Hello! I am 33 years old - we have known this man for 5-6 years. We have common company and friends, we ourselves are good friends - we share both good and bad, I rely on him in many ways. Initially, it all started as a joke - my friend was constantly attacking him, and to get rid of her - we demonstrated "rapprochement". I had a "serious" friend at the time, whom I later married. Anyway, my marriage failed, we don't have children and who knows what commitments to each other, we just haven't legally formed the separation. But the story is about my "friend". During the game, my girlfriend and I became even closer, I discovered that he is a very gentle and vulnerable person and there are many things that I admire. The result after these years is - we see each other 1-2 times a day, and then we spend a lot of time online together. We go on trips with friends, with my colleagues - my job is such that I have the opportunity to travel to quite interesting places in Bulgaria and I can take companions with me. In general, our relationship is deepening. But what really worries me is that he shows no sexual interest in me. We slept together in one room, in one bed even, he had the opportunity to invite me to his territory or when visiting my home - he always behaves gentlemanly and nothing more. I provoked him on purpose - but no. I know him well, he has no other relationship and he is a completely normal man with all his aspirations. I myself am an attractive, desirable and very sexual woman and this situation torments me. And I dare not raise the issue directly, I'm afraid that it can ruin our good friendship, which I hold dear. Help me - how to get out of this situation
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She may perceive you as a sister, otherwise I don't see what else could be
Talk to him, you have nothing to fear. There must still be some reason for his behavior. Good luck, darling!
Yes, man has morals.
The risk is lowest if you start the conversation as a joke. For example - Until now I perceived you as a brother, but I started dreaming of you sexually ...
How old is he?
There is no sibling relationship between a man and a woman, unless they have a blood relationship. The theory "you only perceive yourself as a friend" is not valid. He is afraid to attack. Be more aggressive. Alcohol is a great helper. Haven't you gotten drunk at least once in 5-6 years ... act! I wish you success!
At №5 - almost 40
Show yourself naked and you will be attacked 100% Alcohol helps, but my version always works :)
You have nothing to fear. He pressed accidentally and kissed him. The other is easy. Happy Holidays!
He may be confused, so show him your sexual intentions ... invite him to a romantic dinner at your place, drink well and then predispose him to sexual activity ... dress in a sexy way, show your thighs, bare neckline and so on. is a man would not refuse the charms of women .. just act
If you want, send me your contact details by e-mail so that we can talk. I am a woman who has almost the same problems as yours. [email protected]
Well, very clear - the man is gay! After he didn't want your girlfriend, and now he doesn't pay sexual attention to you either. He may be impotent or you may be very ugly with your girlfriend
Towards №13 - Neither I nor my girlfriend is ugly. Quite simply, she is the boyfriend of his friend and colleague, and I'm not worried about whether men like me - I have a lot of evidence of how I influence them. Naturally, these are the ones that interested me, I don't like flirting left and right because of sports. As for his sexual orientation - I do not think anything points in this direction of his behavior.
If you haven't succeeded so far, I wonder how it will happen ...
You're not his type. Just because you're a pretty woman (or so you think) doesn't mean all men will fall for you. Love does not come only because of physical data. And something worries me about your recent marital status with a failed marriage. I don't know why I think the man has judged his goods well and doesn't want to have anything to do with you.
Well, it's not quite normal! Isn't he gay?
One time he has you as a sister and the second time if you told him bad things about previous men you were with (for example with your ex-husband) and he is so moral, then imagine what you will talk about him in time. He may also like your current friendship and not want to ruin it by becoming intimate and failing. Or he may be worried that you're not divorced yet, that you think it's just a formality.
I'm a man and I have to tell you that he sees you as a friend and is unlikely to ask for anything more
A neighboring nation has a similar popular expression "friend, friend-half inside" I find something wrong given that he is a starving mature man at 40 and such a distance .... And I can only imagine with what wet and pleading eyes you look at him and he without adequate reaction even in the form of a joke. I know such people, but obviously the problem is in their childhood if it is not a diagnosis. One came across an active but ugly one and married him. They have been very happy for 15 years now.
You may not know him as well as you think. Maybe he just doesn't like you enough, maybe he's not in love with you. That is, if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. You can try to get closer, but you have to accept every possible outcome.
Hello! I wanted to tell you how the story went - I listened to your advice and "attacked" him - it just turned out that there were problems in the intimate area. And now I'm wondering what to do - whether to pretend to be a "therapist" or dump him. As people have said - Be careful what you wish for, it's like it happens, you no longer know if you really wanted it.
.... 5-6 years of acquaintance, for some time appetite for sex ...... your initiative in this area followed or grew into disappointment for you, revealing about it-don't you think you're just burying it.Conclusion-you lose time, do you win the disappointment? seeks support (understanding) wins self-disclosure and humiliation ......
to №23 - I'm not a slut, nor do I want to end our relationship. And the last thing I would do is hurt or humiliate him. I just want a full relationship, and why not children. Ie I think these are things I can't find in this man.
What is his problem that cannot be solved.
ha, the man owns: MORALS !!
Number 26 - What do you mean? What does MORALS mean !! sell you. Most likely, the man was worried not to talk even more that they were company, and the gossip would spread immediately. She will tell her friend, boyfriend's friend, etc. and in the end the whole city will know.
I am not convinced that the issue is a matter of morality or concern. Rather, things have taken an even worse turn, and why don't you think that he really likes her and knowing what the real situation is with his health, he could not satisfy her and she will not be 100% happy with him. And try to save yourself and the lady extra pain and frustration. Why should a person spoil his orderly and comfortable life?
Rather, I don't think it's a matter of worrying about hurting anyone, but he just doesn't want it enough to be worth the effort. If a man wants something from a woman, he will do the impossible to have her
And how well do you know him in 5-6 years? Did you ask that question? He may have a complex or he may be gay and not want to be perceived as such. There may be sexual problems ... or he can fuck schoolgirls :) When you understand what kind of person he is, call again. Uncle Vanyo
From the author - I know him quite well, I know how his day goes, what he does in his free time. I know the people he communicates with, if he's not with me, I know where he is and I don't worry that there may be another. I just feel like he's afraid to show how much he cares about me, but hopefully it really is, not just "killing" his time with me