Hello! The story is very long, but more importantly ... when I had an argument with my friend one day / and other times we fought, but it never got there / I got angry and slapped him, then he hit me .. hit me .. many times. Then he was asshole and apologized, I decided that if I forgave him it would be for the last time. Yesterday we quarreled again, I cried, he didn't listen to me, he almost imitated me, I got angry again and slapped him ... and he reached out again. He pushes me again, pushes me, hits me. I'm blue and swollen again and it hurts a lot ... not only physically, but also mentally Today he is angry again and says that he is sad about what happened, but I don't know ... I know that I have too guilt that I caused it, that I hit him too ...
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whatever called called! You can't expect to beat someone and they sit and look at you in love.
It doesn't matter who is to blame, there is just a line you cross. Better to split up. And it's your fault you slapped him, but I guess he challenged you in some way, by not listening to you. I'm like you too. And I did this number .. I even went to the emergency room once because I kicked him so hard on my leg that my leg swelled up and I couldn't walk .. But he didn't beat me afterwards .. he happened to answer me with a slap I think twice .. Abe is generally a sick job ... Try to really leave him, find a person who will not challenge you at all to slap, who will understand you. And in order to fix things with the current one, you will need a lot of patience and talk and compromises! Think about whether you will be capable, and so you just ruin your nerves!
Well, I don't understand that. You can hit, but he can't? And she wondered if she should blame herself. Well, no, I can't figure it out. Does the fact that you are a woman and he a man mean that he cannot be humiliated by a slap? It's your fault. It's clear. And he's guilty. What is this relationship with slaps on both sides? If you blame him for something, blame him for the same! D.
You start first with the slaps, and according to which moral code only you have the right to strike? I wouldn't hit in such a situation, but I would dump you, you have a nerve problem. Winnie the Pooh
See what a girl has a very clever and wise saying, which reads: "Do not do what you do not want them to do to you!" ... If everyone followed this one rule in life, there would be no murders, rapes, thefts, robberies, betrayals, infidelities, frauds, lies, envy, etc. And the world would be a wonderful place. But of course everyone has heard this saying but they don't follow it. When you hit him, he won't sit and be silent ... is that what you expect? Are you a sadist? Isn't this your slave? Ok karate is called a rabbit, even if you were right, it does not give you the right to encroach on him. What if he's a man ... does that mean if he's male he can be hit? Quarrels and words are one thing, a physical blow is another, and as you say yourself, you are the first to inflict physical blows, and he has turned away your boy, I break it completely. And my husband, if he allows himself to slap me while we are fighting, and I will slap him, whoever called called me. It is true that the Bible says when they hit one cheek, turn around and give the other .... but this is a worshipful and slavish thinking and I do not think it is right. It's very simple ... don't hit him and he won't hit you. When you first reach out, being a girl doesn't justify you in any way. You are a bully. If I hit you without touching it and for no reason is another matter and then my comment and advice would be completely different, but as far as I read this is not the case, so tap your head a little and keep your nerves. And not just nerves, it's vulgar and inferior behavior. It is true that the Bible says when they hit one cheek, turn around and give the other .... but this is a worshipful and slavish thinking and I do not think it is right. It's very simple ... don't hit him and he won't hit you. When you first reach out, being a girl doesn't justify you in any way. You are a bully. If I hit you without touching it and for no reason is another matter and then my comment and advice would be completely different, but as far as I read this is not the case, so tap your head a little and keep your nerves. And not just nerves, it's vulgar and inferior behavior. It is true that the Bible says when they hit one cheek, turn around and give the other .... but this is a worshipful and slavish thinking and I do not think it is right. It's very simple ... don't hit him and he won't hit you. When you first reach out, being a girl doesn't justify you in any way. You are a bully. If I hit you without touching it and for no reason is another matter and then my comment and advice would be completely different, but as far as I read this is not the case, so tap your head a little and keep your nerves. And not just nerves, it's vulgar and inferior behavior. that your girl doesn't justify you in any way. You are a bully. If I hit you without touching it and for no reason is another matter and then my comments and advice would be completely different, but as far as I read this is not the case, so tap your head a little and keep your nerves. And not just nerves, it's vulgar and inferior behavior. that your girl doesn't justify you in any way. You are a bully. If I hit you without touching it and for no reason is another matter and then my comment and advice would be completely different, but as far as I read this is not the case, so tap your head a little and keep your nerves. And not just nerves, it's vulgar and inferior behavior.
