Hello, I am an 18-year-old girl and like most of my peers I decided to take a driving course. I made this decision half a year ago and enrolled in a driving school. I knew from the beginning that it would be difficult for me, but I was motivated to cope. The problem came during the practice exam. I fell into a state that was not clear to me until then. The problem was that I was torn because I confused the direction I was assigned. I was so close, with minor mistakes, in the last minute of the exam .. I believed I would take it .. but out of stress I confused one direction and the answer was no, followed by screams from the examiner, even my instructor could not believe it. I have seldom failed - my work has always been rewarded. Then this condition was unlocked, getting out of the car I started to tremble, not knowing where I was, I could not understand what happened, as if in my mind the only thing left in my mind was the thought that I was incompetent and stupid. Accordingly, I reappeared and during the exam I just went very close to a curb due to tension and again I had no, again insults - you don't think, you don't stand for anything, etc. - just a terrible re-experience. After a week I gathered courage and calmed down - I finally succeeded and I think that my condition will improve. Now you will reproach me that because of the greatest stupidity in the world I have taken myself very seriously ... I know, I don't want that to be the case, but I can't find a way out of this state.
Now I drive, I try, every day I learn something new, I try to fit into the road conditions ... but when I look at the cars - just as I walk and tense up, I remember how severe depression I got, how many nerves I lost . Unfortunately, I did not run away from my condition ... I can't concentrate on my lessons, I can't remember, my thoughts are overwhelmed by the failures I went through. To this day it is so, I constantly remember the words that were said to me. I do not suffer so much from failure, but rather from the verbal attack. Please I want to be as before - to concentrate and abstract. How can I forget and cope, when everyone around me talks about courses and cars .. everything around me reminds me of this ... I absolutely agree that the fact that they broke me on some stupid exam is not a pain to die but depression and fear of not being able to cope with future more difficult challenges just unlocked in me. Everyone finds a change in me, my expression, my appearance - in my head is a mess of bad memories and negative thoughts, I have difficulty breathing, I'm tired, exhausted, and the difficulties are yet to begin - entrance exams, graduation exams, university, confrontation with reality ... I want to recover, to have the strength to move forward. I'm not proud of what I'm becoming, I've withered .. Please give me advice on how to cope ... I want to be my previous self, I want to believe, act and succeed ..
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Please tighten it ... At the age of 20 I got into such movies that I owed 5 figures for the disease called "gambling" and in the end I recovered, and for some exams you get depressed yourself ... It was useless. .. Emmy, as long as you think like that, there is no way you can take this exam ... Where, where you will experience harder things ... You will go back to this memory and you will smile! Keep your head up!
Go to a psychologist. And most of all, don't be a perfectionist. Everyone has their failures. You can always hear bad words about yourself. It's a part of life. And a driving course - sorry, it's nothing serious. You can take extra hours and show up until you take it. Don't be fooled by an elementary mistake. You will have many more. Tighten up and calm down.
The bad thing is that most of your "colleagues" drive in the same way, even though they took the empty exam a long time ago ...
The good news is that when you have a book and you have to get to a place, you determine the path you will take and no one tells you "left / right", you know the direction, you just have to follow the signs. On my exam, there were people walking longitudinally on the road, there was a guy who cut the path of three and took away their advantage (including mine), there were very narrow streets and there seemed to be no bad situation that would not happen. But the driver makes decisions, this is his duty - to be responsible in his decisions and not to confuse the movement. You do not need much, just calm and attention to the situation. Going to the exam, I had the attitude that I already have a book and I drive people with me without knowing where we are going. You forget that the one next to you has brakes and you drive as if everyone in the car is under your responsibility, this is still the case. Accept, that your work will not always be enough to take an exam, but you are obliged to give the best of yourself and you will always succeed. Even for the candidate students there are already several tests and many opportunities. There was a girl in my class who didn't take the regular exam for health reasons, but now she's accepted back to the university she wanted to be at. Failure in general is not a reason to rot, but a reason to act with double force and stop being impressed by failures. It's better to tighten up now than to get depressed afterwards, because you wrote 5 papers at university and the professor told you "you know nothing". There was a girl in my class who didn't take the regular exam for health reasons, but now she's accepted back to the university she wanted to be at. Failure in general is not a reason to rot, but a reason to act with double force and stop being impressed by failures. It's better to tighten up now than to get depressed afterwards, because you wrote 5 papers at university and the professor told you "you know nothing". There was a girl in my class who didn't take the regular exam for health reasons, but now she's accepted back to the university she wanted to be at. Failure in general is not a reason to rot, but a reason to act with double force and stop being impressed by failures. It's better to tighten up now than to get depressed afterwards, because you wrote 5 papers at university and the professor told you "you know nothing".
Abe people, you have read so much. I have had a book for several months and I drive it. I just told you how to unlock my depression. Some, instead of giving advice, explain to me how all women drove badly. Fuck this ride, the point is that I can't concentrate on the present - my thoughts are on Minko events or the future, but not in the present that's what I meant, but anyway only I can to help myself, everything depends on me, and others (only my relatives in general) can support me and that's it.
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