Hello! I am 25 years old, I live in a flat in Sofia with my friend. He is a last year student, and I graduated last year and am currently happily working in my specialty. It also works, in general we both do quite well. We have been together for 4 years and our love is getting stronger (or so I think). He began to talk constantly about how, when he finished and found a stable job, we would buy our own apartment, how we would take the cars we looked at and fantasized about, how we would travel to every corner we could think of. So far so good, but every time he mentions our children, my joy evaporates. He wants to start a family with me, to have children, and I can't give him that. To my great regret, I can't have children, but I made the mistake of not telling him. I know I had to do it a long time ago, but for some reason I failed. I could not tell him that I would never have children of my own, and now that I see that our generation is already included in his future plans, he begins to weigh even more on me. I have to tell him about my problem, but I don't know how to approach it. Please help!
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First, is it quite certain that you cannot have children? Yes, it may be more difficult, but not impossible. Secondly, be honest and just tell him that you have some problems in this regard, but if he agrees he can come with you for an examination to see what the situation really is. And thirdly, in the 21st century there are many ways to become a parent, all kinds of treatments, in vitro ... and only as a last resort, if nothing else works, you can always adopt a child. And last but not least, if you truly love each other, it will not affect your relationship, but will make you even more attached and supportive in the fight to have a baby. I fully understand you and I have hormonal problems and polycystic ovaries and it is difficult for me, but my friend knows and together we think about how to fix the problem. Yes, I told him and I was afraid he would dump me,
Don't blame yourself! You didn't have to tell him because the problem with the children wasn't on the agenda. You can't hardly say, "Abe, you know, but I can't have kids," right? However, the question has already been raised. So you better not procrastinate and clarify things. I am 99% sure that his reaction will surprise you. If you are the woman of his life, whether the children will be yours or adopted will not be a priority. Note that your friend's dreams are related to the overall picture of your future: home, children, love and understanding. Nowhere in this vision does it "write" that the generation must necessarily be made of its biological material. Many perfectly healthy couples decide not to have children at all and I know at least three of them. So men haven't been so excited about theirs for a long time. " She admitted that the father was some random lover of hers, and my husband, returning the tape, came to the conclusion that the conception of his daughter actually coincided with his long stay in hospital. But! This revelation in no way changed his attitude towards his daughter, he continues to love and care for her, she is just his child, his father's princess and a point on the issue. The truth rather disgusted him with his mother, as she wagged her tail while he lay with a heart attack between life and death, and then lied to him for years. She admitted that the father was some random lover of hers, and my husband, returning the tape, came to the conclusion that the conception of his daughter actually coincided with his long stay in hospital. But! This revelation in no way changed his attitude towards his daughter, he continues to love and care for her, she is just his child, his father's princess and a point on the issue. The truth rather disgusted him with his mother, as she wagged her tail while he lay with a heart attack between life and death, and then lied to him for years. he continues to love and care for her, she is just his child, his father's princess and a point. The truth rather disgusted him with his mother, as she wagged her tail while he lay with a heart attack between life and death, and then lied to him for years. he continues to love and care for her, she is just his child, his father's princess and a point. The truth rather disgusted him with his mother, as she wagged her tail while he lay with a heart attack between life and death, and then lied to him for years.
I don't think you should have told him before, but now that things are serious and his plans are like that, you should tell him an hour sooner. Now let him decide if he wants to be with you. The more you procrastinate, the more you lie will feel. But tell him to keep in mind, and keep in mind that the fact that the doctors said that doesn't always mean it's true. Very often they make mistakes.
How are you diagnosed? Go to an in vitro clinic for an examination and then when someone tells you 100% you can't have children, sit down and talk to your friend. You are not the only one. Medicine is advancing, the neighborhood gynecologist is not an expert on the subject, on the contrary, he is even more confused with his general decisions. However, there is surrogacy, no matter how difficult, adoption. The longer you delay, the worse it will get. Many incurable cases were solved in Turkish clinics, which are at the top level and with world recognition. There are donor eggs and things you haven't even heard of.
