His Children Do Not Accept Me.

   One married, the other 17 ... what are these "kids" like? I basta! Get these scumbags to get along as they know how. You don't have to deal with them at all ... That they will have accusations and claims! They know so much - on the street, where they belong. Do you remember that when the "little one" lives with his mother, she "shod" him against you every day? To such FAILERS as her, someone else is always to blame for the failure - always someone else! They tend to see the straw in someone else's eye for 100 km, but in no way can they notice the BEAM in their ...

   And did you really ruin their family? How do you expect to be received then?

   In order to have what you describe, you have to achieve it. First you have to realize that his children do not see if the man was happy before or after the divorce, they do not know if their mother was happy before, they see only one thing, that their mother is currently unhappy. They do not realize whether their mother's unhappiness is due to the absence of their father, the lack of his income in her home or simply the loss of the match, the fight with you for him, they look at it from another angle, their mother is unhappy, and the woman with the three foreign children is happy. The second is good to have the support of your husband, if he does not mind going to a wedding without you, this is your problem, not theirs. And if your husband has no problem with the attitude of his children towards you, then you are not as close to him as you think and be happy with what you get now, because if you step there it is not known who will lose, you or his children. Think carefully about how you require your children to respect him and whether he demands the same from his children. Thirdly, it is good to find something with which you can be useful to them, because for now they see in you only the harm on themselves, they live with an upset and unhappy mother and they see guilt in everything, because Daddy gives money so he is innocent.

   If they broke up because of you, they will hate you forever. Just get used to this fact. And why do you want to attend his events. Either accept things as they are, or part with the person.

   You achieved your goal, you divorced this man, you have him. What more do you want? Calm down and leave it at that. Apparently you were divorced before, but you don't write anything about your ex-husband, he's obviously a bad person and that's why your children loved their new father. I also fell in love with a man and ruined both my family and his. My children categorically did not accept him and moved out to live with their father - my ex-husband, and they were boys aged 10 and 12 and the parental rights were assigned to me. Nothing helped and I couldn't bring them back to me, it was getting worse. In the end, I left things at that. And so for six years. The same thing happened with my current husband (we are not married), his children did not accept me either, and they are younger. They were then 6 and 9 years old (girls). This is the situation. You will be the whore and the slut, and you have to get used to that thought. I don't know how happy your new husband is with you and three other people's children, it's probably not true. And he suffers and will suffer for his children in the future. Apparently he gives money to support your children, and that also oppresses his ex and his biological children. At the moment, all the money my current one earns goes to his children and his ex, and he lives in my home, in fact I support him. It works so well that I just have no words. It is true that her salary is BGN 670 and she cannot watch two teenage girls with it. My ex isn't looking for me for anything, he doesn't even call me. He didn't stop me from seeing my children. They're big enough now, but I see they don't need me. Is it because they are boys, but even though they are polite, they just don't care about me. We talk to each other and that's it, even if they offer small sums, they refuse, they say they have everything, I am no longer a part of their lives. They cling to their father and that's it, but that's the way it should be after I failed! It hurts a lot, but everyone makes their own lives, and it's my fault, because I'm not the one who has to determine how others should live, just as they can't determine how I should live. I don't expect them to understand me one day. I also got used to seeing my grandchildren one day from a distance, not spending the holidays with them, being out of their lives. Now we live with the present so simply, from nowhere. This spark, this love we had, is gone. We thought that even though we hurt our halves, they would understand us and everything would go smoothly with mutual tolerance, but we forgot the most important thing, the children. When children are loved by both parents, and one wants to leave the family nest he is always a traitor, and in most cases the reaction is unequivocal. One thing I understood: in case you divorce because of love with another, and not because of physical or mental violence in the marriage, it has no ex-spouses, ex-children and no ex-family at all. The "empty nest" syndrome always remains. And what is in your imagination does not have to be in the imagination of the other. No one is obliged to live with your understanding of life, and Bulgarian society is still conservative. Good luck and accept things as they are! F46 always remains. And what is in your imagination does not have to be in the imagination of the other. No one is obliged to live with your understanding of life, and Bulgarian society is still conservative. Good luck and accept things as they are! F46 always remains. And what is in your imagination does not have to be in the imagination of the other. No one is obliged to live with your understanding of life, and Bulgarian society is still conservative. Good luck and accept things as they are! F46

   And would you allow your husband's ex-wife to participate and make decisions about important events in your children's lives? Rejoice that you have found a person to take care of you and your three children and have no other claims. You have achieved your goal! You don't know what's going on in his ex-wife's soul?

