His indifference kills me. He doesn't care what happens to me, where I go, who I go with, what I do. But he keeps telling me how much he loves me. Does not show a drop of jealousy, a drop of anxiety. When his friends aren't looking for him, he treats me like a princess. When they reappear, there is no time or desire for me and he distances himself. I'm tired of the tides. I have nothing against men's gatherings, but he cannot change radically for me and turn against me. I have no idea why this is happening. I think his friends want to fuck everything up. Just 1 hour outside with one of them changes his attitude radically towards me. No more "I love you", no more kind words, no more attention, no more conversations ... He starts arguing with me and shouting at me, for every word I say, he gets annoyed, doesn't pick up my phone. He isolates himself from me. Everything goes to hell. Give me advice ... How can I burn him, how can I make him care about me again, how can I make him stop humiliating me and leave me every time someone looks for him? Our relationship has never been perfect. We have been together for so long, we are young, we are constantly arguing, but we love each other. He loves me - yes, that's right, I believe him, I see him in him. It's just that the thrill is gone. And I'm the same fool in love, as if I just met him. I shudder every time, it's just that he's like ice, who loves me and is with me when his friends are gone and when the party money runs out. I'm tired of waiting and hoping for months. And when the moment finally comes when it's just for me and everything starts, I feel genuinely happy, as a small child. And again at that moment another forgotten friend of his appears, who wants to go out as a man. Then crash again ... I hope someone understands what it is like to give you hopes and then take them away from you. To give you a drop of love, and to take everything from you. I'm empty, I'm tired, I'm heavy, I'm lonely ... but I still love it so much!
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we are in the same position..everything he described to the point applies to me..such a great pain is noo I can not forget it for a moment and say the end, I do not want it..alas I can not, I suffer a lot because of him as if we have no connection and at one point everything turns pink .... for me it's like that I have to wait for him not to be confused and he just knows that I'm his and he's calm, we love I know but it weighs a lot .. and I know that if be with another I will be happier but .... (already 2 years is so)) and for you it is better to leave it and continue with another, as I nooo fail ((
I am the author. So I'm not alone. That's right - I wonder if we have a relationship or not. How can he tell me one moment that he loves me, beg for attention, suffocate me with compliments, and the next turn around and say, "I don't care how you feel," "I don't mind." "I'll do what I want" and so on. I guess it's the same with you. We are obviously in the wrong relationships and we have to go our own way with others, but I don't want to. I've had thousands of options so far, but I can't. I love him, I want my future so much with this person, I don't want to be with another. Maybe it should be a miracle to give up on this man. Heads up, darling! We will manage somehow.
Are you trying the most obvious thing - to tell him all this directly? Such tricks with attempts to arouse some jealousy are somewhere between meaningless and stupid. And they can turn against you. Kubrat
From my personal experience I will tell you that his friends have a bad influence ... You yourself say that when they are not looking for him and he is only with you, he behaves nicely, and in the next moment - he changes radically. Apparently he behaves like this to show his friends that he is a man, he is in control of the situation (men like that) and he is not a man under a slipper, and when you are alone he becomes the meek, good one ... Just talk to him and clearly asked him the question :))
It doesn't work with conversations. He doesn't let me speak or the conversation ends with "Find me another by not telling you."
And it's like that with me, he doesn't call me, he doesn't look for me, unless I look for him, his company is more important. I understand maybe men want a little space but why should they ignore us. I also think that you should talk and solve the problem without any outside interference, tell him what worries you, maybe it won't weigh you so much. If he still doesn't care, ask him to listen to you about love, you need two, and if he cares about you, he will respect your opinion and maybe do something to correct this indifference in a relationship. Friends should not interfere in your relationship.
Because women are many, true friends - that's why a little.
Number 5, so why don't you listen to his advice? It happened to me some time ago, I went to the bank with a problem, these things were pretending to be interesting, and after 15 minutes of arguing, this sheep finally said to me, "Well, if you're not happy, go to another bank," where did I go? I said I was closing the two accounts I had with them and giving me quito forms there. She widened her eyes slightly, but it was too little, too late ... Kubrat
Със мен е същото... през деня се държи отвратително заради приятелите си а вечер, когато се пребира и е сам се държи много мило с мен... искам да ме изслуша, но не ме слуша.. и аз се чудя с какво да го издразня, което не му харесва за да го предизвикам малко да се обажда да се интересува пак ли правя нещо, само така разбирам, че ме обича.. дразня го за да получа поне капчица внимание от него... когато ми звънне да ме види дали пак не правя нещо, което го дразни аз се усмихвам, но в същия момен не искам да вдигам телефона защото знам, че ще се държи отврътително и ще ми крещи и обижда... Много ме боли... преди не беше такъв изведнъж стана толкова гаден.. През деня няма "обичам те„ аз го казвам, но той не и бърза да затваря телефона... става ми толкова болно и с какъв студен тон ми говори дори и няма никой покрай него в момента... А вечер ми говори с такъв мил тон и нежно... Преди година аз го оставях да седи колкото си иска на вън и той ми се обаждаше често защото знаеше, че се притеснявам въпреки, че живее на село опасноста дебне навсякъде и аз се притеснявам. Винаги ми казваше, колко ме обича и т. н, но нямаше момичета там. Сега изведнъж се появиха някви повлекани и аз му казах "мило не искам да седиш до късно„ а той ме нападна с 1-то нещо което му хрумна, че искам да го командвам и дори да го спирам от