Hello, a 19-year-old girl writes to you. First year student, I do not study in my hometown, but 30 kilometers from it. I have been traveling all my life, because I have been studying there since kindergarten, they drove me until I was 15, from 16 by train. I really want to move out of us and live for rent where I study, but my mother and father do not agree. They bother me, I want to wake up and be alone, to fall asleep and be alone, not to consider when I can talk on the phone and when not, I want to be independent, to learn responsibility. And the journey tires me. Since my brother and I are in the same room, I go to the living room early in the morning, and when my father gets up early and is there, I get nervous because I can't do well in peace. And this is just a small example of the inconvenience that this coexistence creates for me. Please give me some advice! How do I start from scratch They refuse to give me money for rent, I am left to start earning it myself. How to study and work at the same time? What is the most rational solution in this case? Because the rent will be at least 500 leva, and food, and electricity, and water, and internet? I beg the moderators to publish my story! Thanks.
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You can only rent a room in an apartment shared with other tenants or with landlords. You will still have your private room, but it will be much cheaper. Looking for a room with costs included.
Ehee, what is this rent of BGN 500. You don't need a whole one-bedroom apartment for one person, I guess. In any city you study, your private room is 150-200 BGN. The bills are about 70-100, even in winter. Every second store is looking for sellers and arrangers for half a day or for weekends. If you are organized and do not study medicine or law, you will probably be able to do both your studies and your work.
There are three options I can think of: Option 1 - The most rational solution, in my opinion, is to interrupt your education for a year, to go on a brigade to England or another country. To raise money, then come back and invest it in your education. In this way you will harden your character abroad, you will learn independence and when you come you will have the resources and experience. Independent living is not easy and the fact that your parents do not help you is bad, but it will harden your character and you will learn to cope on your own. Option 2- To start working on a 4-hour working day and to apply for a dormitory (if they have one) Option 3- You pass part-time and start normal work on an 8-hour working day. I wish you success!
Go to a hostel, it will be the cheapest, 500 leva is a lot of money, for some people this is their salary. See some part-time work.
If you are a regular, you are entitled to a hostel. There, the amounts are lower, in the sense that if you find an hourly job that combines with studying, you will be able to spend the month. There are few relative things, however, it depends on the work, it depends on the amounts in the dormitories and so on, but it is certainly not like accommodation 500 electricity, water, heating and others. Usually, at least at our university, you can pay a little more for a private room. But it is not easy to be far away and be independent. Think about whether now is the time for such a step. You can spend another 1-3 years and go in absentia.
What about cohabitation ... if you annoy him from now on, what will happen when you take a husband, children? Now you dream of being alone, but if this really happens, you will be looking for no one around you ... Once upon a time, people lived in 10 people in one room and were much, much more united and strong as clans than now.
Your rent will be AT LEAST BGN 500? Are you going to be a student and live in a separate home? Bravo Bravo! You are widely planning to study. A more modest girl would look for a dormitory, a rented room or an apartment with roommates. However, you are a high bar, a separate apartment. Separately for work. My wife and I have worked a lot as students. Half a day, on shifts in fast food restaurants, at night in a printing house, construction work, cleaning homes, filling in databases ... What not? !! Of course, you will sleep a little, you will spend a lot, even professions that you otherwise looked down on. Grandpa Torbalan
Calm down for now! Breathe! With the rent come the bills ...! Food, electricity, water, rent !!! Bad or not, if you are at university, then you are doing well, but you are annoying or not .... Your chance is if you are right to find a job while studying or help from relatives and still have no right to oblige them to help you if you are not with them, let alone be angry with them! Otherwise, I understand that everyone wants their own space, but sometimes it is not possible ... Remember that it is not as easy to be alone as you think and it is not so good at all!
But it is very clear that they will not pay your rent - not only do they provide you with housing (after 18 they are not obliged, they can easily say "this cohabitation bothers us" and kick you out), but you also want to be given money to live in something else. : D Be aware a little.
Most universities have dormitories - ask, rents are low, and so are bills.
Well, didn't this university in another city have dormitories? Isn't it a private mess? It is understandable at 19 to want independence. At the age of 18 I left my hometown to study in another city and was there in a dormitory. The first year our people helped me, the rent of the dormitory is BGN 30-40. keep in mind, it's not accommodation!
Everyone wants to be independent and not have to comply with anyone. You will have to endure until you graduate, and then when you start work you will be able to take your own home.
