Hello, I'm 15 years old girl. I had a 6 month relationship with a boy my age. Things were going well between us, even though he was constantly doing things that annoyed me, and he knew that, but when I remarked to him and got angry with him, he excused himself and apologized and claimed that he was doing them unconsciously. I always forgave him, I always tried to be free to write and he always wanted to be somewhere with his friends who are not like him at all because when he wants to go out with them they are always busy but when he wants you he is still free . I was annoyed by this and I explained to him and explained that they used him and did not influence him well and he resigned himself to somewhere and left them. But it wasn't long before he started behaving horribly with me and we broke up (I broke up with him). And after day two we quarreled, he reproached me for how I could quarrel with him about his friends, etc. I felt terrible.
This happened 4 days before my birthday. Two days later he had written to a friend and she showed me everything. She claimed that she would regret losing me because I was a nice person and he had said that if he had started explaining to me about me he would have had a headache. It hurt a lot. Now he does the things I didn't let him do, he goes out with his friends, he rarely comes to school, he pretends to be interesting in front of other girls, his success has become tragic again as before we left. He doesn't pay attention to me, he forgot me, and it hurts me. I do not know what to do. I want him to take an interest in me again and regret losing me, I want him to want me again. I can't forget it for a month now. Please help me, tell me how to proceed and what to do how do you think to behave? Thanks in advance.
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Yes, I have your problems. Let him suffer and that's it. He's not the only boy !! -M20
One month is not much. People have been suffering for years. Otherwise, the surest way is to ignore him and he will be ambitious to conquer you.
"I want him to regret losing me, I want him to want me again." Why?
You have no idea how many more you will meet, he is a kid who pretends to be "cool" but he doesn't realize at all that it's pathetic and funny. The problem is that you set him up against them, you stopped him and he got tired of this control, he wanted his freedom and you suffocated him for his own good, but he didn't realize it. They asked you why you are, why you want this, I ask, and I will meet you guys, you will see how many others there will be, you don't need such a person. Imagine life with him in the evening in pubs and discos with friends when he comes home to call you, will this be life? why do you want to punish yourself in such a good way that nothing so good happened to you with this boy. Raise your head and don't care about him, let him shake his head,
As he wrote you number 2, don't pay any attention to him. If he greets you, answer him with a smile, if he says something to you, always look cheerful, as if you forgot him. Go out with friends, you can also go out with a boy friend, if there is one he is jealous of, for example. But not on a date, just to go out. But your ex won't know if it was a date or not, and he'll screw it up. So, don't look for him, look like you forgot him and he will want to win you over again.
Yes, yes, yes, "You broke it"! Hahaha, I will burst out laughing !!! Who do you think you are? !? About the Queen? !? No wonder the man has left you - look how arrogant and dictatorial you behave, with such an attitude no one would take you. Who are you to judge who are his friends and who are not, he has the right to side contacts! Thus, a full-fledged relationship cannot be maintained - with one dominant leader (in your case). Who are you to enslave him and forbid him to have contact with people, for you not to be a puppet, a paw that does not know what he wants and what is best for him, watch her work! That's how you like it, let it hurt you, not respecting his feelings and desires and pulling his nose everywhere. "I want him to be interested in me." Well, if you want, fix your demeanor, because otherwise you forget, never,
Love is not about wanting to change someone, "edit" their lifestyle and impose your views on them. According to you, his friends are more like traitors, but you know nothing about their relationship as they see it. The boy has the right to choose how much to study, when and with whom to go out and what to do with his life. You must be a great person and I guess he likes a lot of things about you, but your desire to impose your opinion on him repulses him. I couldn't be with someone who is against my friends and my grades. Even if I'm madly in love with this man, it's parasitic love, not real love. Before you start thinking about how to get his attention, think about what repulses him ... learn to love and want him, not the one you want him to be.