:))
Let me tell you, a year ago, quite by accident, a girl and I got into trouble with a teacher and he is 3 years older than me, and now we are best friends. I want to tell you that from a fight enmity, etc. we became very good friends. We got along, I asked, and we started talking to each other more often on Skype and writing to each other. She tells me a secret, I started helping each other, and that's how it turned out. The difference in age is not small. Therefore, if you want to follow my example, try to be with others for better and for worse, because as you are with them, so will they be with you. I hope I helped you with something.
These things like "toothpick", "you are boyfriends" do not affect you at all in this way, your classmates show that they have not grown up yet, and you do the exact opposite, you show that you are already a big person and responsible for yourself in some way way. Whether it's learning or having a friend or something. Success !
Oh, don't pay any attention to the hints like "zubarka" - since you yourself know that you are not like that, what do you care what others think? True, if you were friends or relatives, you would be interested, but obviously these girls are painfully simple and limited ... and envious (: And for boys - I have a girlfriend who prefers to hang out with boys. The only advice I can give you is to keep hanging out with them, they obviously deserve your friendship. And the girls in your class are simply envious of the ease with which you communicate with them ... You can also try jokes like "And if we are like that - what of it?" (: Closes your mouth, especially if it's calm and cool. You don't have to like the girls in your class,
I was like you and it was very difficult for me, but trying to talk to them can help
Don't worry, I don't have a pretty girl myself, if you want to write, I can make friends
People write on skype; sonya_lin and I have the same problem. I will be happy to meet someone like me who is looking for friends. ; ->
Hi, I have the same problem ... almost the same. 4-5 girls in my class are constantly looking for an opportunity to pick on me. And when I go to class I don't look at them or communicate with them and yet at least 1-2 times a week they pick on me openly, and at other times not so openly ... I try to ignore them, but I can't to put up with someone talking nonsense to me ... You know ... and paying attention to them and not paying attention to them, they are like that - limited and brainless ... leave them and don't try to like them - it's not worth it !! Be yourself and let them realize for themselves what shivers are;)