Hi, I'm a 23 year old girl. I will tell you my pressures and I sincerely ask you, those who want to get involved and advise me what to do, because I am very confused. I have a friend of 1 and a half years, he is 26 years old. At first I didn't like him enough, but he did a lot of nice things for me to win me over, the first 12 months were perfect, we got along great. Gradually I began to fall in love with him and things got even better. But there came a moment when he seemed to calm down that he had won me over. He stopped being as nice to me as he did in the beginning, he stopped telling me I love you, and before he did it every day (and now he tells me but it's quite rare), we started arguing and he was very annoyed when I started to cry, instead of hugging me and reassuring me or saying something nice to me, he starts yelling at me, that in this way he feels like a drummer and that he feels responsible for it. It's as if he thinks I'm pretending to be a victim, and that's not the case, it's just that when I'm sad I can't help but shed tears. I started to complain to him more often about small things, I admit it, but it's because I feel ignored, I want him to pay more attention to me. I used to be for him in the first place, and now I don't feel that way. He told me to stop pissing him off because he would dump me if we continued like this, and that our relationship had no prospects. It turned out that he was very nervous and hot-tempered at times, he had not shown it for the first year. We had a lot of nasty scandals that weren't serious, for example, I'm pissed about something and he erupts from that fact and starts yelling at me and telling me that if we fight again and sulk like that, he'll dump me. When I noticed the change, I had a few conversations with him and told him that he was really different, but he claimed to be the same and did not want to accept it. Nakaraya told me that now that he has won me over, he knows that I am with him and that he does not need to take down my stars every day. This is so I agree, but it has changed too much - I look too cold compared to the first year. The sex between us is great so far, maybe that's all that's going on - although after sex he's quite indifferent, and before he was much more in love. I haven't looked at another man since I've been with him, but I'm afraid things will fall apart. I am also sure that he is loyal to me, he is serious and responsible, I trust him. It hurts me a lot that this is how things develop. Now I stopped sulking and we haven't fought for a long time, but he's cold again, I miss the man I met in the beginning. Tell me, is there a way to get it back at least halfway How can I arouse more interest in him again and behave as nicely as before? I want a man to get involved and share his point of view - in the sense that my friend should behave in such a way that he no longer loves me, why he is with me and what to do from now on to make things right. ? How can I arouse more interest in him again and behave as nicely as before? I want a man to get involved and share his point of view - in the sense that my friend should behave in such a way that he no longer loves me, why he is with me and what to do from now on to make things right. ? How can I arouse more interest in him again and behave as nicely as before? I want a man to get involved and share his point of view - in the sense that my friend should behave in such a way that he no longer loves me, why he is with me and what to do from now on to make things right. ?
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Dear author, I am in the same situation as you. That's why I won't fool you - your man has cooled down and that's a fact. In my opinion, it is best for you to move forward, with someone who will truly love you and will not take you for granted. And it hasn't changed. It's just that now that he has won you over, he can easily show his true nature ...
Well, instead of looking for ways to manipulate him - SPEAK! When you cry tell him "Don't make me cry, just hug me and everything will be ok with me in ten seconds" When you feel ignored and eat him say "Sorry for behaving like that, but it's because I feel sometimes ignored, I have the feeling at times that you don't care about me and it will be very nice and will help me a lot if you assure me from time to time that this is not the case "Don't pretend you were different and want to come back the old nice man. It will not happen. You can't sit and talk to someone against him and expect him to agree with you. Why are you doing this? Do you really want to dump you? Share with him. Seek him for advice, for help. Do not fail to express admiration, to encourage it. Ask for favors - men die for such things. And another thing - understand that everyone expresses their feelings in a different way. You cannot expect another human being to experience love as you do. For him, a sign of love may be that he decided to offer to take you somewhere or that he took your cat to the vet (for example) Try to understand that we express our feelings in different ways - it's that simple. Watch him, understand his way - do not try to impose your own, because even if he tries, there is simply no hell, and every failure will make him feel like a loser and run away from you more and more. Show a little intelligence and a lot of feminine tenderness and understanding and everything will fall into place in about a month. that he decided to offer to take you somewhere or that he took your cat to a vet (for example) Try to understand that we express our feelings in different ways - it's that simple. Watch him, understand his way - do not try to impose your own, because even if he tries, there is simply no hell, and every failure will make him feel like a loser and run away from you more and more. Show a little intelligence and a lot of feminine tenderness and understanding and everything will fall into place in about a month. that he decided to offer to take you somewhere or that he took your cat to the vet (for example) Try to understand that we express our feelings in different ways - it's that simple. Watch him, understand his way - do not try to impose your own, because even if he tries, there is simply no hell, and every failure will make him feel like a loser and run away from you more and more. Show a little intelligence and a lot of feminine tenderness and understanding and everything will fall into place in about a month. and every failure will make him feel like a loser and run away from you more and more. Show a little intelligence and a lot of feminine tenderness and understanding and everything will fall into place in about a month. and every failure will make him feel like a loser and run away from you more and more. Show a little intelligence and a lot of feminine tenderness and understanding and everything will fall into place in about a month.
In my opinion, the mistake of all women is that after "tying" their master, they stop taking care of themselves enough. I'm not just talking about looks, I'm talking about demeanor. Stay mysterious, don't reveal yourself completely, but little by little, surprise him with something new, something he doesn't expect from you to keep his interest. When you relax and show him that he is almost your whole world, then he will inevitably cool down. Well, how can he not, after he won you over. Men are hunters by nature, and when you give yourself completely to them, there comes a time when monotony makes them stop trying and show that they love the woman, simply because they think there is no need, nothing to push for. So my advice is to do something in this direction, become more mysterious at least to arouse his interest again. Doriana
Honey I am in exactly the same situation and my friend changed and started to behave cold I constantly read on the internet how to keep my partner and learned many important things be mysterious surprise him I thought that by sulking or pretending to sad will help but it is not so .. men are radically different from girls they have different thinking to be happy be happy it's hard I know it from personal experience but we have to behave .. Now I'll tell you what happened to me after reading a little information on the internet .. as I wrote to my friend on Facebook I told him that I was doing something different .. and I was thinking of buying garters and I asked him what color he preferred .. he told me white .. and so he became interested and the relationship is getting a little bit slower .. I'm not telling you to tell him you're buying garters just do something different that you thinkthat he will like it so that he can get excited and happy to have a thrill that will make him be with you .. this is from me :)
Thank you for the advice, you are very kind :) I expect more people to get involved :)
I made a mistake and told him that dumb pays attention and just fucks me and then falls asleep and now lately there is no sexual attraction to me what to do :(