Hello! I'm 17 and I haven't had a relationship before. In the summer I worked at sea for the first time, where I met a boy with whom we started a relationship. The problem is that he didn't agree and I told him "Fuck, it will only be for the summer and so on, let's go with the flow" and after a while he agreed. The problem is that he warned me that I would be very attached to him and then I would suffer. This is exactly what happened. I talked to him several times to try after the summer, despite the distance of 150 km, but he refused me because he had already experienced a long-distance relationship and did not want to do it again. Days before I left the sea, we quarreled fiercely because in my rage I told him nonsense to hurt him as I was hurt by his refusals. The last day he came to me and said that he would forgive me just to keep my friendship with me after the summer. I decided that I would not look for him in order to experience him more easily, but one day I sat down when he came home and he called me to hear me. In my grief, a few days later I called him just to talk, but in the middle of the conversation, hope resurfaced and I asked him to think again if he wanted to be with me. Then he shouted at me and hung up. I decided to stop contacting completely, but four days later he called me again to hear. He apologized to me many times because he shouted, he spoke to me again as if we were together, but in fact we are friends. His feelings for me cooled because of our quarrel at the end of the summer. I want to make him fall in love with me again. I don't know if I should call and talk to him as we did together. On the other hand, I know that he does not call me because he has feelings, but purely friendly, but not with me. How can I convince him to be together and make him feel this thrill for me again? I tried to forget it but now I don't want to give up our attempts to be together. I am asking for advice..
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Beauty cannot be forced ...
It itches and it hurts, nothing will come out between you
Spoken word-thrown stone, no going back! You have already shown your essence, don't expect good development, he just used you for fun!
In my opinion, one cannot fall in love and fall out of love of one's own free will, much less of someone else's.
you can't make someone fall in love with you. imagine someone you don't have a thrill trying to make you fall in love with. will it work also forget the childish performances like "I said naughty things to make him suffer like me", and then I will ask how to get it back. you are forgiven because you are small, but in the future you will not do so. the person has told you clearly what he wants, but you are hoping for something else. learn a lesson from now on and behave more maturely
You can't make a man fall in love with you. If this happened, everything would be very easy, but unfortunately it does not happen. Instead of constantly going back to the past and to the memories with him, why not just try to forget him. It is a bit difficult to be friends with a person you once loved and in your case you still love, so it is not very good for you to be very close and constantly talk to each other, write, etc., because that will only you suffer even more. Even if you only hear from time to time, that hope will constantly arise in you that something can happen between you again. And if he really loved you, he would still want you to be together despite the distance and everything.
If you ever manage to find an answer to this question - write to me, let me know too ... I broke up with my girlfriend in January 2015 and to this day I can't forget her. I often think about her, sometimes I even dream about her and then when I wake up and realize - I cry .. The truth is that I have never stopped loving her, but she me - obviously yes ... I would give anything to get her back ...
You ask how to make him be together again and the answer is in the summer .... Whether this last summer, which you can not return or next, if you go there again, but the problem is that he does not want such a relationship, even if you are too decent. And people never change for anyone. You can also move to his city and still not want to be together. And my question is why did you cling to this boy, does he make you so happy? You will still see what love is and it is definitely not violent and not so concise. You can fight each other for this love, but only you will not fight it. I had a connection at 600 kilometers and I do not wish this on anyone. Moreover, if someone travels somewhere outside his environment, a person shows completely different principles, you only get acquainted with short good moments that deceive. A person with whom you have a long-distance relationship shows very little of what it is and the relationship is difficult and because you always miss it, you always wait for the moment of the meeting, you always buy for something simple, but it turns out that it is so difficult. You will see your neighbors more often than this person. He will be your friend and will rarely really exist in your life. But if you have your point of view, do what you think is right. F27