Hello, I am a 17-year-old girl and I have a problem with my parents. My father still accepts me as a 10-year-old, and that's a little more. I live in a small town, but for 2 years I have been studying in the neighboring town, which is 15 km away. I also have friends with whom I want to go out, but of course my father doesn't let me go until later at 9-9: 30 because then there is no one to pick me up. As you can guess, most people my age go out right after 9 o'clock and there is no point in going out then. On the other hand we have an apartment in this city. I asked my father to stay there at least for the summer so I could go out, socialize and have fun, and of course the answer was that I was too young to be alone. I feel terribly bad because everyone goes out in the evening and I stay at home like a super antisocial person and all day I just lie down and watch movies. Please help me! How can I prove to him that I can stay alone in the apartment and he agrees? Моляяяяяяя !!!
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You have less than a year until you turn 18 ... Then the work is easy.
And I didn't go out at 17 in the evening, and I also lived in a medium-sized city. The truth is, you don't miss anything. Going to cafes / bars / discos ... people who put on new clothes and make-up to show off for something they are not, there are a lot of fakes and not all people are real. Also, companies are not always real friendships - sometimes people who just gather at a table, but when you need them you don't. :) I believe that there is something to do during the day. Organize other plans even 2, 3 friends just to agree a day you can always go for a walk, cook, ride bikes / rollerblades, go to the movies, take a train / bus and walk to town for an hour or two distance. and so on. Be creative. Life is not only from 9 pm, but the rest of the time boredom. Growing up is also not always so cool;). Don't be angry with your father,
Hello, why don't you think about what your father says and does? !! He hardly does it because he thinks evil of you and doesn't want you to have fun. Just find time to go out more during the day. Everyone wants the best for their child. And you are really tiny, wait until 18 and you will see that things will change. All in good time! :)
You will soon be 18 and you will be free.
And how did she "deserve" this more freedom? Did you start cleaning, cooking at home? Shopping, carrying money? ... RIGHTS GO TOGETHER WITH OBLIGATIONS, my girl! So - win your rights. There is no other way...
At 17, you still don't have enough life experience to protect yourself and make sensible decisions. Besides, we live in a country of absurdities. You're a girl, people are worried, it's normal. Don't judge your parents. After 9 o'clock in the evening it means automatically: alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. Put yourself in your father's place and think how would you act in his place? And what does a person experience when he knows that you are out in the middle of the night, maybe you drink alcohol or take drugs or some guy can drag you somewhere ... Every night like that is a nightmare for a parent, believe me. No, I'm not a retiree, as he must have thought. I am a man of 35 years, only 15 years ago I was in the same situation and I thought the same way as you. It wasn't until life began to crush me that I realized how right my parents used to be. Listen to me as a person,
The only way to prove it to him is to start supporting yourself.