I know that there are many stories similar to mine, but at the moment it is very hard for me and I feel really bad, I just need to share ... The reason is that I am already 22, and so far I have not had a person next to me . Every day I wonder what is wrong with me, that I am still alone and what to do to change the situation .. I am very confused, maybe my post will be like that, for which I apologize! At first glance, everything is fine, I try to be positive, to smile and be among friends, but for some time I am very closed in on myself and I just prefer to go home and cry to relieve myself. .. I share with my relatives and friends about the problem, and they always tell me that there is time for everything, to stop waiting and it will happen. But I've stopped waiting for anything a long time ago ... Somehow I came to terms with the fact that there was no one for me, although at this age. And the worst thing is not that I don't like myself, but that I don't feel anything for people who want to be with me. At such moments, I am very angry with myself for letting go of decent boys, but I really can't be with someone by force! I tried with a man, we went out, he behaves wonderfully and in position, but I feel nothing more than friendly feelings. I don't want to lie to him or to myself. In that case, I wonder if it's my fault I just want to be with someone and be mutual (but obviously not that simple). I have the feeling that this loneliness will continue for a long time and I am very afraid of it .. Not to mention all the things I have missed so far ... I just want to have a chance to love and be loved! So many thoughts are spinning in my head that it will explode, so I stop here ... and I will be happy if you give me advice!
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You don't have to like everyone. It is enough to like ONLY one, but the right person and at the right time and place. It's just that this moment hasn't come, but there is a reason why it hasn't come. Fate knows its job. When you least expect this moment will come. So just calm down and know it's only a matter of time. If you bother, it won't help. Just whatever and when it has to happen will happen by itself.
if you don't give no one will give you and if you wait for the prince on the white horse you may not wait for him everything depends on you
Hey, beautiful girl, have you heard of that ancient Greek myth, of Zeus, who divided people into two halves and painted them with the destiny of looking for their half all their lives? Haven't you ever thought that ... well, in fact, even a myth, the truth is that it beautifully describes your situation. For example, I am one of those people who believe that you can truly love (in the true sense of the word, with all its beauty) only one person for life - the one you are meant to be with, be it written by fate, or ... whatever you want to call it there. The person you understand from the first minute that he is something like your second self. A person you get along with even with a look that makes you feel like you've known each other for an eternity, a person you don't need to say 'I love you' with because you know both. Your partner. And now is the moment of the cliché, but clichés have actually become clichés, because if so many people use them, then there is truth in them: You have not met your partner. Still. And you will meet her, because there is no other way. He will meet you, if not your first. Have you ever thought that this may be the reason why you can't feel anything other than friendly feelings towards the people who want to be with you, or you ... believe in another kind of love, love for which is there another explanation? Of course, everyone has their own understandings, but just think and believe! And those who told you that there is time for everything (again a cliché, right?) ... yes, they were right! It takes time for your partner to find you if you don't find her first! And it will happen. No one is meant to be alone here, otherwise it would be awful. Well, good luck, and when hope for some reason leaves you ... remember that myth, Zeus ... and smile, because I'm sure you're a wonderful creature. :)
And what can they tell you, they write you the little consolation. Of course you should not believe - "stop waiting and it will happen" Because it is not so. The truth is that when you are in an environment with a lot of people, you communicate often, you have give-and-take, then you have a great chance to meet someone and things will work out. Otherwise, if you are more closed, you do not have an environment, you do not communicate much, then it is difficult for people to trust you because you seem difficult to judge. It's not like before. Now there is no one to stop you and talk to you with a desire to meet you. People are quite "cold" and build invisible barriers to each other. The best opportunity in your situation is to trust someone, of course, after someone appears - obviously to have good intentions towards you. - silenter -
Thank you:)