Hello, I would like to tell you my story ... I am a 19-year-old girl. I am a child from a mixed marriage between a Bulgarian and a Turk, I have a wonderful family but as always it can't just be nice ... This year I met my boy and he is of Turkish origin we have been together for 6 months but we love each other and he is very much a year older than me .. The problem with us is that his parents do not accept me because my mother was Bulgarian, does he want a pure Turk for their son .. They just manipulate him - they tell him to choose between me and them, he is between I knock the anvil and he doesn't know what to decide, he doesn't know what to do ... we are still together but I don't know what he will decide suddenly, he tells me if we separate it will be best, so my parents will live a quiet life .. I don't I can afford to lose it because I really love it, but I don't know how much he loves me, he doesn't have the courage to stand up to them and tell them that they should set an example .. not a day goes by in which I don't cry just thinking about it, dear people and friends, please give me advice i need your support thank you in advance. Be happy .... with a lot of love - Annie.
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Ask your mother! She will give you the best advice.
My dear, I think that if he really loves you, he will oppose not only his parents but the whole world! If you break up because of this, be sure he doesn't care about you at all! I tell you because I myself was placed between this hammer and an anvil, but I realized that I do not love him and the reason to dump him was ideal and if I loved him I do not care about anyone and nothing would stop me from being with him! Good luck.....
I think things need to be looked at in several ways. The role of Islam has been growing recently. We used to live and religions existed, but no one put so much emphasis on that. Now there is an opposition. There may be no faith in the true meaning of the word, people may not have read the Bible and the Koran at all, but they are fighting in their chests and talking about religion, what it allowed and what it forbade. But the upbringing in this family is based on a strict order and discipline. In this sense, a son will never oppose his mother. He may love you, but he will stand firm by his mother. He may marry another and then look for you again - but still, you will be one of his girlfriends in the narrower sense of the word. You will have a relationship, but not a family. Moreover, cohabitation without marriage is already legalized. Are you a believer? What religion do your parents practice? Remember that Islam and Christianity are always in conflict. Islam always wants to be dominant. Christians are more tolerant, but they keep their distance and at the same time recognize the right to choose. So if your family is firmly committed to Islam and the traditions that are determined by it - you will not have such a big problem. But if you are a Christian, if your mother has kept respect for Christianity - it will be difficult for you to be with your boy. which are determined by this - you will not have such a big problem. But if you are a Christian, if your mother has kept respect for Christianity - it will be difficult for you to be with your boy. which are determined by this - you will not have such a big problem. But if you are a Christian, if your mother has kept respect for Christianity - it will be difficult for you to be with your boy.
Well, the Turkish and Bulgarian holidays are also observed at home, we don't have such a problem for that, my father's parents accepted my mother without a problem ...
My opinion is that you love him too much. Find out if he really loves you. I know it sucks to choose between your parents and love, but I'm sure that if you were in his place you would choose LOVE. After all, parents are not the ones you continue your life with. There comes a time when you have to separate - to break away from mom and dad. THINK AND DECIDE, after all, time heals or give yourself some time and think things over.
If they don't accept you now they will never accept you, I had the same problem. He chose me and in the beginning we were fine, we got married and had a baby, but theirs remained against me. We lived together for 7 years, but unfortunately we separated 1 year ago and I have to thank his parents for that. To this day, they talk nonsense about me even though we're not together anymore, so he draws his own conclusions. He who does not accept you once will never be able to do so.
Talk to your friend about it and ask him if he wants to be with you or if he will listen to mom and dad about everything. Does he agree with his parents choosing a wife for him ...
