It all started in the summer of mid-July on a farm in England, where we lived in a large bungalow and in rooms for two people, there was a shared kitchen that was outside. Then, most unexpectedly, I got a like of a song and a snort from a girl who was there with her boyfriend 5-6 rooms away from me. Even before that, I felt that he was looking at me and that he had sympathy, because he kept looking at me wherever I went. I have always been wary of committed girls, because I am not the kind of person to spoil a committed couple and they have been together for 5 years until now. I pulled for 1-2 weeks, but she was too insistent and I felt what a desire she had for me, so I decided to try and one night during the first kiss we felt what a strong attraction we have to each other, I'm 26 and I had not felt such attraction and it at the first contact, which drove me crazy, but not only me, but her as well. We had sunk a lot, but we still had a friend and I tried not to get into any movies, but it so happened that many things coincided and we continued. From July to the beginning of October we saw each other secretly, but in the kitchen there were even people around us and her friend was sitting, but he was constantly working on the phone and I paid more attention to her. Some people doubted, but apparently he has too much confidence in her, anyway. We talked a lot of sweet talk and showed ourselves that something more could happen.
He even sent me pictures of how our child would look like, how sweet we would be as a couple, I write all this briefly because it included many moments in which you made her happy, because those were not obvious to him, maybe he took it for granted. September came and it was much more than a sinking, every time he came to me he cried, because he left me earlier and he will not be able to see me. She told me how she couldn't believe she was doing such a thing, she hadn't even thought about infidelity, but I tempted her. He was even jealous of other girls. The sex was great, but her infidelity was not only physical ... she ... they went back to Sofia with her and took a place to stay, I felt bad when I heard, because it was really worth fighting for her with this girl what happened were sincere and real. I also promised to go to Sofia to see you and I did, but I felt how cold it was for me. We talked more seriously and she told me she couldn't leave it like hers. I think that in their relationship, whatever he says happens, and she gives more to him, that's my opinion. She told me that she was divided in two but could not leave him and that the consequences would not be good ...
I went back to Pld and we continued to write to each other, but after her wish the other day for his birthday I got sick because she described her love for him, and before that she wrote me sweet things again, she sent me photos with embracing couples, but what I was angry and I couldn't stand it anymore and I wrote to her that I was in some great illusion and that I was sorry for what I had given her, because she was happy then, and she replied that she was not sorry and that everything was real, I was he asked if she was alone if she would be with me now and he replied that she would be with me from the beginning. But he told me he couldn't leave him like that and I know it's so hard and it's because they have a plan for the future, I knew so many things even deep down I knew things wouldn't happen but I kept going. She told me that she wanted us to have a normal relationship, and that I was not ordinary and that she cared about me. But the first time I told her I couldn't do that, we didn't write to each other for 3-4 days. this is briefly about the story. I don't stop thinking about her, every other girl is uninteresting and I don't like her and that's why it's hard for me now. My question is: I think she let me go quite easily, but she told me that she should, if she would feel sorry for me because there was a thrill and I think there is more, and that I am serious and saw that I was not I'm interested in other girls even if they fish me, and this is what she told me is one of the pluses she liked the most in me, as well as my blue eyes ... Should I be friendly or should I stop contact? In time, can she look for me if they break up with hers, or better yet, have no hope of it? Whatever it is, I have respect for her and it will be difficult for me to overcome the fact that many things we have said to each other have not been experienced.
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Eh, this story sounds to me like the dozens here, in which a committed man grabs a girl for a mistress, talks to him about all sorts of nonsense to enchant him, but then returns to his official partner, because something is there ... oh, yes : it wasn't that easy; we have experienced a lot together; so it is better and other banalities in this spirit. Except here is the opposite. Who wants to tell you anything, but in front of a person who is sincerely in love, there are no obstacles. People ruin long-term families with children in order to be with the object of their desires, and she went to live with him?!. Yes, it is difficult, a lot of sacrifice, but the desire is above all. I say this both from personal experience and from observations of others. There is an option for her to be dependent on him in some way, but I don't know ... Years ago I was in a similar situation as the lady in question - I was in a relationship, but I fell in love with some guy. I made a lot of promises to him, until after 6 months I got bored and went home to my friend. Now I'm wondering, but then I didn't even think about it. I can't tell you 100%, but I think it was a momentary hobby. It is good for you to delete it completely from your life. Extremely painful, but just as sensible. If she wants, she'll contact you. You try to focus on the sobering process, away from it. It will be good for both your emotional health and your dignity. Success! You try to focus on the sobering process, away from it. It will be good for both your emotional health and your dignity. Success! You try to focus on the sobering process, away from it. It will be good for both your emotional health and your dignity. Success!