We have no dormitories, the university is private. And yes, I want to live widely, you don't have to attack me for wanting a high standard of living. Someone had written that I was grateful they hadn't kicked me out. Not only do they not persecute me, they do NOT allow me to leave us, holding me with money. I quote "the moment you leave us you will not receive a penny, only the university will pay you. "I don't want to have roommates, no husband, no children. I have been selfish since I was a child and such things are not my priority. My priority is to finish my education and develop professionally, personally I am not interested in anything. :)
Author, apart from the fact that your parents also do not lag behind their parents in the field of mental burdens. In real life, 99% of the time, you won't get exactly what you want. So if you want to move out, think about what compromise you can make. At least find roommates for at least a while until you start earning enough money for self-accommodation. Keep in mind that living with other people is not always like living with your parents. It is possible that you do not come across your roommates at all, they will not tell you how much you are standing outside and what you are doing as long as you do not disturb them in any way. Depending on how you arrange yourself, you will probably have a private room. The words "personal plan does not interest me" are a sign of antisocial personality disorder.
Look, start going to a brigade in the United States in the summer, for example, or at least to our sea. So for the year you will make some good money. Also, when you want something, start thinking about how to get it, not just grumbling and complaining. Now, if you've been grumbling about your stops for a while now, let things settle down. And then start again, but not with a grunt, but tell them something like that you are already very tired from this daily journey, you feel like a corpse, during lectures and exercises it is difficult for you to concentrate, because forever you fall asleep and often have a headache. Yes, author, you need a certain approach to everything in your life. You have to be a strategist. So now I've seen H14's comment, and I'm honestly fed up with people who see that someone doesn't want a family life, especially if it's female, and immediately get him out with some mental disorder and I don't know what nonsense. Yes, this unwanted most likely comes from the bad relationship between the parents and the generally negative atmosphere and suffocating attitude at home. But what does it matter? Why should it be evaluated at all? One is free to live as one wishes, as long as one does not interfere with others. And such claims as the H14 would rather definitely confirm her reluctance to move forward over the years. The author may change her desire after years. But even if you don't change it so much? Look at you, because all the seriously engaged are so normal and without disorders that I have no words .. Really bad with serious, real personal and mental disorders are people who become married, have children, but behave badly with them - they shout , beat them, but it's as if a lot of people somehow still accept it ... Or there are some others who are a pretty big mass of people who always have to have someone to their liking - if they're not tied up they almost can't live their life, because either they are used to someone serving them, helping them with money, etc ... and many other reasons, now I will not list them, but they already know each other. this has so many infidelities and family dramas in general !!! These people are really toxic and have personality disorders. And why was comment6 published at all? Let her go and watch the Turkish TV series .. to support them with money, etc. ... and many other reasons, now I will not list, but they are already known .. That's why there are so many infidelities and family dramas at all! These people are really toxic and have personality disorders. And why was comment6 published at all? Let her go and watch the Turkish TV series .. to support them with money, etc. ... and many other reasons, now I will not list, but they are already known .. That's why there are so many infidelities and family dramas at all! These people are really toxic and have personality disorders. And why was comment6 published at all? Let her go and watch the Turkish TV series ..
Another spoiled bed. They wouldn't give her money if she moved out, aww, but they would pay her for a private university. Some of us moved out at 18 without paying their university and studied and worked at the same time without a penny of help from anywhere, she wanted a whole apartment ready ... No one owes you, remember it, it will help you a lot in life.
You are very selfish and want to live widely, but you do not have the qualities to dictate the situation. You have been a student for 1 month and you will take off on the moon. How much does studying at a private university cost you? What income do your parents have? Work, make money and have fun, and don't harass your parents. I guess you've broken their nerves a lot with your styles.
If you are not personally interested in anything and you want luxury, there is an ideal solution for you! You need a small initial capital, I leave it to your imagination how to provide it. Then you rent a small but nice apartment and in the evening you accept and ... uh, you entertain one or two gentlemen. Thus, with 6 hours of work per week, you will secure about BGN 4,000 per month. Enjoy! Grandpa Torbalan
From №14: Number 15, do you actually read what you are commenting on. I did not mention family anywhere, but I meant the author's general desire to distance herself from human contact. Humans, if you don't understand, are social beings and there may be various reasons to avoid others. When external factors are internalized, it is anti-sociality / misanthropy, which is often confused with asociality, in which the causes are entirely internal. In this case, the external reasons of the author are her parents, which is not equivalent to a primordial inner desire to be alone. The recommendation of additional isolation will only strengthen the author's misconceptions caused by her over-controlling family. It is best for her to live with roommates for a while, but to have her own room, so that she gets an idea of normal human contact other than her suffocating daily life. Please, in the future, when you have an incomplete understanding of a topic, do not replicate in the first way and do not put your meaning in other people's words.
