Cheers: I will try to be as short as possible so as not to burden you unnecessarily. Here is my story, I am a 28-year-old man, I have had a girlfriend for some time, with whom everything was fine in the beginning, but after I really met her, I realized that she is not the girl I would like to be with, I am a person who she loves to travel, I love nature walks, and many other things, and she is a girl who, as she told me, loves to travel but only to the sea and back, and to pamper her, with gifts and such, not that I do not give her gifts, but when I want to go somewhere, on a walk she always grumbles. I once tried to hint to her that I wanted to break up to see how she would react, but she told me she wanted to be with me, the point is that I no longer know if I have the same feelings as she did in the beginning, and I don't see why we should stay together. I want to tell her that maybe it's best to break up, but to do it in a way that doesn't hurt her. If you have a comment or opinion on how I can do it, welcome, I consider several options. But I want to hear other opinions. Does it make sense.
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Just tell her directly. What do you have to think about it?
Well, just say so much, better a terrible ending than an endless horror!
Either you accept the shortcomings / with the sea and pampering /, as she does yours / with walks in nature / or simply explain to her that you want to part. Do not just walk in the forest, but pick it up, kiss it, give it flowers, etc. just made the walk more enjoyable. Well, go through the beach first, just don't turn the different things you like into negative qualities, share your differences or, as I said, go and drop it. If not, you have no feelings for you - don't bother :)
by the Author: Thanks to the commenters, but it so happened that the topic ended, even before it started, as they say, everything between us is over, and better.
Why so suddenly? Will the author share details?
By number 6, I wanted to talk seriously with her, and we decided that there was no point in continuing, after which, one day or another, one day we will reach the point where our differences will be an obstacle. So better now than later. It is.
To the author, but obviously you didn't like the girl, what differences, what nonsense ... since you didn't see that you are not for each other, why do you want advice from people ??? . You don't know what you want, you ask .... Eeee
As far as I understand - not very nice, but with pretensions. How not to beat her jester.
Авторе, след като всичко е приключило надали си следиш темата, но да се изкажа заради другите. Бързо се "вземате" сега и заради това бързо се разделяте - всичките различия, които описваш можеше да ги разбереш и по-рано, но когато сте се запознавали не ти е било важно дали тя обича разходките сред природата, не те е интересувало дали и се пътува и точно какви подаръци очаква. Сложи ръка на сърце и си кажи, че друго ти беше важно - същото важи и за нея т. е. няма трагедия, никой не е наранен, а ти така се притесняваше. Другото, което искам да ти кажа, но с уговорката да не се обиждаш, някой ден сам ще стигнеш до същия извод - не си още мъж, може да си млад, може да си жизнен, може да го вдигаш всеки ден по няколко пъти. Може да си вече устроен, да имаш стабилни доходи, да караш хубава кола и т. н. - мъж ще станеш когато поемеш отговорността за поне едно дете. Докато се грижиш единствено за собственото си трибуквие, докато не ти се е наложило поне веднъж да извадиш залъка от устата си за да има друг какво да яде, докато твоето удоволствие е преди всичко останало, докато не разбереш какво е безсънна нощ от притеснение за нечий живот, ще си си просто малад, хубав, вървежен ерген. Не ме разбирай погрешно, не те виня, че си оставил глезлата да пасе, но внимавай със следващите избори, запази хубавото за онази, която е в състояние да го оцени, то е ясно за свинята и кладенчовата вода.
from the Author: to number 8 - I'm not one of those people who change women every day, and today they are with one, tomorrow with another, I know very well what I want, I asked for a comment - but obviously you haven't read the title of my topic, and it is " how to tell her I want to break up so as not to hurt her feelings. " But everyone has an opinion you say yours, no problem. number 9 - Well, not exactly, not that it's not very nice, it's beautiful, but because of the differences we have, it only disappears with beauty. number 10 - No, I'm not offended, for the first part of your answer, maybe there is something true, but still, she showed from the beginning what it is, but I still thought that it could change at least a little, and yes we come to some understanding, but it's gone, and honestly, I've been thinking about the second part of the answer in your comment, I want to have kids, but still, first I want to find the woman we'll both want him with. After all, I want an opinion, you say it, I can't kill myself.