Please give me ideas on how to strike up a conversation with people in places like cafes or fast food. For example, if I go to someone who seems nice to me and say, "I'm looking for company. Can I sit with you" does it sound normal to you Thank you in advance. Male, 30.
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Yes, it sounds very normal for normal people. But nowadays people are crazy, very crazy. You may be thought of as a pedophile, a thief, a drug addict. They think the phrase, "Hello, can I sit next to you or treat you" was taken from the movies to do some mega conspiracies. :)) Otherwise use different phrases and approaches, but be yourself and do not intrude. I would pull your chair next to me, I can't tell about the others. Good luck
Emmy in our perverted, misunderstood society would not sound normal. Otherwise I wouldn't mind. If you tell men, they'll think you're a fagot. If you tell a woman, you have to assess the situation and the woman herself. He may lose you brutally, or politely, he may not lose you. You better not be so direct, but go crazy and ask her something. And if she answers you willingly and smiles, or something in her eyes and radiates warmth or interest, ask if you can sit for a while. If the look is contemptuous and cold, do not proceed.
There is a danger that most people will really think that you have some not very clear intentions ... Assess the situation, find something specific to start a conversation about. I'm not sure how I would react - it depends on what you broadcast, how you are dressed, how exactly you spoke to me. By the way, let me ask the other readers - if a girl of 20 (ie me) talks to a stranger in a cafe / bus / bus stop, will it be too strange? I look normal, haha, not very beautiful, but just normal.
Of course, it is normal only that very rarely you can come across such kind people as you want :) it is full of stupid people who will look at you silently or will bite you and will most likely think of you as a good person with bad intentions. What to do in Bulgaria, the mentality of some people is not for comment. Where did the good tone go?
And why do you want to talk like that?
Personally, as a 19-year-old girl, I would love to have a cool and cheerful person talk to me! It doesn't matter if it will be a boy or a girl, whether it will be 13 or 53. I will not marry this person after all, we will just talk !!! The bad news is that very few people understand things that way. And to some extent they are right - you can see for yourself what difficult times we live in, we constantly hear about rapes and murders and what not. People are stressed. But if the person inspires confidence in me and looks baked to me, why not? It is very pleasant, even unloading, to have a non-committal conversation with a stranger! But as they said above - judge people, author. Some just look at them and it is clear that they would never look at them. Success! :)))
5, and how to talk to them? On Facebook or on some stupid dating site? Well done, darling! Talk to them all right ... but with a hundred pulls, you will still come across a well-meaning and open person. Why does everyone express doubt, but at the same time would enjoy such an acquaintance? I don't see anything wrong and even, you will enjoy great success ... people are thirsty for contacts. I am very smiling and I am often talked about, even in Bulgaria it started happening to me constantly. Soon a gentleman in the traffic jam spoke to me. And he suggested we drink coffee, if I wasn't in a hurry - I would go down. But I gave him my phone. Various people on the street stop me for a phone call, but I don't prefer this type of dating. I have to like the man a lot to be scared. some time ago in a queue at Mtel a man warned me to button my bag and continued the conversation and ... finally we drank coffee. If you are positive and do not radiate madness, you do not have a psychopathic look and you are clean and tidy - the remark does not matter. And "good day" enough "will I bother you?" .. something standard. I wish you success!
You stand in front of the ladies' room in the restaurant and ask the ladies coming out of it - Shit! Ah! Maybe someone will pay attention to you.
If you intend to talk to women, it will cut you off 100%. Well, it depends on how you will approach it, if you start with annoying compliments and worn-out dumps, he will worry and cut you, otherwise it's easy for men to always find something to talk about even without knowing each other
Not strange, but there are subtleties. For example, you go to the person for you and ask the most normal "Excuse me, can you tell me what time it is?" (For the younger ones, you can ask in a different way, "Excuse me, what time is it?"). Of course, if the girl / boy smiles, looks at her phone and tells you to answer with something like, "Thank you, once again I apologize for wasting and your time is only 14:00." The kind "No problem" would follow here if he is interested or he can just end up like this "... are you in a hurry somewhere", if you can't say it: D. This is how a normal conversation starts, it's better than shouting behind her - HEY ...
From the author: Thank you number 7! According to you, I can judge that you are a person with positive energy and enthusiasm. Thanks a lot to the others.