Hi, I've been looking for a job for a long time and I finally found it. At first I liked walking so much that I was constantly thinking about the day. I got along very well with my colleagues. I am basically a very cheerful person, I dare say that I have a sense of humor ... and I quickly adapt to work and people. Every day we worked and had fun, laughed and joked with each other .... not in a few months everything .... changed. Colleagues began to back away, to be rude, and not even to call me for a cigarette. There is a colleague who annoys me a hell of a lot and I don't contact him. I haven't been very rude about him, but I don't hide it from him or from anyone that I don't like. And another colleague who came after me annoyed us a lot, because firstly he didn't work but supported himself and secondly, that he was blabbering on like crazy. But after a while they put me on the same machine with him and we both worked and gave me a chance to get to know him well. It's really weird, but it's not that bad. Anyway ... today very few people respect and talk to me, and I stayed with this "strange" colleague. From now on we will be a team with him and we have to help each other and for that I decided to admit my words to him. That is, I had a guilty conscience and told him everything that I and the others had said. I don't know what I wanted to do to insure that he would probably be my best friend anymore ... I don't know. I'm very ashamed I made a mistake somewhere and I don't know what, but I changed my opinion of most colleagues about me (and it was very good), and now what I don't know what to do, I don't like going to work when I know people are talking behind my back. And I still try to like them again but it doesn't work. What can I do to get my friends back? How to bring back the happy days again?
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As banal as it sounds at work behind the backs of colleagues, either only good or nothing is said.
you can not. past tense. you decided to be honest with the man, commendable, but why did you have to involve others. now whatever you do in their eyes your hypocrite and intriguer it is
At work, although hypocritically, I maintain a good relationship. It's perfectly normal that not everyone likes me, but in the end we work together. I've heard a lot of stories about everyone, both those I like and those I don't like, but I've never allowed myself to intrigue and tell them what I've heard.
So, first you spoke behind the backs of colleagues, they withdraw and everything comes back to you in the same way - what is unclear? This will be the job, the first impression is the most lasting, even in primary school it is so. It's bad if they get caught for things like that, but you're not an 8-year-old, isn't it a little stupid to talk behind your back, do tricks and have gossip. Because, after all, now this "Strange" colleague is your only relative. Life is like a card, it can always fall, it can always change its face and it is not stable at all, so as you play it, so will your game continue. the work is simple, someone has said something about you, the rumors are starting, people are withdrawing and congratulations, congratulations ... Zu-Za
Gossip is not tolerated, especially in a cohesive team.