Hi, I'm a 17 year old boy. For several weeks, I like a girl. Two weeks ago I told her I liked her, but she told me she didn't like me. I had hurt her before, she loved me and liked me so much that she didn't do anything to contact me ... I pretended to be shocked, I ignored her because we had a fight (I haven't been with her before). We study in a school, I see her several times a day in the corridors and most of the time she doesn't greet me, while it wasn't like that before. He used to want us to go out, to share while now it's different. Every time I make her go out, she constantly finds an excuse to read. Each time she says she has a job and has been busy. Sometimes she tells the truth, but ...
When I make her talk on Skype or on the phone, she tells me she's not told she's tired, that she had someone in the room and excuses in general. He behaves a lot, "withdrawn" with me. Of course, I feel bad, I don't know if he's doing it for the sake of it before or I don't need it anymore ... Almost every time I write to her on Facebook and in general I can't. Even if she sees me, I can still keep spamming her ... I feel guilty about before ... I ignored her for nonsense ... Now she's so cold to me when I ask her if she's tired of me, she answers me like this: Oh ... enough nonsense, every time there are some such answers. Sometimes it happens that she writes me an SMS or writes to me on Facebook. I love her and I want to be with her ... To hug her, to love her, to kiss her, to go out and share ... Although she says that she doesn't like me and that she can no longer have feelings for me I keep trying ...
Give me some advice, what to do? How to give it up? Does he use me? Is he lying to me? Is there any chance we can go out and fall in love with me again? How can I make her like me again and love me like before ?? Help, PLEASE !! I can't anymore ... Thanks in advance!
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I couldn't figure out what he was only using you for ... my author was mistaken ...!
And what exactly does he use you for? The girl in plain text told you she didn't like you. He just treats you politely so you don't ruin your relationship, but he makes it clear that he doesn't want anything more.
Leave her! You can't make her be with you if she doesn't want to, and there are other girls, not just her. Forced beauty does not understand! G. 22
You hurt her emotions and you just have to apologize to her for that, but sincerely. But not on the Internet. Write to her that you want to see yourself and tell her something. If she still doesn't want you, then she really doesn't like you anymore, but even if it turns out, don't regret the apology you have to give her, because you know that you treated her badly, and you shouldn't have.
В какъв смисъл да те използва? Да те използва, значи, да и правиш услуги, примерно, а тя да не ти ги връща. Да знае, че би направил всичко за нея, а тя да се възползва, и да си те върти на малкия си пръст. Да те подвежда, че има някакви чувства, за да и свършиш някаква работа и т. н. В този смисъл на думата, едва ли те използва. Сега дали те харесва или не, е друго нещо, и то няма нищо общо с използването. Казваш, че преди те е харесвала, но ти си се държал като идиот, и си я наранил. Ами, като жена ти казвам, тя не е забравила. Вариантите са два. Или след този случай, когато си я наранил, всичките и чувства са изстинали, и тя е разбрала, че някъде там я чака друг, който ще се държи добре с нея, и ще имат взаимни чувства, и просто си аут от живота и (рядко ти пише първа, отговаря ти с една-две думи, не иска да говорите по тела. скайп и т. н. ). Другия вариант е, толкова да си я наранил, че да е останал отпечатък в съзнанието и, и сега да се държи по този начин, защото иска да ти покаже какво е да се чувстваш игнориран, пренебрегван ии незначителен за нея. Или казано с други думи, си го връща. Ти си я познаваш, ти трябва да кажеш дали е толкова злобничка и отмъстителна. И ако искаш да се бориш за нея, то тогава го направи. Не се отказвай. Дори да иска да ти го върне, тя изпитва все още чувства към теб, и вътрешно се надява на хепи енд. Бъди до нея, в трудните моменти, пиши и, звъни и, карай я да се смее, сама да иска да бъдете заедно. Защитавай я пред другите, само добро говори за нея, или изобщо нищо, пред околните. Сближи се с приятелките и, накарай ги да те харесват. Това е в голям плюс, повярвай ми. И нещата може и да се пооправят. Ако пък, не ти се занимава, оставяй я, започни на чисто с някоя друга, по която няма да хвърляш толкова усилия. Но, и се дръж на ниво с нея, не я наранявай, по никакъв начин. Не се дръж като идиот, дори и да сте скарани. Това е от мен, успех! Depravity
Author, don't be a nuisance! Accept him, you hurt her and now she doesn't want anything to do with you. So just leave her alone, because the more you write, call and try to talk to her, the more she will pull away from you and categorize you as "annoying", "sticky", etc. How would you felt if a girl you don't like at all and don't care about constantly writes to you, chases you, calls you, etc.? Well, you'll probably even hate her in the end. If you don't want to satin like that and totally make her hate you, stop harassing her !!! Instead, look for a girl who will be happy with your attention and will love you.
