Hello! I am a German daughter-in-law, I recently became a mother. Everything was going great, my husband is the greatest father ... and a man I have ever imagined. Yes, the situation was perfect before that old bag came - his mother. I know, it sounds pretty rough, but she'll finish me off. I'm tense enough, and now I have to watch her in addition to the baby. It started right at the door when he saw the baby. He didn't look like me, but he did. It was very white, blond, and they weren't that bright. Even then it started ... where to joke, where to seriously insult the blood of women from Eastern Europe ... I smiled, I was silent. Then she stormed in while I was breastfeeding a baby. It started again ... "with those breasts, he would stay hungry." Yes, they didn't hang down to my navel, I'm not big-breasted, but I never cared about that. Now he's obviously trying to sue me for some complexes, I do not know. He constantly comments on how he takes care of the child. She seemed to come to help me, and she didn't move a finger. He just looks away and criticizes. The only help I see from her is when we bathe a baby. However, it is not worth it to tolerate her throwing and pig behavior ... for how long. I complained to my husband, but he's been getting drunk lately. Tells me not to? pay attention. It's easy for him, no one insults him or annoys him. When we were in Bulgaria - my parents looked at it like a painted egg, kept up. His mother ... the complete opposite! There was freedom in Bulgaria, we were atheists and old communists ... She lived in East Germany, isn't it the same? I'm just pissed off by this woman !! She came on a mission to make my life miserable, my grandson? she doesn't care that much. I CAN NOT! I don't know what to do, I don't want her at home! He constantly comments on how he takes care of the child.
She seemed to come to help me, and she didn't move a finger. He just looks away and criticizes. The only help I see from her is when we bathe a baby. However, it is not worth it to tolerate her throwing and pig behavior ... for how long. I complained to my husband, but he's been getting drunk lately. Tells me not to? pay attention. It's easy for him, no one insults him or annoys him. When we were in Bulgaria - my parents looked at it like a painted egg, kept up. His mother ... the complete opposite! There was freedom in Bulgaria, we were atheists and old communists ... She lived in East Germany, isn't it the same? I'm just pissed off by this woman !! She came on a mission to make my life miserable, my grandson? she doesn't care that much. I CAN NOT! I don't know what to do, I don't want her at home! He constantly comments on how he takes care of the child. She seemed to come to help me, and she didn't move a finger.
He just looks away and criticizes. The only help I see from her is when we bathe a baby. However, it is not worth it to tolerate her throwing and pig behavior ... for how long. I complained to my husband, but he's been getting drunk lately. Tells me not to? pay attention. It's easy for him, no one insults him or annoys him.
When we were - my parents looked at it like a painted egg, kept up. His mother ... the complete opposite! There was freedom in Bulgaria, we were atheists and old communists ... She lived in East Germany, isn't it the same? I'm just pissed off by this woman !! She came on a mission to make my life miserable, my grandson? she doesn't care that much. I CAN NOT! I don't know what to do, I don't want her at home!
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But did you take an East German? You are very bad at telling me ... even the Bulgarians are 100 times better than them. And I'm a German bride, but a real Westerner - my mother-in-law is a citizen and keeps up. We even live half a year in Bulgaria and I haven't heard anything bad about our country and the Bulgarians from him and his family, except that we didn't have self-confidence and we complained a lot ... Expel her otherwise - no German daughter-in-law will endures more than 3 days at home. "The fish and the guest start to smell on the third day," say the Germans - drive her away directly and even the old witch will respect you. They do not respect the weak, they respect the STRONG.
Abe, I dream of a "dream man" ... he will soon show off his dirty shirts. And his mother seems to want to separate you and instill in her son that the child is not his. Talk to your husband and tell him to talk to your mother ... you don't have to look at her and put up with her. From where to where will he talk to you like that?
Girl, you have to give her a name at the table and tell her where her place is, while you are silent, the situation will be the same. Show her where she belongs and behave properly, not with suitcases and without her. Everything must be clear from the beginning. Sun.
Make a great pot and cook good things in general and tell her to eat the food, not you. Say that we "ungodly" are so brought up in the name of truth, so the Bible teaches us. And if she knows it (the Bible), she will stop, otherwise it will be clear who is an atheist. You accept advice, but without insults - just say it, maybe your conscience will knock it out and it will really start helping you.
Thanks for your comments! To the first comment: I don't particularly agree that I "hit" badly. Each person is strictly individual and it is not good to put everyone under a common denominator. My husband was born in the GDR, but 7 years later the wall fell and they moved to West Germany. I can say that his mentality is much more "Western" than that of the natives here, who are considered "true Europeans". Anyway, thanks for your time. From the author