   Are you the reason their father left the family?

   And what kind of relationship do you expect to build with them after you divorce their parents? Precisely because they are older, you will not be tied to the nonsense "he is happier with me". The regular remark of every mistress. He will be happier with you until the next one comes, then everything new is more interesting. A child of parents divorced because of a mistress tells you that, and at the moment the mistress is abandoned because of a new one;)

   Number 1 is right. The mother is shod with malice and envy. What is their approval for you? And I bet she doesn't have another man and she slanders and sets the child at 17 all day ... your husband shouldn't allow that. How will they exclude you like that? Either the two or neither. The dog plays according to the stick ...

   I will repeat myself, but I do not want to be accepted as a mother. I want to have the most normal relationship with them. I also want to attend the important moments for them together with my husband, to build a family with them precisely because I know that they are his weakness. He loves me and my children, but I know very well that he is ready for anything for his boys. They are probably his greatest happiness and I would not try to fight them for him, because I know I will lose. When asked if I ruined their family, I don't feel that way, but I probably look guilty in many people's eyes. When we met, they were still not divorced, but they were not happy either. We started dating and gradually things worked out between us, we got married, lived together and we are happy. I can't say if his ex-wife is talking to her son against me, but it's probably because he's so mean to me. However, I am not affected by his mother's opinion, only his, because this boy is able to turn his father against everyone, and although he has not yet managed to turn him against me, it is not too late.

   What are these children really - one married, the other at 17, number 1, she told you correctly. When they don't want good and human communication - ignore and that's it, you have nothing to think about. A and the mother 100% adjusts them. Just try to get along well with your husband and do not deal with nonsense and lost causes - accept that not everyone can like you, especially in such a situation!

   That's why I don't deal with married men.

   If you really ruined their family, you can't expect respect from his children ....

   First, they are not children. Second, they don't need to accept you - you don't live with them. From the things your little son says to you, you can see that these are his mother's words. She sets both against you and blames you for her ruined marriage. I see that a lot of the people here are on her side, but I don't think anyone has to put up with you no matter what pig you become just because they once loved you and decided to marry you, and I don't think you you are guilty. So you don't care about these three - a woman who ruined her marriage and doesn't want to admit it, and two mother's sons. As for your husband, is he OK to go to family gatherings without you? You are his wife and he has to put things in such a way that if they want to be present, they have to swallow that you will be with him too. How hard it is to walk alone - to show you that you are not part of the family, to take him down his ex-wife, to speak against you? How does he even let them tell you this nonsense. In your place, instead of joking that the "kids" don't like me, I'll sit down and talk to my husband to set boundaries for my sons and be respectful to me or out of my life.

   Where are you pushing at all? !! He accepted you with three children, great love, great sex, a great thing. When he wants not to give back, this Don Juan to the Don Juan. Not only do you ruin a family, but you also want a friend to be with his children, to drink coffee with his wife. And a clear conscience. Well, it won't happen. Stop watching American movies.

   Now I understand from your answer what your problem is. You don't want his kids to set him against you. If you stand still and ignore them, this cannot happen, but if you want a relationship with them, this is exactly what will happen. And the next time, if someone asks you why your marriage is broken, tell them that if he loved his ex, he wouldn't even think of cheating, and that it's only his fault. And my parents are divorced because my father cheated on my mother, but now he is with another woman. I don't hate her, but if I get married I won't invite her, because I don't have any. And I don't want my mother to tell me "What is she doing here?" I wonder even why you want to. You have 3 children, look after them. Leave those alone. They can no longer even be called children. People are right about that,

   The reason is their father. You can't ruin a family if he doesn't want to. We simply cannot accept in Bulgaria that everyone has the right to choose and create their own life. My acquaintance does not keep in touch with his brother because he does not like his wife. I asked her, and if your brother says he doesn't like your husband, will you dump him? I recommend that you keep up. Do not run to cook for them, smiling .... live with your husband and that's it. The child can not judge his parents and determine who, how happy he was. If I'm in your shoes, I won't want to see them. The children are children, but in Bulgaria they are especially suffocated by the parents. Let everyone live as they want.

