Hello, I want to share my pain. At 50 I am married with two big children - adopted. Viewed from the sides, we look like a perfect family. Good man, apartment, car ... but. My husband and I don't fight, we go everywhere together ... but we no longer have points of contact. Am I wrong - I have a desire for intimate contact, I feel healthy and strong, I look good for my age - I just need a man. He has a different opinion - that we are already old for these things and every 4-5 months it happens that we have sex once and that ... weaning. I was thinking of finding a friend, but every time something stops me - I feel like a traitor to my family. And now I am a grandmother / we have a 1-year-old grandson / - what will people say !!! At the moment I am struggling with myself - nature wants one thing, morality - another. And how to find a serious man,
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Which city are you from?
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It is a pity that you are so far from Sozopol.
Hello. What does "what will people say" mean? do they live your life ?. You should not take this into account. And people don't need to understand, do they? :) My advice is to find a friend. there are many men in dating sites as well. And believe me, there are many decent men among them. I wish you success and a lot of health and love.
I would put you in a position, but we are far away
Cheers! I just entered this page and accidentally wrote to you. I am 53 and I have been alone for 4 years - my husband died. I thought I would handle everything on my own, but not with nature. And yet you do not live alone. I think your situation is the same as mine - only you have a husband ... maybe you should talk to him and tell him about the problem. And so things will be resolved.
Thanks for taking the time for me. I have tried not once, but many times to have a conversation on this issue, but to no avail. He says, I quote: "don't bother me with nonsense ..." This is - otherwise it's not bad ... I have freedom, but I don't have the man next to me.
I think you're absolutely right ma'am, it's not enough to just be nice to you. What does it mean not to be a bad person ?! For example, my husband lives for himself, ie. He finishes his men's duties at home and stretches out on the couch, there is no conversation between us, no conversation with the children, etc. We are a quiet and meek family, but there are things, there is no sex, and having it is only for his pleasure, he does not comply with me, as well as for everything else. I found the solution for myself. Since 2003 I have a lover who is attentive to me, he is interested in me, what I want, how I feel, we talk, he is my friend, and I don't have that at home. There is only silence and watching sports and news. Many times I thought about cheating on him, I had a guilty conscience from the beginning and I tried to talk, to explain, but it doesn't work and in the end it came to the conclusion that "the bee does not run away from honey", ie, if I had the attention I want I would be only with him, I love him, but I am not underestimated. Let me just tell you at the end that I am 32 years old, and until I reach yours, what will I become without attention.
Find a lover, you do not live for people, but for yourself, whether you have children, grandchildren, etc. it doesn't matter - you are human and you need attention, sex, caresses, not getting it you are looking elsewhere - this is life. Don't think that other people don't live in such a way that they are very exemplary, moral ... The 21st century is after all. And your life goes on in 2-3-5 years, you won't want that either, so ... look for this is my advice.
And mine used to say that we were old now, still tired from work, couldn't do it anymore, etc., but accidentally the mail opened for him and inside what I read - I have no words - the cutie paid money to young women, and in front of me he was so respectful , loving husband
An interesting topic! I would like more people to get involved, but not as was the topic - Only for participants in extramarital affairs. There were some boasting, some insults. The question really is How do I find out? I am also from this team, I have had two similar relationships so far, but both of them had several lovers and it was insulting to me, despite a foreign man we have no right to take into account. So on the question - Are you?
It's like the demand for wooden iron. To be both serious and to engage in infidelity. It is better to concentrate on living honestly. Although no matter what we do - we are human, we have fevers to do, and we will remain so. It is not good to think too much about this.
Hello and I am the age of the author and I have the same problem - no attention, but I need sex. We do not argue, but the TV and the computer engage him completely and he does not think of me. and I'm sure there is no mistress, I tried to study. So now I started looking for a discreet relationship, because the situation makes me nervous and I need caresses and sex. I do not feel guilty, everyone has their needs, if he feels old for love, I do not feel that way. I am looking for if possible married with the same problem, I do not want to divorce, because otherwise everything is fine. My children are big and do not live with us, so there are no problems. I wish the author to find the right person, because she, like me, feels healthy, willing and able. There is time to be old, now we want to feel and if she can't with our husbands,then it will be without them.
We men just aren't like that! Fortunately!
Author, you think quite superficially about a woman of this age. How do you expect a serious man to be interested in extramarital affairs? Instead of wondering where to find such a "serious" man, try to mend your relationship with your husband. Try to understand exactly what made him become so estranged from you. If you really have sex as infrequently as you describe, there is a serious reason. Being old is just an excuse. In fact, how long has this been going on? If you're sure he doesn't have a mistress, maybe there's a problem. And also how old is he? If the age difference is big, then don't wonder why it happens. You need to have an approach when talking to him so that you can understand each other.
Well, split up ... what to stand for. Your children have been adopted. Why do you stand in your hollow marriage. What's the point of torturing yourself like that. When you are single, you have a better chance of finding a man who will pay attention to you. I write about separation / divorce because I can't stand infidelity if you're married. So it seems to me the most honest to both and will not be a betrayal. To sit with him, to hide, to go out secretly and to meet another, etc., seems to me disloyal, somehow unworthy, false. That's why I'm telling you, if things really don't work out, don't bother, but separate and then find a man who meets your requirements. I would do so. ж47
Hello! I don't trust these "exemplary" men at all! Some men think that when a woman enters menopause, nothing happens, she doesn't have sex, and finally it's time for a family routine! Yes but no! For us, yes, but they continue to look around the streets, sign up on dating sites, make secret meetings, Coffee and if the woman is smart, the mistress will not find out! But if the yoke is not ruined by phones and SMSs, your husband has to cope somehow! And how to be that? Well, he will start turning off his GSM! What's left, check his phone! But beware the stress is terrible !!! Now everyone will shout against me for privacy! Sorry, but I'll knock you down! Do you have a contract with your partner for a life together, dignified and without lies? You have! So in order to respect personal space, first have a previous conversation, he will probably deny it, I was told that I was going crazy and so it came to the need to prove to myself that I'm not crazy! So good luck!
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He cheats on young people because he is a complex or stupid old man, and he burdens you with guilt