I share my story with deep disappointment and anxiety. We live in a small town where everyone knows each other. I had never met my friend's parents, and since we went, we've only had sporadic contacts. Some time ago I published a story: "I don't like his parents, and he is angry" and although I received mostly condemning comments that made me rethink my behavior, there was no significant development of things, and now, it turns out, they they don't like me. A friend of mine, a mutual acquaintance - a saleswoman in a grocery store, just mentioned to me that his mother had commented to me as follows: "We want to meet the girl's parents" (Okay, but also) "We keep telling him that this girl is not for him, she is over-ambitious (author's note: where ?!) and educated. Just because I have a university degree and I work in my specialty !!! ), where did he go with her ... ". At the moment I am in a state of strong affect, mixed with depression! They are just talking to him against me! I want to call him on the phone and ask him what I caused them in this way !!! I can't help myself, but at the same time I'm afraid that if we talk about it and precisely because it's true, he may question the situation - why do they comment in front of other people, etc., with which they still more will they rebel against me!
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As far as I understand, his parents fear that he is not (worthy) of you, not you of him. In a sense - their worries are that now you are in love and you don't care about anything, but this will pass you by and then when you see him "what a fool he is", you will give him up ... Obviously people have nothing against you, but worry that one day, when you value him, you will leave him and he will be hurt. Calm down!
I don't see them saying anything bad about you. They just fear that you are above their son's level, which is a compliment.
no, they are not afraid that he will leave him one day, but that he will trample him, tease him and have him as a slipper .. he will be oppressed and commanded by his wife who will pretend to be something more than him .. your relationship and relationships may not really be like that .. you can love and respect each other more than anyone else but that's how they think .. that's how they talk to each other .. this is the mentality of the old communist Baiganov society..that's how they are one 80% of the older ..all all die for fear that the woman is no more than the man ..and let's not forget that before the woman had almost no rights nor had the right to call against her husband ...
Let me tell you how it is from a man's point of view. My mother also forbade me and told me that the girl I was with some time ago was not for me. Nor am I for her. And to tell you the truth, looking back now, I'm sorry I didn't listen to her! This same girl turned out to be cheating on me all the time with someone. But about your case, since you sound ok, just talk. Problems are solved by talking !!
You don't have to tell your friend at all. The human words of acquaintances do not mean pure truth at all. Maybe it's all just a sample from the shopkeeper, or maybe she's just jealous that you're happy with your boyfriend. I see true things in comment №3, I just do not agree that this is only in Bulgaria. Everywhere in Europe and America, mothers-in-law expect their son and candidate daughter-in-law for dinner if they are in the same city — almost every week, if they are far away — at least on holidays. It is even an insult not to come to sleep on Christmas Day, July 4 or there the national holiday with more days off. My friend in France divorced after 2 years of marriage, because she did not want to visit, and when she went she was sullen, with her French in-laws and this became a big problem. On the other hand. After telling them for so long, "we won't come because she doesn't want to," what should people think.