   Your wife's young son does not need to be angry with you at all under the pressure of his mother, ie your husband's ex. And in general such coexistences are not lined with flowers and roses. You had to be aware of everything when dealing with this person. Neither his ex has a place in the lives of your children, nor do you have a place in the lives of vegs. And stop blaming his ex-wife for not making him happy. She certainly has a scolding point of view. And, if you go to follow the advice of n. 14, your new husband will beat your penalty like nothing. Don't push yourself and don't pretend to be interesting. You don't write anything about your ex-husband? Well, if his wife wants to be a part of your children's lives, you know she's getting fat. Your husband is mature enough to judge the situation and not take you to their meetings. Get used to it, tomorrow he will have grandchildren from his sons and will rejoice. You will again insist that they be a part of your life.

   Well, children have a right to somewhere. I'm not saying you're guilty, but to them you're a complete stranger who suddenly appears in their lives and they can't get used to you, especially after you "replace" the role of their real mother. There are two options - over time they will love you, the other is never to happen, but whatever happens just do not take it so deep. It is normal to behave like that. The lion

   Don't worry, at some point they will have nowhere to go and they will get used to it, and they will accept you. Well, you probably won't become their best friend, let alone almost a mother (although these "children" are already really big and the situation is different), but a normal relationship, if you will, and you have nowhere to go. learn to maintain. My mother found out that she was living with another person when I was 23 (she lived abroad) and I was shocked to say the least. Literally at the last moment he served it to me, before I went to live with her, and it turned out to be with them ... I turned a lot against her, and also against him, I shouted at her, I insulted her, I didn't tell her for almost 4 years. and 1 word, but slowly I get used to things, and in the end I built a good relationship with both of them. I tell my story to dispel myths, that they would almost never accept you. On the contrary! They will certainly accept you at some point, even years later. As long as you manage to keep your relationship long enough, you can be sure that in the end you will have a normal relationship, but I emphasize again - without expecting to be almost your first friends. Well, there are always exceptions who never accept their parents' new partners, but in general these are a maximum of 10-15% of children. The vast majority get used to it, although sometimes (as it was in my case) it takes years. Well, there are always exceptions who never accept their parents' new partners, but in general these are a maximum of 10-15% of children. The vast majority get used to it, although sometimes (as it was in my case) it takes years. Well, there are always exceptions who never accept their parents' new partners, but in general these are a maximum of 10-15% of children. The vast majority get used to it, although sometimes (as it was in my case) it takes years.

   I hope you are still following the topic. No one has the right to judge you for what you did to your husband to make you happy. Everyone has the right to pursue their happiness as they see fit. However, this does not mean that all people affected in any way should accept your decision well. The problem with a relationship like yours is precisely in your expectations that everything will go smoothly and that all your relatives will accept you as you want them to be. This cannot happen and for this reason many relationships like yours do not survive when problems with exes and children start. The first thing you need to know is that your husband's children do not have to accept you well at all, nor does his ex-wife. You have to accept this thing and from then on try to maintain some kind of relationship, but without being intrusive. If you approach aggressively as they advise some commenters like n. 14 you can be kicked out very quickly, nor can you make him choose between you and his children. Such actions would only lead to serious problems between the two of you. You also don't need to attend your husband's ex-family reunions, I don't think you'll feel comfortable there yourself. Over time, if you don't intrude and create problems, they may still accept you and be able to maintain some normal relationship with his children. I don't think you'll feel comfortable there yourself. Over time, if you don't intrude and create problems, they may still accept you and be able to maintain some normal relationships with his children. I don't think you'll feel comfortable there yourself. Over time, if you do not intrude and do not create problems, you may still be accepted and be able to maintain some normal relationship with his children.

   You're a "break down house," woman ... That's you. When he realized that this man was married, where did you go to push him. Why didn't you leave him, don't you have a conscience? He wasn't "happy" ... bray, you're a great mother Teresa, a great comforter. We will see with you how happy he will be ... when you and his children get sad after a year. How dare you want his children to respect you, to accept you and to behave normally with you because he abandoned his children and wife because of you. What impudence, what thick-skinnedness! If I am, I will grab you by the hair and drag you outside to the trash can where you belong.