I am 28 years old I met a divorced man with a child, my colleague with whom we fell in love very much with each other. He adored me, carried me in his arms, proposed marriage to me every day, pressured me to give him an answer whether I would accept his child, whom I had not even seen at the time. As soon as this happened, I was very stressed by the whole situation and thank God 10 days later I was sent to study in France. He became very jealous, he kept insisting on my answer. There were ugly scenes with scandals and insults, he chased me dozens of times and I came back just as many times after his prayer. He wanted security, too, and for that very reason I did not give him a firm answer, I told him I needed time and I continued to prove my love by forgiving him all the scenes and insults. Later he kicked me out again and this time I didn't come back for 3 months, I didn't sleep, I didn't eat and I got to the edge and all this because of my pain and confusion. During these 3 months he cheated on me (he claims it was an attempt to run away from me and stop his pain). I forgave him and accepted him again. The problem is that now nothing is the same. I no longer feel his strong love and affection and he continues to claim that he loves me, but somehow I feel that he has grown cold to me. Give me advice on what to do to restore the strength of our feelings and his attachment to me. I no longer feel his strong love and affection and he continues to claim that he loves me, but somehow I feel that he has grown cold to me. Give me advice on what to do to restore the strength of our feelings and his attachment to me. I no longer feel his strong love and affection and he continues to claim that he loves me, but somehow I feel that he has grown cold to me. Give me advice on what to do to restore the strength of our feelings and his attachment to me.
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I am a man. I read you the letter several times. You can't live with sex alone. Your friend is looking for a mother for his child. This is your problem. Don't write anything about yourself. At 28, you are not small. Are you beautiful Are you educated? Have you been married? Can you have children? Are you ready to be a good mother of your own and someone else's child? Are you a good housewife? Can you guard a house? Is the man a good father? Where does he live? How's the money? Do you drink And many other questions that one night, after you're done after sex, you both have to solve. Otherwise I can tell you straight. You are not for each other, at least as long as you are stubborn, dear lady.
I give more information about myself. Yes, I am beautiful, I am a research associate, I have not been married, I can have children and I am ready to be a good mother, I cook fantastically, housework is not a problem for me. It is difficult for me to say if the man next to me is a good father because the child has been raised for 3 years by his parents in the countryside, his paternal functions are expressed only in 1 minute of telephone conversations every night. He is very good with money, but this is not the most important thing, he still lives for rent. He drinks but rarely gets drunk ....
It's very ugly to "drive out". And you mention it several times. In love there is separation, not expulsion. Then what is it between you and is it worth continuing. If you are a research associate, then you are intelligent, if you are beautiful, why do you allow him to humiliate you in this way. I think if you want to be with him, you have to make him respect you first, and then you want him to love you. I wish you happiness!
I think this should end! It's a pity, but sometimes the relationship ends and ends and this is quite normal. Moreover, your friend puts too much negative emotion and burdens you. Save it, this is my advice.
When he chases you, what do you do with him? I think it's time for a change. Find another one - to love and RESPECT you!
Thank you friends for your comments and advice. The situation worsened terribly, I got to the point of begging him for a hug and a kiss, I can't stand it anymore, I haven't found my life on the street. I don't know how much I have the right to give advice, but I especially want to turn to women! Women respect yourself and never waste time gluing broken dishes, especially if you are alone in this endeavor! If you see that it does not work, know one thing for sure, it will not change! I wish success and good luck to all!