Our relationship is from 1 year, a year in which the constant outbursts of jealousy do not stop. At an early stage in our relationship, I may not have realized that I was making a mistake by giving him the password for my Facebook just because I wanted to be honest. At one point, he deleted all the men from my friends (people who are only acquaintances, colleagues, classmates, but nothing more. Even if we go somewhere together, it spoils everything (it was not that I look at the men at the next table that I am I let go of his hand because I saw someone, and what not, I gave him a chance that I thought he would realize what he was doing, that there was a problem I wanted to help him with (I'm not crazy about going to a psychologist). When he introduced me to his family, maybe only then I realized that the problem is rooted right there.His sister lives with a Turk on the same principle, his mother and father also on the same floor 2 families. The problem is his, I don't have to feel guilty about his mistakes. Obviously it will not change. As long as with the chances and forgiveness, everything seems to slip in one place. I no longer had the strength or the hope to speak, to explain. to someone who does not realize himself. Is there a chance to do something. PLEASE GIVE SOME ADVICE ON HOW TO ACT ...
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Unlikely to become human. Maybe he was lied to, maybe because of family order, as you noticed. In any case, over time I do not think that things will get better, on the contrary. Expect soon to be limited by how you dress, where you go, what friends you see, etc. I won't be surprised if he decides to educate you with a fight. Worst of all, he considers this behavior normal. He is also painfully complex, believing that every man is a threat. I had a boyfriend who wasn't so bad, but he was still quite jealous. Every acquaintance or colleague of mine who looked good was immediately called a "fat feather and garbage," followed by self-blame for how ugly he was, why I went with him at all, and so on. I was also jealous of my friends. It is very repulsive and disgusting not to have elementary respect for yourself. This is a problem that has been ingrained for years and is extremely difficult to treat. I know this because I also have self-esteem problems, which I control fiercely, because I know what it leads to and how it would make me look in the eyes of my partner. A closed circle in which you mostly harm yourself. Think about how much you care about him and what battles you are ready to fight to be together. I wonder how he behaves with the opposite sex - does he flirt, does he look at women, does he tell you how cool someone is, what would you do to her and so on? Is it kind of trying to crush your self-confidence through such talk, in order to lower you to its level and to instill in you that you are almost ugly and stupid, so that you can stay with him, because someone else will not like you for nothing on the world. Or he is also very exemplary - he has no girlfriends, he doesn't look at others, doesn't care about women and wants the same from you? If this is the first case, just run with 200. Such people can ruin you mentally, if you give up. In the latter case, there is a little more hope for change, because at least it is not meant to crush you. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity. Calm and honest conversations, showing trust and respect, but to some extent, would help more here. Ask the question on the edge: culturally and without nerves, explain to him what the situation is and give him a deadline (one month, for example) in which to start at least some change, otherwise you end the relationship. Clearly and precisely, to know that this is his last chance. Otherwise you can play to infinity.
Run with 200, or preferably 300
Run. As quickly as possible.
you know - split up
There is a chance, you leave and you're done, why do you write at all, knowing very well how to act?
Run!
On the contrary, you did well to give the password. You understand how crazy he is. It's time to beat his jester, it should have been a long time ago.
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I will tell you in my case what happened - I endured all the outbursts of jealousy and aggression, he made me constantly take pictures of where I am, even AT HOME, it was not jealousy of what and who not, to go out even to my store was running out of time and constant phone checks until it all escalated into aggression, out-of-control outbursts, alcohol problems. He started behaving as if he owned me and at one point you just get tired, no matter how much you love and explain, it doesn't work ... these guys are just psychopaths and just harassment and nerves, nothing else. My relationship was also 1 year and while it was in the beginning it was patient, then I even stopped going out just so there were no problems and the only fault is that I allowed it and endured. I'll tell you, I slapped her twice and we're done ... Honestly, it is not worth it and a woman in a place with dignity should not allow such treatment under any circumstances, such fixes do not and there is no point in wasting time with such. I didn't listen to my relatives and friends for a long time, I defended him and justified him because of his sick love he did it, because he had told me that he was in love to death ... yes, but the only thing that became clear to me after that was that I lost time and I gave myself to a psychopath who just is not worth the time or effort .... You judge, I guess you love him very much, I understand you perfectly, but I honestly regret that I did not stop much earlier .. These jealous people are crazy and it will just make your life miserable, not to mention if they become aggressive and nervous. You know best how your relationship is, this is my experience, I hope I was useful to you.
Manny, isn't there so many other men that you sit next to someone who only creates nerves and problems for you. Plus, if he's so insecure that he deserves you - obviously not you.