Run away from him while it's time, darling !!! And never have a giving giving with such types. !!!!
An interesting case, to which I still can not give an answer ... Some time ago I was in a similar situation, but on the other side. I think my story will be interesting to you. http://spodeli.net/4/story-9591.html
Is it your fault ?? Is that the question ?? So what do you think? Of course you are guilty! What do you expect? Of course, when you hit him, he will hit you too. Apparently most people don't know that. Once you hit someone, regardless of age, gender and whatever, he can beat you if he wants to. Simple self-defense. Why don't adults beat children unless they hit them? Because they will go to prison. But if a child hits an adult, he has every right to defend himself. So for your question .. DO NOT hit him .. And also, if you fight day after day, why are you together at all? You are OBVIOUSLY not happy with each other. I may be wrong, of course, I know only one situation, which only happens quite often obviously ..
I will tell you only one thing .. it will not go between you ... nothing is achieved with slaps ..! you should have dumped him the first time he attacked you ..! If a man can hit once, he can hit twice! Leave him and try harder with your next boyfriend! :) Elsuer
Realize in time or separate - has there been a second time, there will be a third ... it will become a stereotype ... And I think something else - how can you even afford to hit it?
The title had to be, "I hit it ... again!" So that readers would understand a priori what the REAL reason for the whole drama was. It is not true how badly you are young, and how much someone else is to blame for your own nonsense.
I'm sorry for the directness, but you're a very stupid girl! First of all, no matter what arguments you have, why do you think that by slapping him, things will be resolved? !! Not only will this behavior not help, but as you have already felt, it hurts! There are men who have the dignity of a woman dominating them in any way, and yours is clearly just that. Well, as you describe him, he broke you both times in a fight ... I don't approve of that, of course, if he had answered you with a slap, so that you would realize a little bit - how could it be, but this ... and with this situation you still have with him? !! Very stupid of you! There are so many stories like "He beats me, then he apologizes, I forgive him, the next day he beats me again, he apologizes ..." and so on indefinitely. Didn't you think that if you did it once, the second time will obviously act so systematically. Now let's say you had a serious conflict, but tomorrow it could be because you didn't wash the dishes, didn't buy bread, or forgot to wash his socks. Think about it.
What a connection to fight and fight! Both you and he are guilty. Obviously you are not for each other.
As such, you will bear the consequences, you deserve it, so you like it
You sow winds - you reap storms. Other matters?
Those of you who wrote here, are you okay? Yes, it definitely matters who beats for the simple reason that men are much stronger. She had slapped him, and why didn't he respond with the same slap (for him), why didn't he hit her, but he had to beat her? You really are wrong. One slap and now the man could abuse the woman, but after that slap she could not do anything. You ask why men couldn't hit. I ask why women in most cases cannot beat them like dogs. Why ... I didn't expect to read so many wrong comments.
Eating alone is not enough, you need to be smart.
Your thinking is wrong, number 16. If I were you, I would wonder why most opinions differ from mine. Definitely not, because you shine with a special thought. D.
Oh, the girl is asking for advice; xx I don't understand! Why do you say she deserved it — that her boyfriend hit her? !! Does he have the right to hit her? !! Huh? !! Yes, I agree that she caused it (actually I know absolutely nothing, anyway) but does that give this "man" the right to hit her? !! Then it turns out that after your "husband" hits you, then you will hit him too ... Men have no right to hit women! Dumb! I apologize for the word .. You better get out of there .. I shouldn't have hit you; (A man who hits a woman is not a man !! I think so! If a man ever hits me, I'll dump him and my eye won't blink Ah, before that I will hit him on the head with a vase; ddd MAKI-CHAN
Emmy, by bragging to yourself and allowing them ....