You must be poor, my girl. If there were 2 handfuls of coins, your father, even if he was a priest, would still accept you. We should not be divided into Bulgarians and Turks, but into good and bad people. You have come across bad people. Even if you come across such Bulgarians, you still feel bad. I will give you an example. My neighbor, a very nice boy, 29 years old. Rousseau with blue eyes, a Bulgarian, has a bus and a car, goes to the markets, earns his money from there, he shouts. I'm going with a 4th year law student, but it won't work. Her mother ordered her to look for a man with 2 higher educations to take out 10 vouchers a month. You now seem to be complaining that you are not considered a Turk. If you feel like that, hold on to a Bulgarian. For the Bulgarians you are a Turk, for the Turks you are a Bulgarian, for the gypsies you are a gypsy. From nigger and white what happens? A man with a pleasant sun tan. I wonder why you're pushing in a Turkish house. You don't look at how you lived. Soon it was, I see a very rich Turk who doesn't know his money, buying fodder for chickens. I call him what's going on? You eat ready-made chicken steaks. And he answers me: Abe, I'm looking for a job for women at home. I took their little chicks to have something to do. Since they don't have a job, they only think about the cock. Now I took their phones. They wash the carpets and fight. I'm going to have a beer. Do you want to come to such a house? What will you do without mom and dad. It will not be good for your parents to hear that nothing is happening to you. Rest assured that they will not support you. It will be the same to enter a Bulgarian house with such traitors. The good thing is that you are young. Take a look at the Bulgarians. I call my son if one day you get married and think that, you will not cheat on your wife, there is nothing better than a young beautiful modern Turkish woman. He calls me: There are some, but they are a member of the MRF. Well, you are not a member of the MRF. My girl's life is not just sex with a loved one. You will forget it. How much more to fall in love with. You're right for my blond neighbor. I'm interested in how you've lived so far. I hated the Turks a lot because they don't let a Turkish woman talk to us. I hope that with such letters I will become more tolerant. GS1 I hope that with such letters I will become more tolerant. GS1 I hope that with such letters I will become more tolerant. GS1
Well, look, now my mother is Bulgarian and my father is Turkish, but there has never been such a problem, and as far as whether to be with a Turk or a Bulgarian is not important to me, but I can not command my heart, I just fell in love and I really love this boy very much, and his parents do not accept me because there was no Bulgarian blood in their family and what would people say. I have lived a calm and good life, I have everything, I have not been deprived of anything until now, this year I died, but now I am at home, I wanted to work, but my father does not allow me and I am at home but I am very unhappy now without my beloved and as far as sex is concerned, not everything is sex in this life, all I have to do is know that he is next to me and tell me that he loves me .. My parents accept him and want him even say let him come to live with us ,,
Don't be ashamed to talk to your friend's father. If anyone needs to talk, it's your friend himself. You are more of a child than a mixed marriage - you should understand the role of women according to Islamic traditions. The woman is always placed in the role of obedience. She is subordinate to the man and such rebellious behavior would not be in your favor in front of people who have such limited understandings ..... I think that if your friend maintains neutrality - it is indicative that he has decided on your relationship and his opinion differs from yours. But it's not an honor for him not to have the courage to tell you exactly how things are. You can definitely have a relationship, but not a marriage.
If he loves you, he will accept you of any kind. And the fact that the Turks are one way or another is prejudice.
And let me express my opinion, as a person with a mixed marriage ... I am Turkish and my husband is Bulgarian, we understand each other as much as we interfere with religions, no one has anything against the religion and customs of the other, but everyone sticks to his ... So I want to say that if your boy cares too much about his religion and his family, know that he will prefer THEM to love and sooner or later you will be left alone ... So talk to him while he is young, because from personal experience I know that whenever it happens you will think about it for at least 1-2 years, you will look for it in every next one, you will compare and if there is only one flaw it will be an obstacle for your further friendship. I personally think it's better to dump the time, it's still young in front of you and it's not worth wasting your time waiting for someone who doesn't know what he wants,
Hi, I'm in that situation too, although I love him very much, I'm trying to realize that it's better if we break up. I am 27 years old and I have been with my friend for 3 years. I am a Pomak, and he is a Turk and his parents not only do not want me, but hate me, they do everything possible to separate us. He can't make a decision, he loves me very much and wants us to be together, but he also can't muster the courage to oppose them. We get married several times and he refuses. He promises me that everything will be fine, but for so long nothing has been fine, only pain, tears and drama. Now he's gone, it took him a while to decide, but I know his decision won't be in my favor. I SUFFER A LOT. It is very difficult for me to shake off and continue on my own. It is very difficult to understand them completely, but we must be patient, time will tell. SUCCESS!
Turks do not say things directly, they justify themselves with their parents, for example. Think about this.
Well, do you know that you seem to be right that the Turks find it difficult to tell the hard truth not because they can't, but so as not to offend their partner, which is why it is easier for them to justify themselves, and the conclusion is that if someone justifies himself, !!