Hello! My story may get a little long, but I want to hear opinions from other people besides friends. "My friend," I write it in quotes, because I can't even call it that, but that doesn't matter in this case. I don't even know where to start. He is 27 years old. We have not seen each other so far, we write to each other, we rarely hear each other. He is a strange man in general. We have known each other for about 7 years, but we have been writing to each other almost constantly for 6-8 months. Now it's good to add that he doesn't want to see me at this stage because he was afraid of being tied down. In the summer, when we started writing to each other again, he had a problem overcoming his ex. They slept once and she dumped him afterwards. I will not specify why, it will become long and wide. Because he told me many times about the girl in question and I doubted that he could have more feelings for her. Yes. I wondered what she was talking about so much and I asked him if he could show it to me. He refused. After a few months, while I was staying at home, I decided to open his account. I saw in one photo the likes and hop! A girl with a Turkish name and because I knew she was Turkish and I immediately thought it was her. When I told him I knew who she was, he was furious. He started calling me a psychopath, I had a problem with my head, etc .. He said that digging into his profile offended him and he would block me everywhere except Skype. But we would go on as we were. Well, once you have an account somewhere and upload photos, etc., you should know that everyone has the right to view your photos and everything else. That even take them off if he decides. But anyway. He first lied to me that it was temporary, then said he would never unblock me. The other, which happened recently and is absolutely ridiculous - while we were writing to each other one night, I was very tired and just fell asleep without telling him. When I got up later, I saw that he had written to me not to write to him for the next few days, otherwise he would have blocked me because of my stupid numbers. I should have told him when I fell asleep. I was left with a blast. It happened that I was gone for 10 minutes and he still made it a problem. And this happens every time. Once, like that, I deliberately decided to keep in mind that he didn't write me that he was going to bed. I just wanted to see what he would tell me. He said he wasn't in the mood for that either. But ... of course, if I had done it, it would have been different. How can there be a person who causes a problem because of such things? And solve everything with 'blocking'? A few years ago he had agoraphobia and went to a psychologist. Is fine. Now rarely, but again goes to a psychologist to conduct some therapies, I do not know why exactly, does not share much. I can talk a lot more, but it doesn't seem to make sense. I don't know, am I wrong or is he very wrong? Do you think all this behavior is normal?
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Why are you dealing with such a person? Don't you have a little self-esteem?
His behavior is normal for himself, he was brought up patriarchal. Remember that the previous one was Turkish. He is looking for a novice partner, and pays attention to those who glorify him as a superior. I just don't understand what you do with him as a normal girl. P. Hopefully you understand he has the right to do what he wants you should do what he says and if you fall asleep ask if he can.
It's not normal, he has a big ego that you feed by doing what he wants. And yes, he has feelings for his ex for sure, don't waste your time with him.
This one is very wrong. Get away from him while you can.
From the Author to Number 2 - In fact, the opposite is true. He was not raised that way at all, let alone his parents divorced. He doesn't really believe in God either. There is another problem - porn. And that's the least. Apart from being addicted to it, there are many fetishes that cross all boundaries. You will feel bad if I go into detail. I will deviate a lot from the topic, so I think I will not delve into this problem of his, which he considers completely normal, of course.
Don't deal with such psychopaths. I'm 27, I've practiced, it doesn't lead to anything good. Keep your psyche and, if his ex is so important to him and he doesn't even let you touch her on his public Facebook profile, go to her. And you are young enough to find something better and mentally more stable.