Hello! My boyfriend and I started living as a family 2 months ago, and we have been together for 6 years. I hadn't been impressed before, or maybe he hadn't, but lately, when we have sex, he makes strange noises, moaning, just like a woman. I tried to ignore the moaning in question, but this is every time we have sex .. I do not moan like that, I almost never make sounds, and he just overdoes it, it kills all my desire and excitement. How can I tell him that she sounds like a girl from a porn movie, I just get disgusted when she starts moaning like that. I don't know how to approach so as not to offend him. Please advice! Thanks in advance!
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dirian_ answered · July 20, 2020
The best option is to sit down and talk to him. Even if you repeat what is written here, he must understand you. If not, he's either not a man or he doesn't want to be with you. Frankness! This is the way.
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xoxo4u_ answered · July 20, 2020
So just tell him? Write it to him on the poem, what? You say it outright, but without ridicule or negativity, just as a fact. And how you haven't noticed him so far is weird ... or he didn't. If he hasn't done it before, there's no point in offending you. If he's always done it, he may be offended that you haven't noticed him in so long ... But you have to tell him anyway.
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tanya_welth answered · July 20, 2020
Wait, six years before you lived together? Worrying ... unless you were 14, for example, when you met ....
The sounds are probably not pleasant, but do you hear them only now? A novelty of some kind, I don't think ... people moan the same way, I haven't changed my moan during sex, it's natural and there is no way to forge or change it unless we play theater ...
I can only sympathize with you, I know how the sounds are reflected during sex, I even feel uncomfortable and unwilling if I don't like my partner's moaning, which will be ridiculous according to some, but I'm a very hearing type.
Separate, seriously. You don't look in love with the way you write, and these six years ...
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kuma_cam answered · July 20, 2020
You go and tell him, "Honey, you sound like a girl from a porn movie, would you stop please?"
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prettytingz answered · July 20, 2020
I don't believe you can offend him with that. However, you have been together for 6 years, you should not be repulsed by such a remark, and only you can build the perfect sex to your liking. And let him think about you and how you don't like this whole thing.
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mmm_leia answered · July 20, 2020
Maybe he wants you to start making sounds and he's trying to make you feel comfortable that way
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rachelcardozo answered · July 21, 2020
You can tell him that during sex, you feel so good that you are transported to another dimension. But when he makes sounds, he distracts you. That you are just like that.
You see, turn things around so he doesn't realize the problem is with him. Therefore, it will not be affected.
At first I laughed heartily because I imagined it. But then I put myself in your shoes, and that's really awful.
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jamest54321 answered · July 21, 2020
Write him an email.
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omgmarial answered · July 21, 2020
A moan like a girl killed me, I recognized you. I've always loved quiet women not to be heard and the sound I ended up lying down with a corpse / tree I don't expect to moan right. It will ruin the moment. If you have such a problem, tell him fans, things are getting better, so instead of 1 corpse there will be 2.
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qoreyquoyourq answered · July 22, 2020
Are you Normal? You should be glad that the person is aroused by you! You better not tell him, because you may end your relationship. If I were you, I would be happy for my boy to moan with pleasure. You seem to be sexually illiterate, you better keep quiet and don't give up. The man loves you and is relaxed in front of you. If in such an intimate moment we control our emotions, when should we relax? If my man makes such a remark to me, I will NEVER be able to relax in front of him again. We are people, we have no problems, we look for them.
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niseazz13 answered · July 22, 2020
I think some of the commenters did not understand correctly what I mean .. I do not mind the sounds during sex !! Just because I don't give them out every time I have sex doesn't mean I don't mind my partner doing it. A few months ago it made completely normal male sounds, my problem is that I don't like this innovation with this female moaning ... No matter how excited I am, if I hear this, my whole desire dies. I love it, it's not such an insurmountable problem, but I will definitely feel 100 times better during sex if it makes its sounds like before. So my question was how to tell him delicately so as not to offend and bother him? !!
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lenamilenag answered · July 22, 2020
As I told you above. You sit down and tell the problem directly in plain text in his eyes. Show him that you are serious about this conversation, and if he wants to be with you and feels the same, you should not worry and write here. Once upon a time, when your mothers didn't have internet, how did they do it?
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brenda_palvin answered · July 23, 2020
You could start with, "What's wrong with you? Wasn't that the case before?" Most likely he received a wrong hint from somewhere about the positive effect of such behavior. I almost rule out that something has changed in his nervous system. And bolder - you will still have to ask for more difficult questions :)
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littlelolib8 answered · July 23, 2020
Sorry for the curiosity, but did you talk? I had one such partner who moaned a lot. It was strange to me and somewhat excitatory, but I was embarrassed to tell him, and we rarely saw each other. I wonder how your man reacted if you told him.
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andrewxtyler answered · July 23, 2020
Hi, I was in the same situation, I was uncomfortable so I don't even make sounds myself, but one day we sat down and I told him everything.
It has not been repeated since
I hope you manage.
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squirtsquirrel answered · July 24, 2020
I think it invites you to make sounds, and probably more emotion. I say it from experience. In my first relationship, it was like this ... I was silent, I was inexperienced and so on ... And he started the same way as yours man. Then he asked me why I never make sounds, whether I'm like that in general or just not good. The man needs to feel your pleasure and this is one of the ways, and if he feels that you are enjoying and he hears you, he will feel great. Just try :)
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leracherry answered · July 24, 2020
I have not come across such. Usually the woman is the one who is noisier. As you describe it, it doesn't sound good to me. What to do? Talk calmly. Tell him it wasn't like that before.
But I wonder how you don't make sounds yourself? This is not physically possible - not even a moan. Nobody talks about screaming at the top of your voice.
Either there is something that worries you, or you do not enjoy it. I can't imagine being like a fish in bed.
If your friend stops moaning, will you do it like rabbits?
Show him that you enjoy having sex.