I would not get involved, but because of the statement of 18 that he thinks correctly ... I take part. I fully support 16. The fact that she slapped him does not mean that he should beat her !!! Was it normal? !? !! She felt that the man was not well and that is why she slapped him, and he in turn confirmed her opinion! That is, she hit him because he didn't want to understand her, and in a moment of weakness, because she obviously couldn't show him that she was right, she hit him. Do you understand, some men have not eaten a fight as children, some men who do not behave like men .. The author's mistake is that she thinks that this man can change him .. but not at all .. Her mistake is that waste your nerves with it, that's it! Iv
He went a little too far with the aggression, but I'm sure that the author dramatizes things a bit. He almost beat her like a dog for slapping her while she begged him to stop - I don't believe it. He slapped her and pushed her somewhere so as not to get in his way, and if she flew like a rooster again, she might have eaten another healthier one. But someone will annoy me, I will slap ... hmm? !! I hit my friend once and when I saw his eyes I just laughed and jumped on his neck and started kissing him and apologizing. It was a joke and I didn't expect it to be so strong. But the second time I will know and I will hardly touch him ... and it was a joke. That he with his paw if he decides to joke with me - I will hardly stay straight on my feet. Restrain your nerves a little, darling! Or split up,
18th, are different from yours (most) because most in this country are neno. small, and she, number 16, is from the minority normal !!!
We're fine №16! As the man is stronger, doesn't the woman know why he attacks him with slaps? It is stupid to attack if you hold in your hands a weaker than the enemy's weapon. It is stupid of her to hurt her husband's dignity.
25, I'm not saying she's right to attack him, but our society should not be led by physical force. Yes, he can beat her because he is stronger than her, by this logic no woman should disagree / quarrel, etc. with a man. Then what is our society becoming? She is not right, but he should not take advantage of the weakness, and if he does, then such a person cannot be trusted. Today he will attack her because she slapped him, tomorrow - because she looked at him askance. I don't think women should be able to afford everything at all, but a man who beats a woman is just a weakling, because slapping you is humiliating, but beating the weaker ones than you know that they can't even to reciprocate is much more humiliating. It is possible that the author replayed, but the comments provoked me.
Well, you are very wrong in this country, in what families did you grow up? The strength of man is to protect the weak, then nature has created ... tender femininity and protection of the family. Okay, he challenged you, you hit him and that's it, don't overdo it. If you beat him, I agree to hit you lightly as a sign to stop, because you make him nervous, but it will turn you blue ... Well, this is not a man, but garbage! And you women who stay with such men, I don't know how smart you do it. Find someone with whom you have a thrill and harmony, not to fight. Things are settling to be resolved in a civilized way, not so primary!
You lose dignity and respect for yourself if you beat those weaker than you!
Whatever cried - that's what called! And you, like any woman, do not take your guilt and men are always to blame. Where are you going to slap him, aren't you his mother? Can't you understand each other so much in words that you resort to a fight?
Up to 19 - a woman can hit a man, right? Egati double standard!
22 You are one of those terrible people who look at their daughters like princesses and their sons like barracks and beat them. Then don't wonder why your daughters turn into cousins and your sons don't love you!
As you are simple and still stand with him, let him beat you.
Number 22, to see somewhere I said it was normal? No, it is not normal for anyone to slap someone else. And she hit him because she's not well ... Someone had said it above - she's not good with nerves. I do not accept any of this as normal. That is why I fully support my words that once she slapped him, she should not blame him alone. As for the beating - it seems to me that the author is quite dramatizing. It is felt from what is written. And as humiliating for a woman to be beaten, it is as humiliating for a man to slap a woman! It's disgustingly simple! He who does not understand this is definitely wrong. D.
