I'm a girl, 21. I have a friend a year older than me. We have been together since the end of 2016, but we have separated several times. Most of the time it was for a short time, only once we were separated for 4 months (2017 August to the end of December). At first, our relationship was not serious for him. He cheated on me regularly and with different girls. Of course, I didn't know, but I understood and then we broke up for 4 months. I suspected he might be cheating on me because he just loves women's attention. Anyway. We exchanged roles for a year. Out of anger, I began to cheat on him. With different, even with his friends. He understood, but I didn't bother to hide it either. Somehow I wanted to make him jealous and maybe feel what I felt, how much he had hurt me. We parted many times and got together. But I kept going because I saw that he did not suffer as much as I did. He just knew that I had eyes only for him and that no one I was with could replace him. And so it was. It is said that in love one always loves more. We both knew it was me. But I was desperately trying to show him that was not the case. A month and a half ago we met again. And we had a long conversation. We agreed that there would be no more infidelities. I promised him that I was done with them and that he could trust me now. We decided to start fresh. But after everything I've done, he doesn't trust me at all. He constantly teases me about his infidelities and that even if he wants to, he can't believe me. He doubts everything I tell him, he always thinks that I continue to cheat on him. I trust him because after the 4 month separation he has changed for the better. But he, despite me, knows that I love him more than anything, he doesn't trust me. How can I prove to him that I am no longer what I used to be? How can I explain to him and make him believe me?
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Whatever was knocked called. Tell him if there's anyone to be angry with, he's angry with you, he challenged you to give him back. How as a man cheats a woman forgives, but a woman cheats the circuses start. I had such a case, to be honest, you will continue to quarrel and separate. Everyone will go their own way!
This connection has become a pot of grapes. She has already ended his infidelities. And not one, notice. I would say tear and throw. And for the other option, if you want the "hard" way. Well, you are patient. You will tolerate all sorts of insinuations, even insults, digging in the phone and so on. Eventually, he may believe you, and not completely.
Leave him, separate. A normal girl doesn't fuck left and right for revenge. You are a light wife. You will not stop with the infidelities and the next you will cheat again. At least beware of infections.
Egati and friendship have your boyfriend, as soon as they allowed themselves to sleep with you ...
1st, your actions make you absolute rubbish. 2nd, who cheats, then has no right to complain that they do not trust him or that they are scolding him for it. Rarely can someone change from this, as your friend may have done, but the new trust takes time and will not happen just because you have decided so and you want it. In your head, everything was at play and to prove some nonsense or to make the other feel like you and you think that turning the page in your head with ease as you planned all the time and in reality so the leaf will turn but you are wrong. What you have done must be suffered and redeemed. Pay or get used to your new status :)
As he is, so are you. Male and female k --- and you have gathered. This is neither love nor a relationship. You have finished arguing with whom and you have already become honest and righteous. For a month or two, most likely. As you have done more than once. I wouldn't believe him or you.
The pot rolled over and found its lid. Yours is not a relationship, nor is it love, yours is a disgusting competition of who will cheat on whom more, who will outdo the other more. Personally, I would not live a day in such a relationship, what is left to trust such specimens as you. I too can be lied to and deceived - but once, only once. I will not allow it a second time. And you and your "friend" - you disgust me. No apologies.
His first infidelities had to end. Otherwise, now everyone is hinting at who slapped where and when, but you do it yourself. When you see that he has slept with others, you break up and do not look at him again. You find a man who is decent and does not change you to such an extent that you cheat in vain. At first he didn't love you and wanted you, why should he do it now? Now he teases you things, but he doesn't see his guilt in the beginning. But it's like nowadays there is no culture and morality in relationships. They sleep with others, and then I love you very much. You are both guilty. He said he was a light man in the beginning and you weren't strong enough to rub him back then. Now you tolerate being humiliated by a man who does not see his guilt for your relationship, and he is the victim. And there are other men in this country, find someone who will make you better, not a light woman.
His first infidelities had to end. Otherwise, now everyone is hinting at who slapped where and when, but you do it yourself. When you see that he has slept with others, you break up and do not look at him again. You find a man who is decent and does not change you to such an extent that you cheat in vain. At first he didn't love you and wanted you, why should he do it now? Now he teases you things, but he doesn't see his guilt in the beginning. But it's like nowadays there is no culture and morality in relationships. They sleep with others, and then I love you very much. You are both guilty. He said he was a light man in the beginning and you weren't strong enough to rub him back then. Now you tolerate being humiliated by a man who does not see his guilt for your relationship, and he is the victim. And there are other men in this country, find someone who will make you better, not a light woman.