How Do I Learn To Love Myself?

   Love is not a lesson to be learned. And yes, everyone loves themselves, the question is whether you realize it and in what form love is. For some it is quite perverted and poisonous, but it is still a form of love. In the previous topic I explained why. The question is not in love, because it exists anyway, but in its realization in the right way.

   To love oneself means to accept oneself as you are. This means: 1. What kind of person you are (because every time you meet another person you see that he has a different character), as well as you. Why isn't yours nice? It's just as different from the other as his is from yours. 2. To accept your appearance as you were born. No one chooses their species. You do not choose what color of hair, eyes, skin to have, you do not choose whether to fill easily or not and so on. You don't choose whether to have a disability. (There are people who are prone to cancer, schizophrenia, autism, dyslexia, Down syndrome, Alzheimer's, etc.). If you don't know what they are, you can check. There are countless others. Leave it to that ABSOLUTELY NO ONE is 100% healthy and there is always something visible in someone or not. Rejecting a person is called a stigma. Those who do it to some experience the same thing themselves, because it takes time for the population to be educated about all sorts of things. This corresponds to a factor called the Human Development Index. Eastern Europeans are usually far behind this compared to people in the West. Accept yourself and love yourself as you are. The word 'normal' has no definition because 'normal' changes in every way. When it comes to your appearance, remember that Marketing aims to show an ideal for sale. This ideal does not exist in real life. If it's a model you see in an ad, they go through Photoshop. Not only that, the model does not have to be gracefully weak. Marketing serves to rationalize behavior or vision for 'normal' (which again I say is changing). Now there are campaigns for fuller women to get involved in fashion if they want. Not to mention how many campaigns there are to combat anorexia. Alive and healthy as a person can be, that's the most important thing. Everyone experiences something whether others see it or not. Not to mention that just because people don't talk about problems in public doesn't mean they don't have them. Some just share, but most do not, or at least not with everyone. In conclusion, you are very crazy if you do not accept yourself as crazy. It washes me away, but don't forget that complexes are planted in many relationships by television and society, just as you consciously or not sometimes plant complexes in someone else. This is life, try to be good and enjoy. Happiness comes with gratitude for what you have / get lucky, as a given or with struggle, realizing that others do not have it or dream of it. In any case, in this world, some get one, others - other. There is no ideal. Tell yourself in the mirror that you are beautiful and become a narcissist. Look how big Donald Trump is. Does this grandfather care?

   I agree with number 2 that love is accepting yourself as you are. But I will give you other advice. What you really are is something that is constantly changing, for better or for worse. For example, if you are a drummer who does not maintain personal hygiene, is not kind to others, etc. how to accept yourself and love yourself, it's clear to me. No way. You have to change to love yourself. And a complete change. If you discipline yourself and start training you will have a good body, this on the one hand will give you more self-confidence and self-confidence, you will already really know that you look good. If you become more humble, you will enjoy your gracious character. You just have to have something that you really value in yourself, and if you don't, you won't build it. Self-love is work, constant work and striving for change.

   Look for what prevents you from loving yourself. Then find out if it's really that bad - answer the question, am I really as dumb (ugly, crazy, etc.) as I think, or just my failures have made me change all my negatives indefinitely. In most cases, the situation is never as bad as you are. Finally, think about which of these things that are bothering me can I change or improve? Work on those who have a chance, seeing the change you will experience positive emotions. And the rest, you will have to learn to accept. There are no perfect people.

   And I don't know dude. Whether a person is loved or not, I think, is deeply rooted in childhood, in how you were raised, what kind of parents you had and what kind of environment you lived in. I am a 28 year old man. My father always told me things like - Look what you are, why you are not like the others, why you are not like the neighbor, why you are fat, why you can't play a game, why you are not an excellent student, etc. My mother was supposed to be better, but when she thought about it, she also shoved some movies in my head like - why don't you have self-confidence, why are you like that and not like that. Instead of solving the problem, they just blamed me for everything. They kept comparing me to others, telling me how bad I was. They kept telling me that I would not finish school, then that I would not graduate from university, and so on. Although I completed my bachelor's and master's degrees with an excellent 6. In general, all these things made me more complex, but on the other hand they made me work more and more on myself. Learning, taking courses, physical training in the gym, self-discipline, etc. Years later, I have a good job, I live abroad, I have a nice wife next to me, I bought my own home in Bulgaria, I go on vacation, for example, in the summer I was in Spain, while the people I was compared to are currently pouring brandy and live with their parents. I became something out of nothing, but I still have complexes and I don't love myself. Obviously I need to see a psychologist. for example, I was in Spain in the summer, while the people I was compared to were currently pouring brandy and living with their parents. I became something out of nothing, but I still have complexes and I don't love myself. Obviously I need to see a psychologist. for example, I was in Spain in the summer, while the people I was compared to were currently pouring brandy and living with their parents. I became something out of nothing, but I still have complexes and I don't love myself. Obviously I need to see a psychologist.