Hello, I am a 22 year old girl and I live with my mother and sister. This year I found a job with a salary of BGN 400. I have never been to discos, bars, gatherings with friends because they do not allow me and I have no money. I have no photos or memories. Every day is the same. I go to work, I come home tired with back and neck pain. At work, they make fun of me for being poor. They both insult, curse, humiliate, mock and sometimes hit me on the hands with a wooden stick. One time I was told that next month if I brought 400 leva they would kick me out of the house, and sometimes that I would die at this job. My sister tells me that she will break my computer and phone and all I have to do is work and sit at home. He tells me that when my mother dies, he will kick me out of the house and mix up the pots and I will die. One time he punched me in the mouth and cheek and threatened to beat me. Every day I live in fear of what they will do to me. They say they will tear my diploma and student ID. When I say that everyone has friends and have fun, they tell me to shut up or shoot me. Several times I came home crying and told them that at work they treated me badly and that everyone had photos of memories called the police and the ambulance and they would give me an injection. They tell me that I will never have friends and social life and if I keep talking about it they will send me to a madhouse. I'm told to take the pill, and I'm not sick. They didn't do any research on me. My mother and sister tell me that if I die, all people will be happy and no one will think of me and come to my funeral. I give them my entire salary. I want to have friends, entertainment and make my dreams come true, and they tell me I have to die. I am very afraid that they will kick me out of the house and beat me. I have no one to stay with and no money for accommodation. They also tell me, "I hope they fire you, they won't take you anywhere. You're old, you're not young." They insult me for being poor and wearing old clothes. I went to work just to help at home with money and to make my dreams in the arts come true. When I say I want to have friends and social life, they tell me I don't need it. When I say that I want to go to a bigger city to continue my education in order to make my dreams come true, they tell me that they will kill me there and I will become a prostitute. Sometimes I think about trying drugs, but I don't want to have a file or go to jail to forget about everything. I would like to meet such people. Every time after these thoughts I give up because this is not the solution. How can I find accommodation with so little money and if I start a second job I only have to go there on Saturdays and Sundays, because I work 8 hours on the first one. Please give me advice on what to do and how to change my life. I apologize that the story is very long. The story is true.
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Darling, I sympathize with you. Move to the big city, it's not that scary. You have nothing to lose. In Sofia on Sunday the waitresses take 1800 net, which will be enough for you to rent and tnt. And you will enroll in a course where you will meet people with similar interests and find friends. You are well versed in art, it will suit a sensitive nature like you.
Your case is ... special. The first thing that is clear: if they hit, it is domestic violence. Your rights are described here: https://pravatami.bg/558 I don't know where you are from, but if you are from the capital, the place for you is the Animus Foundation: https://animusassociation.org/ Second ... after you have done what you said in the first site, then you start to defend your position. Do you give them money? You don't give them money. This is your money. Does it hit you? Kick him in the head. He has no right to attack you. Reaches, takes consequences. Does some gender bother you at work? Rights, then consequences: https://pravatami.bg/25544 You say you can't afford a lawyer? https://pravatami.bg/4231 It is not difficult to prove your hopelessness, you will be able to. If animals do not learn their place before you and the law, they will suffer the consequences. Do not indulge in grumbling and despair, do not repeat like a sheep that nothing would change. It won't change if everyone just grumbles. Stand up for yourself, no one else will. You change your life when you change yourself. If you are afraid, there will be no change. If you do not know how to defend yourself, there will be no change. If you do both, there will be a change. Remember: it is not immoral to scratch the jaw of an animal that is raping you. I believe in you, and you will.
Wow ... I hope this is a fictional story. If a story is not made up - you do everything possible to get rid of this environment. I don't know what city you are in, but in Sofia they can take you to the cashier in Billa for BGN 800. Recently an acquaintance without any education and experience started there for such a salary and shares an apartment for BGN 200. with another boy. He doesn't have much money left, but he also gets some vouchers for the salary, as well as the taxis for the night shifts ... and considering that he is only in the 12th grade, it's ok to start with. For you, something like this would be great, because you will be away from toxic relatives and the work environment.
Open a savings account in a bank. Your mother and sister have no right to dispose of your money, the next time you take a salary, take the road far to a bigger city. Join groups for accommodation and find one, apply for jobs in the city. You will start fresh, find a friend and start a family. Head up and good luck!