From the author: I reached a consensus with my parents and they agreed to pay me rent for the apartment and give me money, in return they want me to have excellent grades. Thanks to everyone though for the opinion expressed, 90% attacking me. I will tell Grandpa Torbalan that things worked out for me even without accepting ... "gentlemen". If that's how his financial problems were solved, I wouldn't need it. And I'm not lying because I want to have personal space? Since when do you call a person who wants to live alone a league? I asked you for advice, like normal people, and you started attacking because I want a high standard of living ... well, yes, I want and I get it. Regards :)
Author, enjoy me! : D many people will attack them now, because our country is envious, the nation itself .. I am very glad that you got along with your parents! In my opinion, the ideal option is to finish your education and then look for a job, because I do not know any student with excellent grades who goes to work and studies at the same time. And I am often attacked precisely because of "my high standard", as if this is a bad thing. Most people, as you can see in the comments, put up with the small room and they are fine there, and they spit on us, the people with ambitions. Dare, study, work in your specialty and pursue your high standards. Don't even put up with something at a lower level for a minute! :) Good luck
Poor, deluded child. You triumph, but you actually capitulated. Your success lies in asking your parents for money. Valuable quality. In fact, two things happened. You have admitted that you cannot do it alone. You remain a small league, with a student mentality and the only talent to beat your parents. May mom and dad be alive and well, that without them you are nowhere. Your parents have solidified their control over you. Now they hold even tighter. I hope you like living on a leash. You are probably deluding yourself that you are actually executing part of a deal. However, I shoot it too, and your parents shoot it, that in a private university even a donkey will have good success. Grandpa Torbalan
Grandpa Torbalan, if it's not Mom and Dad's money, it's Grandma and Grandpa's money. Money is the smallest problem. I agree to be controlled in exchange for living alone, as you put it, widely. I don't know who lied to you that it is easy to get grades in a private university, but I can tell you that this is not true at all. I am a first semester and I am torn from studying. This is just a cliché. The fact is that I can't do it alone, I can't have great success and work at the same time. Success is important to me, with it I will continue my development, not from the shop where I can start working. And I think my parents know better than you what is best for me. Every parent thinks only of the good of their child. Number 21, it turned out to be right.
Until 21. It's not bad to live well, I also live alone in a huge and beautiful apartment. True, I bought it myself, but it doesn't matter. What matters is that you mistakenly call the muffling of parents and grumbling about money, ambition. You can have ambitions when you can handle life on your own, when you work, earn, and are independent. And when we depend on whether your parents will pay your rent and give you pocket money, it's the opposite, a lack of ambition. What if one day no one gives you?
Light candles for your parents and grandmothers, because when you graduate from the famous private university, no one will blur for you. So to ensure a standard. If you had a standard you would enter a good state university. But you did not earn enough to you enter, this is the naked truth.
Number 25, as much as you want this to be true, is not. The fact is that at the university where I study, the technique is at the highest level of all of Bulgaria. I will not comment on the base and the professors who are not even Bulgarians. I have the connections to enter which university I want. Stop rejoicing, I just asked for advice on how to start from scratch, but malice and envy have no end ... If your malice manifests itself even towards anonymous people. One word for you: Horror, with a capital "Y".
I have not commented so far, but the last inclusion of the author is uniquely simple! Girl, just listen: "I have the necessary connections to enter any university I want." Not knowledge, not training, not abilities, not skills, etc., but "connections"! And get acquainted with the meaning of the phrase "I start from scratch" - it is not appropriate in your case.
For some time now I have been paying for the accommodation of a similar student girl who wants to start from "zero" .... :) You can guess how she returns the favor against the independent life she leads. The author, if she had been sniffed by an old man like me, would have settled for a separate apartment very quickly and would not have been financially burdened by the old people for whom plasticine is in her hands, and she kindly thinks that she is independent and started from scratch.