It's number 22 to 33 again - There's just no room for comparison between a slap and a beating! Can't you realize it, imagine someone slapping you, and now someone beating you ... Again, the author's mistake is that she's trying to get this person on the right track, if he was normal he wouldn't have beat. And when she says and says something to him, he will listen and understand, and not pretend to be an oligophrenic .. How can patience .. Just see one, run. Until 31 - I'm not one of those terrible people, but the upbringing of today's "men" is under any criticism. And I want to ask you how do you defend it without knowing it? The author is 20, let's say she is 21-22 .. How do you imagine it ?? How he is dressed, his gait, his upbringing, considering everyone of a similar age that you see every day outside. Are you still defending him? Think about it, looking at these individuals every day, what do you think? Where is the world going for sure, right? These are not men, a man would not beat a woman. I say again - some fuckers, with the gel, with the chains, without education, but with a modern phone - here is the boyfriend of the author, the man who does not deserve slaps .. Yves, 24G deserves much more
And how do you talk about him without knowing him? Because I can draw you the opposite picture - an eternally muttering nonsense fart that makes a scandal of the smallest thing. And screams and quarrels over nonsense begin, in which every normal person goes off the rails. That in the end he ate a slap because he hadn't listened to her?!? !!?!?!? I am not saying that this is the case, nor that it is normal to beat someone, no matter how off track. But there are definitely women who are so stupid that they just look for it ... Yes, it is not right to find it, but in the end when it happens, it is right for this woman to assess both her guilt and her behavior. And while there are women who think it's normal to slap their men for not listening to them, it can't happen. In this story, both are abnormal, and I don't understand your stubbornness to argue about something so simple. D.
The scandal arose from the author because he is very jealous and we quarreled that earlier in the day I talked to a colleague ... and at work. He was shouting at me, I was trying to explain to him that he had nothing to be jealous of, he was repeating that he wasn't ** and that's why I hit him ... in my attempt to wake him up in some way, because he was furious . And no, I'm not looking for an excuse, I'm just saying I'm not someone who's just going to hit him out of nowhere.
Guilty or not - is the man a man for that? To administer fist justice? !! Beat his jester and let everyone know their way. It's bad that you live together and I think your mistake was there. The fact that she provoked him is not a factor, because he obviously provoked her in some way.
Here number 38 thinks logically! :)
I have not read the previous comments, I apologize if I repeat. Drop it, domestic violence is a very serious problem, you don't even have to wonder if you're guilty, you're not. Fighting a woman is a vile and disgusting performance of a pig that deserves mass residence. I'm sorry if I hurt you with my words, but in time you'll hit your head on the wall yourself, why didn't you leave it long before it happened to you and affected your psyche.
I am shocked by the Bulgarian mentality !!! here women even think that it is normal for a woman to slap a man and he retaliates. I've lived in France and there is NO such thing. surprised by the French but I must also tell you that they are much more neurotic than the Bulgarians) such behavior, however, by French men I have not seen. Even after one of the incidents, this is exactly what we were talking about with a Franciscan friend. After seeing what was happening, I thought, that he would answer her and when that didn't happen I was surprised (I lived in Bulgaria here, I saw men burst out of a fight for a slap or even a word) and he, my acquaintance, was surprised by my reaction, his words were literally "But how can he hit her so that a man is stronger than a woman?" "Whatever a woman does, a man should not hit her." Well, those were his words, I'm not saying that all French people are like that, but it's a fact that most of them think so. It took a little while, but I really don't think that a man has the right to hit her, even if she provoked him. if they are real men it will be beneath their dignity to strike "even a slap" as you call it here to a woman.
I wouldn't hit you, but I'm an extremely polite person (I don't advertise, that's a fact). However, I was hit by a woman, lightly and slapped on the body - I was furious. And I was furious because I know I have no right to respond to a woman. This infuriates me that there is a double standard and women do not comply. Yes, I am far stronger and I will knock her to the ground, so I will never hit a woman (I hope it never will: D), but I expect such a civilized attitude and vice versa!