приятелите му и от тогава се държи гадно с мен.. а уш казва, че ме познава, а дори за миг не спря и не помисли защо съм казала това... намеквах му, толко е очевидно, че само заради тях не искам да седи до късно а не заради нещо друго. Да ревнувам нормално е, но мен ме е страх, че ще го загубя заради някоя от тях.. Всички знаем какви са мъжете, само някоя да им обърне по така внимание и са вече готови и особено ако имат големи цици... забравят за всичко... от както се появиха тези, той се държи с мен като с някой боклук без дори за момент да седне и да помисли, каква е причината вместо да ме обвинява за 1-то което му хрумне.. Не знам защо си мисли, че аз искам да го командвам и спирам от приятелите му, никога не съм го правила и дори не съм си го и помисляла. Знам, че момчетата имат нужна от пространство, разбирам го и никога не съм го спирала... а сега много ме боли, защото си мисли грешното и ме пренебрегва, крещи, обижда и не иска да ме изслуша, аз да му кажа каква е причината, щом той не може да се седи въпреки, че е очевидна... моля го да ме изслуша, но той не желае.. знам, че ще ме разбере... сега има опасност да вляза в болница а на него не му пука и дори не си правя труда да му казвам, когато ми е зле... Защото го познавам и знам какво ще каже “не ми пука и, че го казвам само за да го умилостивя малко, за да ме съжалява„.. Много ме боли.. но аз не се отказвам, все някога ще ме чуе. Обичам го толкова много и нямам намерение да се откажа от него. Моето “ЛЮБОВ„ в пълния смисъл на думата. Преди мислех, че обичам, но това е различно, това е истинската обич, любов, която изпитвам към него, това чувство няма как да се опише. Просто го усещам със сърцето си със цялото тяло, че той липсващото пърче от пъзела в живота ми, просто знам, че е той! :) Няма да се откажа от него, много пъти му го казвам и не спирам да го моля да ме изслуша, въпреки, че дори да каже добре той няма и една думичка да чуе, затова си мисля амм има възможност да отида на събора и тогава иска или не ще трябва да ме изслуша. Ще му го кажа гледайки го в очите. Много се надявам да мога да отида и да му го кажа в лицето. Според мен и ти трябва да опиташ да му го кажеш в очите, защото по телефона дори да ти каже “слушам те„ той няма да те чуе и пак ще продължава да прави така с теб. Това е съветът ми към теб, когато се видите го дръпни някъде на страни и му го кажи, това ще трябва да те чуе независимо дали ще иска или не. :) Дано да се получи, аз ще пробвам 1-во по телефона и ако не ме чуе, тогава ще трябва да му го кажа в очите за да види болката ми.
Hello girls. I don't think the problem is with his friends, it's more with him. In general, for him you are a pleasure - like ice cream, but free. And when all other pleasures are over, it comes to you. But you are definitely not his priority. From now on, you decide.
And I am in such a situation at the moment dear. We have been together for 3 years, and he increasingly takes me for granted, does not share, etc. it's still his, and we've talked and talked, the only way out I see is to separate :( F23
And I want advice, and very urgently ... My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 1 year, but he is no longer the same, he shouts at me for the smallest thing, as he writes to me he says,, take off,,,, get out ,, constantly, bye, and what not insults! He constantly insults me with hellishly insulting words like,, filmmaker,,,, movie,,,, idiot,, and what not! In the beginning everything was great, we had a relationship some time ago, but we broke up and a year ago a spark ignited between us again .. he behaved very well and gentlemanly, wherever I went he was waiting for me at the entrance after that, he sends me every night and he tells me every day how much he loves me. He didn't touch me, but he was very cruel to me, he doesn't care if I have something lately, when I'm crying or when something hurts, but he just says,, it will pass,, and that's it. When we quarrel and raise a little tone tells me,, you will roar again and you will go,,,, you know where the door is,,,, you will roar at my feet and pray to me,, and I don't know what to do anymore, and I love him a hell of a lot, I'm stupid , because I can't stand it and I call him after a scandal to see him and when I go to see him it's over, but he didn't call me first! He says there is no other, I feel like I'm suffocating him maybe! Tell me what to do! He tells me that if one day I decide to end it again I will never go back to him and I am afraid of losing him, he is very nervous, he shouts at me for everything, even if I apologize to him, even if I ask him the calmest thing, and he says that I make him nervous and that he no longer tolerates me and does not want to tolerate me. He tells me: leave me, get out, etc., but I keep writing to him and when I say that I stop and he answers with,, super,,! Gram hasn't been with me lately, he doesn't support me in anything and I'm afraid of him and the thought of not losing him! Please help! :) Thanks in advance!
I advise you to leave him alone for a while, not to look for him, when he sees that you are moving away from him and he loses you, he will realize these actions of his, at least I hope. With my friend is something similar, when around friends is different, and when we are just both is nice and do not know I feel very good and very happy. When he gets a little angry with him, he starts with nice smiles and words, sometimes he just says "he's angry" and when he sees that I'm not doing anything, I don't talk to him, he can't stand it and he becomes a cute boy. Sometimes you have to ignore a man to get your attention. They think that if we love them, we will always be there for them, no matter what they do, and we will always forgive them, but this gets tired after a while. If you want, try my advice, and if it doesn't work, you need a very important conversation. I understand you completely :)
Abe girls (I turn not only to the author, but also to other girls who share a similar experience), why do you sit and humiliate yourself in such relationships? What is this sheep's patience ... To go to the friends in question and get angry there. What are these types for you? I was in a similar situation and just such an attitude opened my eyes and helped me look beyond 'love' insane, to finally end all the grief. Number 8 gave a very good personal example. And the reaction on the other side is almost always exactly the same: D Draw your own conclusions about what people you sit with and what you suffer for. Just don't say you love them, because that has nothing to do with love. Roast your mind ...