Hello. I'm a little ashamed to post this topic, but I decided to seek help through this site anyway. I'm a girl, a freshman. As you can see from the title of the topic, I want to stop or at least limit to a minimum the viewing of pornographic content. I feel like I spend more time on sites with such "adult movies" than my male counterparts. I feel lewd because of the content I watch - it's never a man or a woman (that is, an ordinary "couple" having sex), it's always something special - two women and a man, two men and a woman, an orgy, a tied woman, and so on. n. In real life, I would hardly try such a thing - I believe in monogamy, I am committed and I would not want to have sex with anyone other than my friend. As a matter of fact, we don't have sex with him regularly - he's my first (and I really hope he's the last, we've been together for a few years), in the beginning everything was great, I even felt like a nymphomaniac - I wanted to do it twice a day, every day I did at least once French love, etc. Unfortunately, I had a problem with the retention of cystitis, then I developed a sore on the mighty neck and kept it dry for a while - sex was not recommended, and it was painful at such a time. I'm healed now, but he has no particular desire - I'm not angry with him, of course, he showed such great understanding for me. But he considers me perverted, depraved, etc., because sometimes I make sexual comments about him in front of his friends. Instead of feeling wanted, he was angry with me, so I stopped. Lately, there is no, no desire to even touch me. That's why I feel repulsive, ugly, etc ... and I comfort myself with porn, as pathetic as it sounds. I'm in a session, but instead of studying for exams, I watch things like that ... Then I feel even more useless and unwanted. I do not know what to do. I just want to be normal, without lewd thoughts - to stop watching porn, to stop thinking so much about sex ...
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First of all, I think it's stupid to make sexual allusions to your friends, you have nothing to prove to them! Make them in front of him. You sit down and talk seriously - share your thoughts and feelings, what you want in bed and ask him where the problem is. Lack of communication and openness kills a relationship. Jen
What's wrong with watching porn? You want to stop thinking about sex - this can't happen, given that your hormones are raging at the moment and you have needs.
Making sexual comments in front of his friends is disgusting and probably, in their eyes, you look very light, I don't know how your friend feels! Can't you show him so much that he is wanted in another way, as you are alone for example ?! Then you can start having sex more often.
What's wrong with watching porn, that's why it's made for watching.
It's not your fault, it's your friend's. Okay, you had a problem, you couldn't have sex, but that's in the past and the fact that he doesn't want you is in no way an indication of a big problem between you. You are like friends, I think you should talk to him seriously, but if it is not taken in hand, for me the relationship is doomed. Ж.25г
I think he's not the man for you.
Girl, find someone on your mind, because otherwise you will drive porn all your life.
So am I, I'm 21 years old. I don't know what advice to give you, to be honest, because I'm the same myself, even my friend is starting to get annoyed
You just say "End" and that's it!
Leave this game and find someone else who would respond to your wishes.
Thanks to all the commenters for their opinion, although I do not agree with most. 1. I do not understand the logic of his friends / my friends to consider me a light girl, when the comments are entirely in the realm of the joke, are not mocking and at least not aimed at them? Like I said, I'm understanding because not everyone accepts "fat humor" and it's not always time for it, so I've stopped such an attempt at funny comments. 2. I don't think sex is the basis of human relationships for either. For me, the problem is on another level - I'm just so used to this pornographic content that I don't feel it. I know it's "normal" for girls to watch, too, but probably every week or two, not every day ... It's like a drug addiction. Some people are addicted to Facebook, others - to Pornhub ...
Making sexual comments in front of his friends is hellishly rural. 100% felt very awkward. It happened to me too and I wanted to slap her. As for his friends, well, you did a little seir to have something to discuss when you're gone.
It doesn't matter how often you have sex, but how often you cum and how you cum, this is the most important thing in sex. Now is the time to enjoy life and sex, if your boyfriend doesn't satisfy you, find someone else.
Author, just because you find something funny and amusing does not mean that it is for everyone else. In some cases, the opposite is true. It is a delusion that your first intimate partner will be your last. You are heading for separation, you can't help but feel it. A few years are enough to end a relationship. If he doesn't want you sexually, then you're tired of him, he may like another. Talk seriously, if you don't go apart, that's all. When you are not happy together, seek your happiness separately, it is not a drama. Porn is really a drug, there is a lot written on the net on the subject and it harms normal REAL sex. Stop it and that's it, you need a stronger will. Engage your mind with something else - read, find a hobby, play sports, everything will benefit you more from this vomit. Change your lifestyle altogether, go with another boy.
I'm a man, I have sex often, even very often, but I also watch porn all the time, especially with valuable blowjobs, maybe because in real life this doesn't happen, because everyone wants to beat things up in sex. but in your case, change your boy necessarily and try to have sex in the ass, it will diversify and you will like, after sex in the ass, vaginal orgasm will compensate for the so-called back pain. In fact, I would like to do something beautiful and tender together, if you decide. mareid
Even though you are a woman, you are still considered a human being, so it is normal to experience human feelings. Your problem is white kahar. It is much easier for a woman to find men with whom to embody her fantasies than for a man to come across a woman without restraint. Men are great dreamers, they are ready to experiment, only the woman should be braver, and if the man stretches, then she has fallen into gender, so away from such!
Don't worry, I'm like that, but you don't die from it. I watch porn constantly and everywhere. And for me the standard things are not interesting to me, and for me my wife does not respond to all my desires, but what to do I love her and I do not want to cheat. There is obviously no way out of the situation. I've been trying to give up porn for years, but I can't. We will live like this and this is it. I am a man of 35, married with a child.
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