hello, it's a little hard for me to talk about this, but I decided that maybe someone got into my situation. I was 20 years old when I met my friend a year ago and about two months later he decided to introduce me to his relatives. Before we left seriously, I warned him that I had a best friend with whom we were very close and I would not give him up for anything in the world, even if he decided to dump me for him. and so I had to stay at my boyfriend's house for a month because my mother had to travel to work, and I can't cope on my own for health reasons (rather mental) I have a panicky fear of loneliness. The first 2 weeks everything was fine his mother was really a little annoying but I had no problem with that. While one day when I was at work my friend came angry and asked us to part, the reason was that his mother decided that I was cheating on him with my best friend, I didn't clean, I didn't go to her when she called me and all sorts of other stupid fabrications he believe. After work he called me in front of them to talk and I went and we got along and got along, but when I entered the house his friend started pushing me to chase me and insulting me that I was a bitch. Nothing happened to me, didn't I? I am at home and I sit with them. he called my mother and started shouting at her to take her food and that she didn't want me in HIS house. And this is happening in front of my friend who just stood by him and was silent. My question to you is should I accuse him of not protecting me and letting me be humiliated in this way. Thank you in advance! : 3 After work he called me in front of them to talk and I went and we got along and got along, but when I entered the house his friend started pushing me to chase me and insulting me that I was a bitch. Nothing happened to me, didn't I? I am at home and I sit with them. he called my mother and started shouting at her to take her food and that she didn't want me in HIS house. And this is happening in front of my friend who just stood by him and was silent. My question to you is should I accuse him of not protecting me and letting me be humiliated in this way. Thank you in advance! : 3 After work he called me in front of them to talk and I went and we got along and got along, but when I entered the house his friend started pushing me to chase me and insulting me that I was a bitch. Nothing happened to me, didn't I? I am at home and I sit with them. he called my mother and started shouting at her to take her food and that she didn't want me in HIS house. And this is happening in front of my friend who was just standing by and silent. My question to you is should I accuse him of not protecting me and letting me be humiliated in this way. Thank you in advance! : 3 he called my mother and started shouting at her to take her food and that she didn't want me in HIS house. And this is happening in front of my friend who just stood by him and was silent. My question to you is should I accuse him of not protecting me and letting me be humiliated in this way. Thank you in advance! : 3 he called my mother and started shouting at her to take her food and that she didn't want me in HIS house. And this is happening in front of my friend who just stood by him and was silent. My question to you is should I accuse him of not protecting me and letting me be humiliated in this way. Thank you in advance! : 3
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One day your friends will not be near the grave, but you will build a family, a home and children with the person next to you. I don't think you have a best friend, but you may have shown your closeness to him too well in front of his family, and any mother would be worried. His brother's action is not an excuse, but when you grow up you will realize that both sides were not completely right. And would you have a problem if you are not the closest person to your friend, but some other girl (maybe beautiful), with whom they share a lot of interests, spends a lot of time and would not leave because of you?
To your question: of course he should have protected you. Take it from these relatives, they want the "little boy" and they would share it with everyone. My relatives pretend that I don't exist - it's super insulting for a relationship for more than 3 years. And I suffered, I was tormented - then I took 1 fuck in their minds and looked at my life. We should not be blamed for the inadequacy of relatives. I am "engaged" and my relatives treat me as if I literally do not exist. Your situation is insulting too, but since you haven't cheated, and if you have, who are they to push you? Have self-esteem and either put them in their place or act like me - these people don't seem to have them for me and I'm looking at my relationship. If they humiliate someone, it is themselves. Reward them with icy indifference - run away and watch your life together.
All you have to do is move out of this family and dump your boyfriend. And then solve your health problem. Why did you go to live with these people and not at your best friend's house? Or had he come to you? Girl, you still have a lot to learn ... good luck!
Best friend man? Em sori but also my girlfriend to hang out all day with another man and share his personal things with me and I will not be ok. You know your "best friend" wants to sleep with you? There is no such option to have a friendship between a man and a woman without one of the parties asking for something more!
Yes, he should have protected you! If you don't oppose them now and put them where they belong, your relationship has no future!
Don't just blame him - dump him! Even if he is guilty, he can't stand by and watch, he's with you, reconciled, and even if he's not with you, it's abnormal to stand and watch. There is nothing masculine in this, and his family only, if it was your problem, well, don't care, there are many of them, but he, to be silent and nothing, but to insult you, chase you, etc., is abnormal from his country! So many men on the spot, and you will deal with this one. There is no position of a man, if your family behaves like that, will you be silent and stand so indifferent? Probably not, but here you are more of a man than this guy;) He is uncharacteristic, far from such moldy sheep! Leave him, and if he wants you, to pray and take him out, because that will never happen, to stop, and this "male" will still stand silently aside! Realize and, if he is angry with you, he can't stand like that, and he gets fat first and then, he sits and watches. I have no words!
If you made them angry by not cleaning, it's normal for them to get angry. When you sit with them for 2 weeks, you have to help them a lot. You also didn't do the right thing for your boyfriend by saying how much you care about him. It's not called that. He is said to be a good friend to you and that's it. What is it that if he wants to dump you you won't dump your friend ??? You told him directly that the other was more important than him. And now you're angry that he didn't protect you. That way no man will protect you and love you unconditionally.
Never, never, never let yourself be humiliated. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will do it for you. This friend of yours is a simpleton and a mold. He may not agree with some things, but you are his boyfriend, he is the man, he must protect you! He will talk to you in private if he doesn't like something. What good is a man who is silent when he insults you? What kind of man is this? Run away from such. Don't waste your life with such mold and such simpletons. You are young, you will find someone worthy. So I wasted 10 years with one whose mother hated and constantly humiliated me. And he insulted him. And he, the idiot, stands and is silent. Do you know now how much I enjoy without them? Don't be a fool. Hold on to your dignity and don't stay where you are not valued.
to 7. In fact, I cleaned almost all the work I did. It was different in his mother's head!