Hello! In short, I'm 19, my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for 3 and a half years. We are together every day or every other day, he has almost moved in to live at home. It works and I don't yet. I had started a bartender and a waitress in a cafe, but I didn't like the work, I had to start somewhere, and the money was small, because the working hours were 4 hours. I have no desire to study, I know that without education I am nowhere, but I am in a small town and there is not much choice of work here. My mother pushes me every day to look, but where to look like no one, and I don't want to spend 240 as a slave. Let's move on to the essential topic. My boyfriend has a sister 1 year younger than him and he got married last year because he got pregnant (supposedly for love but anyway) his parents have been hinting for a long time that we should get married because we have been together for a long time, and he is bigger. Not only are they, but his relatives are the same, they all got married young, because at one time it may have been so. I am a Bulgarian like him, we are not Roma or Turks or any other nationality, why should I get married so young, I don't even know what future I will have, and they are pressuring me to get married. I know that he will soon be 30 and he has to get married and start a family, but he still has a life, he has not been instilled or he has an incurable disease, so he has to hurry. They know that nowadays you can live with someone without marriage. Just with this hint and allusion, I increasingly withdraw from the idea of starting a family with this person, knowing what kind of relatives he has, when he turns 23-24 for sure and they will make me make them grandchildren, shouldn't a person decide for himself what to do with your life Anything ahead. My parents, like me, are of the opinion that there is no need to hurry, what is written to happen will happen. They got married around the age of 20-25 and Maka has always told me a lot of thoughts about who you will choose as a lifelong companion, so that you don't make a mistake later and roar at me because you didn't listen to us. When I was 16 I thought I would get married when I graduated, but now 3 years later I am thinking about how to provide for myself financially, and then a family, because I can't get married and mom and dad can support me. Thanks for reading the topic, and now some advice if you can :) When I was 16 I thought I would get married when I graduated, but now 3 years later I am thinking about how to provide for myself financially, and then a family, because I can't get married and mom and dad can support me. Thanks for reading the topic, and now some advice if you can :) When I was 16 I thought that when I graduated I would get married, but now 3 years later I am thinking about how to provide financially, and then a family, because I can't get married and my mom and dad can support me. Thanks for reading the topic, and now some advice if you can :)
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"My friend is 26" and "soon he will be 30" - something is wrong with me ... not to be 29, but to have turned "9", like "6"? :)
Listen to your heart. Do what YOU want, and let what you want happen. I think it's too early for you to get married
to 1: I guess the girl wanted to say that the man is approaching 30 years old and can't sit unmarried. Whether after 3.4 years or after one, then the years go by.
Do what you think you should, namely - do not marry! If they give so much trouble there is something murky there, do not let them manage your life. After you say that he still lives very clearly that he is not ready for marriage. If you listen to them you will regret it.
You are right - first provide yourself financially so that your relatives do not support you / no matter whose /, because in such a case they will determine your life and hints will be your least problem. If you understand that you have nowhere to go without education, what else can I advise you? Winnie the Pooh
If you want to live on it and why hurry, you are still young, there is time, no one has the right to interfere in anything :)
It is not a question of marriage, but that he lives with you! You are uneducated, with little chance of work, and you want a good salary - how will it be without qualifications? He does not even have a home. How will you support yourself with one salary? when the children come too? Girl, study to have security!