Hello, an 18-year-old girl from a medium-sized Bulgarian city, from an average Bulgarian family, is writing to you. Both my parents are teachers - my mother in Bulgarian language and literature, and my father in history. Everything in the relationship between us and at home was going well, but ... This totally, completely and absolutely changed with the entry into,, the complex age,,. For several years now, I have fully realized that I am homosexual. For about a year and a half, I tried to have a relationship with a boy who behaved wonderfully with me, and he really loved and cared for me, our relationship and our relationship, but it just didn't work out, no matter how hard I tried, and that's it. Our people liked him, and they were very disappointed, you could even say they were angry when we broke up, and they kept asking me about the reason. But how do I tell them, as they are totally and absolutely sworn homophobes, and since I was a child they have tried to tell me that this is almost a mortal sin for which there is no forgiveness, all my life I have constantly listened to malicious and bilious insinuations, hints and comments addressed to people. with a homosexual orientation, and now to suddenly tell them that I am one of them - I just do not know how they will react, and they will experience it ... For some time I have been feeling special and strong feelings for a girl in my immediate environment - with bi orientation, but I'm afraid to reveal them to her, because I'm worried she won't answer them, because she is currently in a serious relationship with another girl. So my question is - how to act in both situations, in your opinion? Many thanks in advance to all who commented! I will ask without malice, aggression, negativism and homophobia - it is enough for me in real life.
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No one knows when and with whom he will fall in love. Yours should understand you. However, they cannot cut off their only child if you do not have siblings. After all, which parent would do that. You were meant to have a sexual orientation, just tell them. And when it comes to that girl, tell her too, because that's how you'll clarify your relationship! I hope I was useful to you ;-)
You do not need to tell your parents now that you are still dependent on them for maintenance, especially after they have shown their attitude towards such people. There is a time when you take your life into your own hands and do not depend on anything, you will tell them. As for the girl, I don't understand homo relationships at all, but I don't think it's fair to ruin anyone's relationship, or wait for them to separate, or look for a free partner.
I know 2 girls who are boyfriends, they are 21 and they both hide from their parents and they think to hide it forever or at least as long as they can. And you don't tell them.
I'll start with your second dilemma. You doubt whether to break a relationship between two people, not because you will cause pain, but because you can be rejected. This is so selfish and unscrupulous. At the age of 18, you must have some ethical norms. About parents and society. You have neither the right nor the opportunity to demand approval for your choice. Free will has consequences. Your parents are unlikely to deny you, but it is certain that you will cause them suffering. On the other hand, you are 18. You start an independent life, separate from your parents. If you are discreet enough and keep them away from your intimate life, you will save the family drama. Grandpa Torbalan
Never tell them. Why do you have to tell them !?
You are a living example of fun karma. Probably, if you hadn't been told that this was wrong, you would never have gone there. You don't have to tell your parents right now, you're still young and I tend to believe that you're not quite aware of your sexuality. You haven't even tried to be intimate with both sexes, how can you be sure? Just because your ex didn't attract you doesn't mean another boy won't. Good attitude is not always directly related to physical attraction. For example, you have girlfriend girls who don't attract you, right? Most teenage girls now find themselves bisexual, experimenting, and taking time to realize that they may be fine with both sexes. But no, we must define ourselves immediately, without being calm and convinced. Give yourself some time, wait until you're completely convinced,
Don't get into movies. You are Traikov and live your life.
I suggest you wait until you start supporting yourself and then tell them, because you still don't know how they will react. I have the same problem and at least that's what I decided and I think it's best. Good luck
don't tell them about it, I'm a man like you, only a man, and I have a relationship with a boy and a girl at the same time - I'm bisexual, no matter what orientation a person is, there's nothing wrong with that.
In a normal country, they would have long ago been taken away from parents who say such horrible things to a certain group of people. Wait until you become an adult, then reveal yourself and put them in their place, but with love. Their behavior is ugly. The Bulgarian worries more about gays than about the blatant simplicity in Bulgaria. Ah Bulgarian, if you harness this energy of hatred to something constructive, such a life will come ... By the way, I have long ago given up on Bulgarians, I see no hope of them becoming people ...
How can I contact you, can I help you because I have the same problem?
Contact the Single Step Foundation to tell yours about your orientation. They have a site with the same name.
Thanks a lot to everyone for the comments and advice, especially number 12 in particular - I will probably listen to your advice. Regarding Grandpa Torbalan's comment number 4 - where did he see me say that I intended to interfere in their relationship, or to spoil it in any way - in any way? Nothing of the kind. As for the application number 11 - here may not allow the exchange of personal data or coordinates, unfortunately. Good luck to everyone with such a problem in solving it, and revealing it to relatives and friends. The author
I will ask the site administrators to make an exception and allow us to exchange contact details with the number 11.