Dude, you came across a good manipulator. I'll disappoint you, and you'll probably prefer not to believe me, but the only person she really cares about is herself. Rest assured that he will not part with his friend because of you. She certainly doesn't love him to cheat on him and then most hypocritically explain herself to him in love, but whether because he is financially more stable or has some other benefit from him, she won't leave him. For her, you were fun. She's hardly had so much variety on the farm, and she may be bored with her relationship, but don't confuse that with real feelings for you. Instead of wondering and cheating, take matters into your own hands and find one for which you will be in the first place. I am a woman and have met and regularly continue to meet skilled manipulators who spin several men at once. She wanted to get your attention, she has achieved good results, you were perfect for her ego, and now she is moving forward. Rest assured that if her boyfriend finds out about her infidelity one day, she will pray on his knees and shed many crocodile tears and who knows what she will say to him. Don't waste your time. Success!
And live her life and don't chase windmills. You're serious, she's. I know it's wonderful for you, and so on. but it's not. Don't wait for her, don't waste your time. As a wife, I also wanted to flirt and flirt with others because my boyfriend doesn't notice me anymore, I'm not interested in him, but only enough to boost my self-esteem. But she has come a long way, and if she loves you and various other nonsense that tells you, what else is she doing with her boyfriend? Isn't it easy? !! What keeps her so with him? Is he on his deathbed? Come on, please be safe from such
Looks like you were just summer fun. I know it sounds ugly, and there was probably something real about you, but think about it: is it real when she's been through you so quickly? Of course, the other would not leave him, it was clear from the beginning. She didn't even intend to, so it suited her perfectly. Which is actually even worse for her boyfriend, not so much for you. I'll probably go to extremes, but maybe you got rid of it a little. She cheated on him, not you. In conclusion - in my opinion, whatever your feelings for her at the moment, forget them. Not worth it. There are so many other girls that would be worth the effort.
Do not waste your time. She doesn't squeeze. She is obviously not happy, but she is either afraid of his reaction or she is not sure that you are the person with whom she has to replace a long and stable relationship - especially since they live together. Shake yourself. Whatever it was stays on the farm in the summer of 2018. You will meet your girl for whom you are the only one and there is no doubt that she wants you to be together.
Even if I don't agree with 1 and 2 that she manipulated you and played with you, even if there was something real between you, I share their advice to you - stop contact. Being friendly and waiting for their relationship to break up and get your turn is pure masochism with a great deal of lost dignity. It hurts terribly, but that's the solution. She made her choice, but she wants to keep you in her life, it doesn't happen! She needs to understand that if she decides to be with the other, it is extremely painful for you to be around her and not have her. I say again - I do not agree with 1 and 2 that she turned you on her finger, but I also think that you are a little deeper in the film than reality. You had a spark, it was real, but not real enough to make her let go of everything and follow her. Or maybe she is just uncharacteristic and finds it difficult to make big decisions / make changes and keep it safe. We can't say, but the advice to all of us is to break away. Tell her how real it was for you, tell her that everything you sent and imagined for you is more than a fantasy and you see a possible world in which reality is, but if she can't choose you you can't torment yourself with something that will not happen. Tell the truth. and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... We can't say, but the advice to all of us is to break away. Tell her how real it was for you, tell her that everything you sent and imagined for you is more than a fantasy and you see a possible world in which reality is, but if she can't choose you you can't torment yourself with something that will not happen. Tell the truth. and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... We can't say, but the advice to all of us is to break away. Tell her how real it was for you, tell her that everything you sent and imagined for you is more than a fantasy and you see a possible world in which reality is, but if she can't choose you you can't torment yourself with something that will not happen. Tell the truth. and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you cannot be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... also say that everything you have sent and imagined for you is more than a fantasy and you see a possible world in which reality is, but if it cannot choose you you cannot torment yourself with something that will not happen. Tell the truth. and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... also say that everything you have sent and imagined for you is more than a fantasy and you see a possible world in which reality is, but if it cannot choose you you cannot torment yourself with something that will not happen. Tell the truth. and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ... and tell her how, precisely because it was real, you can't be by her side without being with her. I don't care if you do it for her, not to ruin her relationship or for yourself, not to hurt you or for your dignity, but this is the right decision. It is a pity that something so beautiful did not happen. It doesn't matter if it was really beautiful or just in your head ... it's a pity for both of you ...
What friendships? She keeps you a "reserve" to have a lot of "traffic". And have you ever wondered how many "reserves" there are still? And what's the point of cheating on you all the time? And how do you calm down that her boyfriend deserves infidelity - by trusting her. Therefore, trust a woman - only after inspection!
