Hello everyone, A 24-year-old girl is writing to you. I did not believe that I would tell my story in a forum, but I am obviously in such a period. I'm looking for advice and a way out. I have always been very ambitious. I set high goals and try to achieve them. I have a plan for my life like any other. Since I was a child, I have had a physical neurological problem that has never bothered me before, not consciously. Over the years, however, I realized that this was an internal barrier for me. I never found a friend. Someone who loves me and accepts me as I am. I tried everything, dating sites, meetings ... It didn't work. I don't know what it takes to be someone to like me. I was very disappointed, I had bright expectations and at some point, when I saw that I was rejected because of my appearance several times, I no longer trust anyone. I can't trust you anymore, I have become very suspicious ... And I want to experience the magic of happiness ... I know I have to change, but it is quite difficult. Every time I like someone, they behave carefully, but nothing more. It's as if he feels sorry for me and that kills me ... What would you advise me? Thank you very much!
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Go to a place where there are people with the same problems who will understand you. You need a break, change the situation. This will give you fresh ideas.
There is no love. As a girl, at least you settled with a few dates and attention. I didn't get that either ... The "magic of happiness" is a dose of hormones reserved for the "cooler" ones, but even that doesn't last long. Lower your expectations, write to more modest boys, and you will find someone. It's not who knows what if you're a girl, but of course you're not just looking for someone to love you, but "big love". For that, I can't help you because they are illusions.
I will advise you not to be like the mass of people and not to try to fit into the frame. Do not change according to other people's standards. Invent standards yourself and change according to them so that your change can be what you want it to be. Do not try to run away from yourself, do not think at all that this is possible and within your power. You will be wrong, I tell you with all the force of my good intentions. One must be oneself, express oneself and not be ashamed. The more depressed you are, the worse your love life will be. The more you get into the frame, the less they will love you. Even if they love you, they will not love you, but the false image you have built. Don't worry, you go out with someone and declare yourself with all your pros and cons - what you love, what you hate, what impresses you, what you would never agree with. If the man stays, he stays, if not the next. The sea is full of fish, and there are an awful lot of people on land. That is, someone out there will be ready to love you. You go out with a man and tell him that you don't want him to feel sorry for you and you won't take that attitude for granted. They've suppressed you enough because of your neurological problem, that's enough, it's time to explain that you don't agree. And don't look for love like that. You go out on a date to see if you will fit in with the young man. Don't go with high expectations, meetings are for judgment, not to find a husband. The more you work hard, the harder it will be for you to really fall in love. Love comes alone, it is a guest who does not respect your invitations, but surprises you. someone out there will be ready to love you. You go out with a man and tell him that you don't want him to feel sorry for you and you won't take that attitude for granted. They've suppressed you enough because of your neurological problem, that's enough, it's time to explain that you don't agree. And don't look for love like that. You go out on a date to see if you will fit in with the young man. Don't go with high expectations, meetings are for judgment, not to find a husband. The more you work hard, the harder it will be for you to really fall in love. Love comes alone, it is a guest who does not respect your invitations, but surprises you. someone out there will be ready to love you. You go out with a man and tell him that you don't want him to feel sorry for you and you won't take that attitude for granted. They've suppressed you enough because of your neurological problem, that's enough, it's time to explain that you don't agree. And don't look for love like that. You go out on a date to see if you will fit in with the young man. Don't go with high expectations, meetings are for judgment, not to find a husband. The more you work hard, the harder it will be for you to really fall in love. Love comes alone, it is a guest who does not respect your invitations, but surprises you. And don't look for love like that. You go out on a date to see if you will fit in with the young man. Don't go with high expectations, meetings are for judgment, not to find a husband. The more you work hard, the harder it will be for you to really fall in love. Love comes alone, it is a guest who does not respect your invitations, but surprises you. And don't look for love like that. You go out on a date to see if you will fit in with the young man. Don't go with high expectations, meetings are for judgment, not to find a husband. The more you work hard, the harder it will be for you to really fall in love. Love comes alone, it is a guest who does not respect your invitations, but surprises you.
Each of us is different and this should be your strength, no matter how cliché it may sound. We all have some weaknesses - for example, I can't say the letter P (I'm 20, it's not impossible to change it, but ...). I had a lot of complexes because of that. You will say that it is a small thing at first glance, but many times I have wondered how people see me when they hear my defect. I still think I sound like a 5-year-old paw: D I used to have acne and I blamed him for not being able to find a boyfriend. Well, I dealt with it, but it turned out that wasn't the problem. I also struggle with depression, which I don't tell everyone I meet, but I have shared my difficulties with people who are not so close. Depression can sound quite frightening to some and be considered weak and the like. What did I learn? You have to present yourself as a strong enough person, which can deal with its problems and which has accepted its weaknesses. This will instill respect in the eyes of others. Internally, you also have to accept your weaknesses and love them, even if it is difficult. I believe you will find a solution. Sometimes people don't see the weaknesses we see in ourselves, or at least don't judge them as harshly as we think. Good luck and head up :)