Hello. Every night I fall asleep with the thought that tomorrow I will be different, I will be stronger and more confident, and in the morning I am crushed and without self-confidence. I'm a big person and I can't find a job, I'm afraid I won't be able to do it, I'll be funny in someone's eyes ... I've worked in a lot of places and I always panic, cry at night and blame myself. After a while I get used to it and I'm calmer, but until that happens I go through some kind of horror. I have no reason to worry, I'm responsible, I'm not lazy, I want to work and I've always managed, I just don't know why. I don't want it to happen again. When they offer me a job, I am stunned and procrastinate, or I refuse. And I really want to work, to be independent and calm, to organize my time. How to be more confident, what to do, how to fall in love. Everyone says I'm a nice woman, now I am a student and I have potential, I know it, but I am afraid. I'm not like normal people, I don't feel comfortable, I always buy some clothes, thinking that this will make me more confident that I will like myself and it will be easy for me. I want to like myself, to be comfortable, to be calm, I always try to support one of my friends, and I have to build my own personality. I can't be so happy. What is the reason for this, how to help myself. and I have to build my own individuality. I can't be so happy. What is the reason for this, how to help myself. and I have to build my own individuality. I can't be so happy. What is the reason for this, how to help myself.
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The most difficult thing in life is to find yourself, to accept yourself as you are and to constantly try to improve. However, darling, there are no perfect people, understand that. If you stop looking at yourself for a while and look at others, you may understand. Since I am also in your position, I guess that whatever advice they give you, it will be hard for you to believe. Understand one thing, however, people without self-confidence like you and me, unfortunately, are usually crushed by those with great, but without much coverage. Such is life, so head up! Wake up with a smile even if you see no reason. Look at things positively to attract positive people! Be brave! Success! If you want write to me!
I want to thank the person who left comment 2, if there were people like you around me, I'm sure I would feel better. I have friends to whom I have shared about my condition, but they do not break down and say that I do not know what I want, some think that I do not work and others say that I wonder what problem to think of. Thanks for understanding me without knowing me. I know that this is not a big problem for people, I feel funny that I complain, but it does not allow me to live fully, I have noticed that many take advantage of the fact that I am weak and build their self-confidence and confidence on people like me. I was in a lot of pain. I thought the problem came from my past. I was a single child, growing up with my mother's parents, and she worked far away. I'm still alone. That's how I feel. I have a friend, good and caring, but he doesn't understand how I feel.
Everyone will tell you you have to do this and that, you have to be this and that, you have to think so and so .... this is necessary, this is not necessary ... And you will repeat I want, but I don't know how, I want , but I can not. I think you will deal with the problems if you clarify their nature. Obviously one aspect is psychological. So you need skills, motivation, environment. Clarify what you want, what you can do, what you can't do, what kind of people you communicate with, what goals you have. If it is difficult for you - consult a psychologist, psychoanalyst, and if the problem is related to some depression and a psychiatrist. There are many books by psychologists in specialized bookstores. Madeleine Algafari, Pierre Daco and others. Just like something and work on yourself. It may be difficult at first, but if you have decided to find your way - there is no way not to find it. Ask for it hard enough and you will find it. Success!
From №2. I understand you very well. Many people don't like me either and think that I don't have the will or that I am weak-willed or that I'm a liar. And so I wake up every morning and see that nothing has changed and I despair. Don't think that when I give you this advice, I stick to it. It is difficult, but we have to deal with it ourselves. №3 is right. First you need to understand what is the job that you will do with pleasure, the one that will suit you. There is certainly one. And when you find it, you will understand how capable you are and that there is a reason to have self-confidence. I'm glad I helped you at least a little. Keep up the good work!
Look in the mirror and SMILE .... nothing else. Good luck ;-)
the other should not in any way force you to accept it as a pure coin! You have your vision for him, just as he has his vision for himself! ... That's what I found out about myself and others at my almost 43 years, young girl! :)