Apparently she's suffered a lot before and she's afraid you won't do the same to her. Another option is to really lose interest in you over time. It's best to try talking to her and sharing how you really feel, and apologize for last time. She may still have feelings for you if she hasn't cut you off completely, but she's been very affected before. But if he clearly shows you he won't, move on, no matter how hard it is.
Children's joy - colorful candies. First he ignored her, then she sobered up and continued. Where is the use? "What you have done to yourself, the Lord cannot do to you." G28
One piece of advice from me boy read the tale "The Fox and the Stork" and delved very carefully into its lesson. And she called whatever called. The fox invites the stork as a guest and fucks him, pouring him an awkward plate, then he returns it. It's the same up and down and here she liked you and you cut her off and now you're in her position and she doesn't want you anymore.
Number 8 - don't make fun of the boy so much that they will soon start calling you "Lelka" his age group.
Well, you're not 13. "I hurt her, pretended to hit her and ignored her." do not take offense, but from such an attitude such are the consequences. Relax, open up to her. You wait for her to greet you - you greet her. And if you want to write to yourself, but she doesn't want to and finds excuses, just accept that things don't work out and look around for another girl. Otherwise, they gave you good advice to ask to see you and apologize. And don't say things like "are you tired", be a little more mature.
Number 10, from number 8 - what exactly am I interested in, who will call me what? Everyone was born a baby, was a child, then a young man, a mature and an adult. Or at least that's the course of life. I will be happy for my grandmother to call me - it will mean that I have lived to old age. The important thing is to be satisfied with my life. And do you know? This does not happen when we refuse to accept that our actions have consequences. And yes - even if you get up at 50, if you don't realize it, your behavior would still be childish. So go ahead - you, others, and I still have a lot to grow. I am still far from retirement. :) Ж28
And don't you like her, precisely because now you see that you can't have her? Believe me, it often happens. Sometimes that's what makes us think that we have to be with this person, now and now! When she liked you, she wasn't interesting, she was annoying to you and you ignored her, but now things have turned around and maybe that's why you're fighting so hard for her attention - because you don't get it anymore. Anyway, if you are sure that you want to be with her, then you have to show her that you are different and ready to treat her properly. But this does not happen with constant writing and annoyance on Facebook or in the hallway, you can't hang around her neck every day and pray to her ... so you won't achieve anything. And she won't like your whining or your desperate behavior. Tell her something once and let her find it, let him have time to think a little and judge. Tell her that you will only take her 2 minutes a day and you will not bother her with anything anymore. First of all, apologize to her for before, sincerely and honestly tell her "I'm sorry"! Explain to her that you realize how badly you behaved and how you now deserve her to treat you like that. But tell her that people change and everyone deserves a second chance. You understand your mistake and are ready to correct it, as long as it wishes. Tell her that you like her very much, that you think about her, that you want to be together, but it depends on her. You will do nothing more. And up to there! You stop everything for a while, congratulate her and that's it. Let her realize a little and decide what she wants. If she still has some feelings left, she can think twice and give you a chance ... if not, you start anew with another girl, and act human,
What use? I didn't see anything like that, the girl just doesn't like you or gives it back to you. In the end, it's your own fault. If I were, that's how I would behave.