I bet for 5,000 euros that this story is 500% fictional. Such a bad mother and sister cannot exist. The author is mentally ill to write such ugly stories. What is told crosses all boundaries of normalcy. Author, you really need treatment. As you describe yourself, it seems to me that you have never had a boyfriend and I guess you are still a virgin. Am I right or not. You assure us that the story is true, but I don't believe you. J. 34
"Several times I came home crying and told them that at work they were behaving badly with me and that everyone had pictures of memories called the police and the ambulance and they would give me an injection." I didn't understand this paragraph. But, on your next or next salary, pick up your hammer and move. Check on the net where you can go, look in bf if someone is looking for a roommate, look again in fb if someone offers a job, if you come to Sofia, look for pages called Jobs in Sofia, that's how I found a job. Examine the job, renew your SVto. You're alone, ok. Get your ass up and make a plan. You have a computer, if you have to sell it, you have a phone - you can also find a job with it. See where your mother and sister keep the money, before you blow, just go and search the whole apartment, the quota you can take and then you can sell it on Facebook or alder. I was bad with the money in the alder I sold so many things that I killed my rent. Don't worry about finding accommodation with other people - I live with my boyfriend and 5 other people in a 4-bedroom apartment. It's not the most pleasant thing but the rent is low and that keeps us together. Make a plan again - you want to get away - ok - where do you want to go? You want a better life - ok - what better. Not to be beaten and humiliated - ok - means to be far away. My father treated me like that. We hadn't seen or heard from each other for a long time and now things are better for you. Get rid of these parasites your mother and sister. Make a plan, but don't share it, don't write it down on paper, because they will find it and tell you the game. Raise money - start looking after children, look after pets, help the elderly - second part-time job. But don't tell them. Say they increase your shifts because they punished you or something. and just get out while you're there with them they'll always crush you. do not hope that the fact that you are relatives will make them tremble so that they become abruptly good and kind, go out and put a serious feature of this relationship, because YOU are the one who determines how to behave with her. Good luck!
You have already written here, received good advice, why haven't you acted so far? !! What and why are you waiting? !! You could have already moved to work in a resort, for example, to collect money and run away once and for all! Tips are a good thing, but you are required to act!
You let them treat you like an animal. As you wrote them, you give your money voluntarily. What to do? Very simple - the next time someone touches you, you retaliate. If he has a stick, you grab the stick and break it in his head. Then you collect your money and belongings and disappear from home. In any case, all the money you earn you spend on nonsense, you will be able to buy a ticket to another city and then pay a small room for rent there. Wages in big cities are different, as is the attitude. And remember one thing - in this life you have to behave the way they treat you. Otherwise you are the victim and you will be treated as such. Don't be a victim !!!
But what are these mother and sister ... Draw them a thick line and it's as if they are gone, no matter that they are your relatives. Get rid of them. Watch from them - what kind of person you should not be and think what kind of person you want to be. What is interesting to you, whether you will study at university or work, try to be something that you like and that will teach you something, to gain meaningful experience in a certain field. Opiates don't help, so don't think about it. Meet positive people, if there aren't that many - be alone, better than tolerating bastards. There is no way I can write you anything specific about the performance that will give results, because only you know - what, how and when. However, I am categorical about your mother and sister - far from them. Where you will go - you know.
What you are describing is, to put it mildly, strange. No one will give you an injection unless you have a serious problem. Do you take any pills and what? Have you seen a psychiatrist and what is his opinion? And last but not least, are you sure that your loved ones are really mistreating you and doing the things you described? My advice is to go to a psychiatrist together and if they actually have a problem, they will understand. Follow his recommendations.
For seasonal work, at sea or in Bansko, Pamporovo and others. Employers provide accommodation. You will have about 4 months to collect for accommodation in a larger city. Don't stay there! If you are going to tell them what you have decided, make sure that your documents, money and luggage are in a safe place where they do not have access. Best in a station cupboard. These people are bullies and will not let you go easily. It is best to find a job, talk to employers, understand the conditions and do not look back. Success!
Girl, come to Varna, write when you are leaving and what time you will be at the train station and one day everything else, I will find you, I have an apartment for a month or two, you can stay during that time, I will look for a job you take all the documents, ID card, medical birth certificate and come !!!
6 and 11 are the only meaningful comments and only their authors saw that the girl had serious mental problems. Everyone else who gives "advice" to think about who is sent to the big city, to accommodation, to the resorts for seasonal work, etc. You do not provide any help and support to the author, filling her head with fantasies - she must heals.
Hi, I hope you read my comment! Look, I thought of two options - you can always secretly find a job with accommodation. They suggest looking no matter where it is even better to be away from them. And the other option is to secretly find another job with a better income for BGN 700, for example, you don't tell them. They will think that you are at the same job and you earn BGN 400, you will give them BGN 400 to them, and you will spend the other BGN 300 somewhere! After 2 months you find accommodation and move there to live! I wish you success, do not give up!
Works 8 hours for 400 leva? You remember what works. Cleaner, washer? Which contributes a lot to the theory, maybe you really have a problem. There is a boy in my neighborhood and he is like that, the boy is not well and they took him as a cleaner - they give him 300 leva, so that he is not without anything. In my opinion, go to the whole psychiatric family, because you will not be the first or last case of a broken family. But you also give him advice, he knows his.
17, 400 are also taken in libraries.
17, do you have any idea how many Bulgarians work for 400 leva? 6, and you think about how many virgins there are at the age of 22 and more ... Think of a few people in a row to write. Otherwise, I wrote that the topic was invented at the beginning, number 2 is my speech, I don't know why they didn't publish it, however. Maybe they thought it was rude? But from my point of view, it is even quite appropriate and correct, because through it I do not affect either the socially weak people or those who have not yet had sex. Moderators, sometimes I don't understand you honestly at all. I know that some of my opinions are quite sharp and that is why you do not publish them. But this time, in this thread 17 and 6 are much sharper than me ... though not seemingly. Do you really think that your goal is really to protect the feelings of the emotionally weaker people ... I doubt it.