Can you explain why you can't have children
Hey! You didn't say what your problem was. However, I will say that it is not 100% certain. The chance may be 1%, but there is. But just because you can't get pregnant doesn't mean you can't have children. You can be grounded. Yes, you will react badly at first, strange, but think about it. These are children without parents. Don't they have the right to a better life? What are they guilty of, for God's sake?!? Think about it! I will not go into depth. Otherwise I can. I can explain for hours. A close person has been adopted and I can explain selectively. If you make such a decision or get excited, post a topic, I'll explain. You're so wrong you didn't tell him in the beginning, but you have to do it now. Tell him about your problem. If he loves you he will accept you. Ps. It's not written perfectly, but I'm in a hurry. Excuse me!
Take time when it comes time for children, if not, you will look for in vitro or adoption. The most important thing in this life is to find the right partner, not to create a blood generation. Unfortunately, we are taught from an early age that children are the most important thing - this is nonsense. They are a temporary phenomenon and if you do not realize it you become an annoying mother-in-law or mother-in-law when the meaning of your life wants to become independent.
There are other methods to have children. I'm not a specialist, but I think the most honest in this case is a donor egg fertilized with sperm by your friend, and you wear the fetus. So the man is happy and you become a real mother. There are many donor eggs, they are discarded every month suitable for fertilization. As long as you have a uterus and a desire to become a mother.
You're only 25, are you sure you can't have kids? What is the diagnosis and who made it? Maybe you should take another opinion. And isn't there a way to get pregnant with in vitro fertilization? If, however, it is absolutely certain that you cannot have children, then you should have been honest with the person next to you from the very beginning. You will feel cheated when you learn, you may break up. Think very carefully about how to present the information. I hope the topic is made up.
Two years ago I was told that it was impossible to get pregnant because of blocked fallopian tubes. Incurable condition. My child is currently sleeping next to me. I conceived normally, accidentally, while we were waiting for the in vitro date. My advice is to be honest with the people you love. Because with love and desire there are no impossible things.
I support number 4 for the examination in an in vitro clinic. Surrogacy in our country, alas, is not legal. But you can adopt. First seek a second opinion from the specialists in these clinics and then talk to him. I hope it turns out that your previous doctor was wrong. I'm squeezing your thumbs! Then write how it went.
Author: 5 or maybe 6 years ago I had surgery for an ovarian cyst. One of my ovaries was removed, after which the doctors told me I would not have children. I did not seek a second opinion, I wrote off the possibility for children, but now I realize that this is the most horrible thing that has happened to me and I have no idea how to "serve" this information to him.
Hi, I have two comments: First, I think you should have told him as things have gotten more serious, it's not fair to hide such a thing. Second, you may really have things naturally. One of my colleagues told her that she would not be able to, she adopted a baby, had sex like that and now she has her own biological child! Another acquaintance of mine also said that there would be none. They were not protected and now the result is not one, but two children born. There are many such stories. In this situation, do not tell him yet, wait a year of trying!
13, sorry for the oftopic, but can you explain to me exactly how to read "really"? Because I try to read it and my tongue doesn't turn that way. It sounds radically different from "really" and I'm very interested in what led you to think that it is spelled with J, and it can't even be pronounced that way.
You have to consult again, my mother with one ovary gave birth to two of us. But early, at 35, she fell into menopause. The gynecologist explained to her that because one ovary compensated for the work of two (she had a cycle every month), he quickly became exhausted. If you have a cycle and ovulation, you can get pregnant with one ovary.
You have to tell him the truth. This is best for both of you. What's the reason you can't have it? There are ways to deal with some reproductive problems. The lion
With 1 ovary you can still have children. Go to some big in vitro clinic, like Hope or Dr. Shterev's clinic for a second opinion and only then write off the possibility of having children of your own. Be honest with your friend, you have done nothing wrong, if he loves you, he will be by your side. Good luck :)
№14 I made a mistake, I read a lot and I have three higher educations, achieved in an honest way, but my grammar is weak, sometimes I make mistakes. I write automatically to proofreaders and I do not pay attention to such mistakes. Otherwise, let me ask you what made you pay attention to this. You're not good at what I am.
I think you will be able to have your own child. But you say nothing about it - Do you want to?
If it's hard for you to tell him, then you don't trust him, you think he can leave you for that ... If you don't trust him, what do we do, how will you live with this person?