From the Author: Thanks for the accurate and objective comments. This is exactly what she told me when I was in Sofia with her, that 5 years are a lot, that she is used to him, I asked her if she was happy with him, she answered that it doesn't matter ... I think everything was sincere, but it was fear. The other day he even asked me if I had anything more to do with a colleague of mine, because I had told her that I went to university and she helped me, I was withdrawn. I said no, but I think I should have told her for now, not to burn her a little. She answered me that having something is not bad, but I think she will be sick because she knows what I gave her. They have a plan to go to the farm again, and I have this plan, but not because of her and we will probably meet there again ...
From the Author: Hello, I want to inform you what happened this month after my post. At the beginning of December we hadn't written to each other for a few days, because I had written some things that were untrue, but there were also true things because of a post to a friend that affected me, but after those days I thought and just accepted the situation and I'm much better. One day I wrote to her, but not with heavy conversations and writings, but normal writings. At the beginning she was quite distant, but she started to relax because I talked to her about nice things, fun, optimistic. She started writing to me quite often and got to the point that I went to Sofia while she was at work, I surprised her and she was shocked by the nice side, it was before Christmas. I was with a friend who had a job in Sofia and I told him to just go and see her and surprise her. Still, I didn't expect anything or hope, but we kissed, hugged and even took her to them. She told me that no one had done such a surprise to her soon, and that made me wonder if he was doing anything for her at all, with a gesture or a surprise, but I didn't think so. It's a little strange to me, because he's jealous of me twice. One time for the New Year, because there were some Greek women in the company and I shared it, and I share more than she deserves. She told me that she would send me to Greece, and I answered a few things to annoy her, that I would send her an invitation to come to Greece and that I hope she would not refuse the invitation anyway. I liked it, but I'm not for one night. The other day I was out with 3 colleagues for coffee and they even marked me with one photo uploaded, because one of the colleagues knows about my story and I wonder in my mind what things I do for this girl, he advised me to stop contact, but I can't, I tried for a few days, but I can't. After the note and the photo with the colleagues, the girl was obviously very annoyed, she told me that I was a scumbag, that I only went out with girls, and they are my colleagues and I had nothing to do with them nor will I just have nice company. We've been writing a lot of dirt for a few days now, because I know she likes it, she wanted me to go to Sofia, but I refused and she got mad at me. This is the general situation for now, we have a normal relationship, but there is a thrill and it does not go away with both. But I do not hope for anything and I do not expect anything, I think she will be sick if I am lucky to find a girlfriend and that is why I am jealous of these colleagues.
On the one hand, I feel good about being jealous, because it was pretty hard for me at one time, but I try to distract myself as much as I can and that helps me. I forgot to write that her mother added me on Facebook even because she told her mother and that I was near Sofia and about everything that became a mother and she knows about us. Her mother said it was a big gesture to her and I look up in her eyes and maybe. But the girl told me not to accept her, she even quarreled with her about why she gave me friendship. I think it's a good sign that her mother likes me. She also likes that I pay attention to her, but if I'm lucky enough to meet a girl who interests me and this time is NOT BOUND I will try and make her happy !! Overall, this is a good experience from which I learned a lot and especially with a committed girl not to start doing nonsense ... because she told her mother that I had been to Sofia as well as about everything that had become a mother and she knew about us. Her mother said it was a big gesture to her and I look up in her eyes and maybe. But the girl told me not to accept her, she even quarreled with her about why she gave me friendship. I think it's a good sign that her mother likes me. She also likes that I pay attention to her, but if I'm lucky enough to meet a girl who interests me and this time is NOT BOUND I will try and make her happy !!
Overall, this is a good experience from which I learned a lot and especially with a committed girl not to start doing nonsense ... because she told her mother that I had been to Sofia as well as about everything that had become a mother and she knew about us. Her mother said it was a big gesture to her and I look up in her eyes and maybe. But the girl told me not to accept her, she even quarreled with her about why she gave me friendship. I think it's a good sign that her mother likes me. She also likes that I pay attention to her, but if I'm lucky enough to meet a girl who interests me and this time is NOT BOUND I will try and make her happy !! Overall, this is a good experience from which I learned a lot and especially with a committed girl not to start doing nonsense ... that it is a good sign that her mother likes me. She also likes that I pay attention to her, but if I am lucky enough to meet a girl who interests me and this time is NOT BOUND I will try and make her happy! Overall, this is a good experience from which I learned a lot and especially with a committed girl not to start doing nonsense ... that it is a good sign that her mother likes me. She also likes that I pay attention to her, but if I am lucky enough to meet a girl who interests me and this time is NOT BOUND I will try and make her happy! Overall, this is a good experience from which I learned a lot and especially with a committed girl not to start doing nonsense ...