41, I am a woman, I have never been hit and I have never been hit. however, I consider it a double standard for a woman's right to strike and the lack of a man's right to retaliate. I condemn violence regardless of gender. give now that we are women to beat the men, and they because they are stronger to last. I do not find it normal, as well as the opposite option - a man to beat a woman
I'm going to France: D :) I don't have a look at foreigners as partners as they are ... but Bulgarian men are big oppressors and simpletons, and lazy at home! My friend's mother was married for the second time to a German - this man looks at her like a painted egg - they are not surprises, breaks, he had bought her a ticket for a concert of her favorite artist months before the concert, without her knowing .. And is such a gentleman .. and she herself told me that she was disappointed with the Bulgarian men ..
№42, I would hit her, although like you I am an extremely educated person. Not that I will do it for sure and at any cost, but let her always have one thing on him that she can't do what she wants! 41, you are shocked because it brings you out like that! Imagine that you are a man in France and a drill comes to slap you because he can't control his nerves, but on the other hand he knows very well that everything will go unpunished for her and there is no danger of her being reciprocated? Will you feel good? "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you!" - who has forgotten this principle, we are obliged to remind him, and with a slap if necessary.
1. Everyone should know that whatever he gives he will get 2. You are both aggressive and it is amazing how you have not been shaken for 1 year. It is better to separate, because you obviously manage to provoke the manifestation of the worst in yourself. Fact - you can't find an approach one mile away and these unacceptable methods of solving problems "I got angry again and slapped him .. and he reached out again. He pushes me again, pushes me, hits me." Will just repeat, and repeat, until you are seriously injured after such a scandal. I wish it never happens to you and I advise you to tame your aggression if you do not want to receive it. No decent man will tolerate you hitting him and he looking at you - just in such a situation he will leave and you will not see him again.
I think if you get there, run away. Although it's your fault that you hit him, does he have the right to retaliate? I know it is humiliating for a man, but if he is a man on the spot he will endure and be silent and he would never answer you, because you did not do it without his guilt. Things are serious, I don't know what you're arguing about, but paint is not the way.
Leave the French women ... I can't imagine hitting my husband - how will I look at him afterwards - as a man? This is one of the most disgusting double standards that exists! I am absolutely of the opinion that just as it is total aggression for a man to hit a woman, so it is total aggression for a woman to hit a man, the question of how vulgar it is is quite separate! And if someone thinks that because she is weaker, she can slap, then firstly she is very bad with herself and her self-confidence, secondly she is bad with her nerves. I would never allow anyone to consider me neurotic! And I would think that if I saw someone slapping a man - even more so on the street: x. It is disgusting, ugly, rustic, vulgar, humiliating, for both, and then we will expect these men to shower us with love ... I know for myself, that if I ever allowed myself to do something like that, even at home, my husband would never, ever look at me the same way. D.
M15 from Sofia. Are you crazy how I will hit the person next to him no matter what happens he has to keep it and stick to it. He's pathetic. * I was crying, he wasn't listening to me * - you challenge. I noticed that he just wants to show you who the strong man is. This is the truth itself, it's just waiting for a special moment like a slap, you must have talked to him and said that you provoke him through udapa and will not allow it or tolerate you? You refuse to admit the truth! If he loved you he wouldn't do that if you are 1 year old, he should know you well;)
Up to 45 of 42: There is a subtle point where a woman is a sensitive creature and can be "dropped" so to speak, unable to contain emotion and nerves - that's why she is a woman. The man, on the other hand, must be a man of place, calm and strong (especially mentally) - he is reasonable and has no right to lose his temper. He can catch the woman, stop her for a while, but only that much. I'm not saying it's fair - I'm saying it's a notion, and really, if you hit your wife, you fall in her eyes. You better just dump her, because if she has balls and a brain she'll do it soon after the scandal, if she's respected enough.
It all sounds like this to me: Fool 1 didn't know what to do so much that he decided that one slap would solve all the problems. Fool 2 was so stupid that he decided to fight back and prove that he was stronger than 1. result: In the next series, 1 and 2 are fencing with Tefal pans, for greater satisfaction.
It's different to be hit by a boy. I used to slap my friend, but he never retaliated.