Hello! I am 35 years old, I have an 11-year-old son who has been living with his mother (divorced) for 8 years. It must be banal, but things didn't work out. Since I got divorced, I started ... in the sense: - good job - good income - friends ... parties, driving a nice car, dressing in expensive clothes. Seen from the side, I am envious, but it is not exactly as it seems !!! I've been alone for a long time, not that I have no one to sleep with, but I just have no one to hold on to! It's all my fault, I'm not perfect, but I always want the person next to me !! To be beautiful, to dress well, to be ... just perfect. I don't care if I'm divorced or not, a Bulgarian or a gypsy, 20 or 40. I don't know why I became one? And most of all, I don't know what to do ... I'm tired of wanting to have a person next to me to hold on to, and he wants me. Hey people give me advice on how to change because I realize that I'm doing it myself to be in this situation? !!
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There is no way to be a perfect friend! Compromise saves things, but it is true that there are compromises that cannot be made at any cost. Don't flaunt money and cars, be yourself. Be a man!
Write the above on another site - for example, for dating. There are passengers for each train, but you have to specify your requirements. Otherwise - find hobbies, go dancing (salsa is modern) - there are no gentlemen. You can also look for a Russian woman or a similar woman. They value men like you very much. I have such girlfriends, they are good housewives and mothers, they carry their husbands in their arms because they know misery, paint.
I would like to give you some advice. You say you want to change. I guess your criteria have risen because you yourself have tried very hard to have what most people aspire to - a good income, a nice car and expensive clothes. I also guess that has made you colder (I guess), more arrogant and uncompromising. If you are looking for a beautiful woman who loves herself well, you will not have any problems. Bulgarian women are beautiful women. But if you want to keep one you have to? show what kind of person you are (I support N1). Choose your object of desire and make her see you from the inside. There is always someone who interests you. Make her feel special and close to you. Arm yourself with patience. I wish you success! I don't know anything else.
As far as I understand, the author's problem is not that he can't find a wife, but that he has too high expectations of her. Then he is inevitably disappointed, left alone and looks for the next one and so on ... By demonstrating a high standard (money, cars, clothes) you most likely attract women like gold diggers, who in general do nothing but look and have sex. can offer. Although your requirements for perfection "to be beautiful and to dress well" are quite superficial, in my opinion this is obviously not enough to feel good with such a woman. I think that if you change your criteria for the woman you are looking for, ie to introduce a little intellectual and personal characteristics, and not just a vision, you will find that an interesting, smart and capable woman is preferable to an empty-headed beauty.
After all, any ugly duckling can turn into a beautiful swan. Give a chance to ordinary and smart girls who know how to love and give themselves to the end!