Hello ... well, I'm 17 years old, I'm a girl and I'm writing on such a site for the first time. I'm transsexual and I don't know how to tell my parents about such a thing. They are very conservative and would not understand me. I'm struggling to hide from them .. I'm very sick that I can't even trust my own family but I just can't think of any way to share them ... I really hope to get advice on how to tell them about this ..
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Just tell yours, at least don't bother. Direct and clear and don't expect them to be happy, I'm sure they will experience it somehow. And the later the better! ;)
I told my parents that I was gay and they accepted it terribly - they wanted to take me to a psychiatrist, to drop me out of school, I don't know what you are. Now I am a 4th year student, things are calmer, but a lot, a lot of time has passed. It is better not to share them, because it will shake them, they may even touch you. Unintelligible people deny everything they can't understand and they are dangerous - they affect your psyche, to say the least. Just be brave and be yourself!
Are you aware of the word "transsexuality"? If you're like that, they should know. You're supposed to be a girl, but you're developing like a boy, that's how I understand it?
I have a transgender friend who was so hesitant. In the end he told them and they changed their attitude, he was offended. In the end, the game gets so rough that it leads to a suicide attempt and an escape from home. They haven't had any contact for a year, they don't even know where he is. Tip - don't tell them if they are conservative. Believe me, hiding is much less evil. Remember my word, I have a clear example in front of me. If he hadn't said it, he would have saved himself a hell of a lot of pain, misunderstanding, and loneliness. Even GPs were taken to doctors and fortune tellers to "fix" it.
You're hardly transsexual without your knowledge, after all, it's gender reassignment surgery. You would rather be either homosexual. My advice is to first be 100% sure of your sexuality before you share, I also thought at 17 that I was a lesbian and see now 10 years later I am married, that we are discussing my husband with a child. Keep in mind that many parents prefer not to know the "terrible" truth, but simply to suspect or be openly misled. I don't think it will be easier for you if you cause a family cataclysm with your confession. I still remember how hard my mother looked me in the eye when I told her that I loved girls ... now from the look in my eyes of a almost 30-year-old woman, I see that I have created unnecessary torments and worries for her. If you really are a lesbian and yours are so conservative, you better wait a few years until you leave,
4 to 3 and 5 Don't talk nonsense about things you don't understand. I quote: Transsexuality is a form of gender identity in which a person permanently and sustainably identifies as a member of the opposite sex. That is, in this condition the physiological and psychological gender identity of the individual do not coincide. Transsexuality is not a type of sexual orientation and has nothing to do with homosexuality. Or as for you - this is just PSYCHOLOGICAL self-identification, it is NOT about sexual orientation (comparisons with bisexuality and homosexuality are ridiculous) and it does not necessarily manifest itself externally and physically. So the fact that your parents couldn't help but know that you had to have surgery to be like that is, to put it mildly, nonsense. A transsexual can be homo, hetero or bi. The author simply identifies as a man, but that doesn't mean that he is necessarily attracted to women (this may or may not be the case). Despite his gender identity, he may fall in love with boys. Please do not speak unprepared on topics you are unfamiliar with.
I don't see why yours should know. This is your sexual orientation.
H 5 you do not understand the difference between transsexual and homosexual.
It is high time to set aside a piece of land and have everyone with sexual aberrations live there. No one will bother you, no one will need to explain anything to you! You will live, you will fuck as you want and no one will forbid you to parade. I'm tired of you, your eternal "problems" and your eternal grumbling about everything!
Repent. Ask God for forgiveness. The way of salvation is through Jesus Christ. God bless you!
I'm starting to think I'm lesbian, or at least bisexual - I've liked boys too, but not as much as girls. I only think about girls, sometimes when I sit I listen to music and imagine that I am a boy singing to a girl O. Oh, etc. Can I somehow "give up" on girls?
Start a casual conversation with them, then ask them if they want the best for their child and for him to be happy ... there is no normal parent who does not want him ... then explain to them that you are a normal person, but you just have different from the accepted normal inclinations, but you are no different from your peers.
Number 7 this is not sexual orientation ... have you heard of google? : D
6 thank you very much for understanding what I'm talking about. =) This makes me very happy. ^^
Hi, I am also transsexual like you and I told my parents and I am not accepted, I really want to write to each other. Look for a closet org site it is for people like us. Or if you don't find it, write in a confession to whom I will give you my mail there.
At least wait until you're 18, supposedly more independent. Otherwise they can make your life miserable ... in principle there is a very good book, "My Revelation" is called. Inside there are many good stories from Bulgarian young people and not so young people who are trans or gay. It can help you. Good luck :)
Don't tell them yet, wait until you become independent. I was in exactly the same position as you. I wondered, I wondered, but I didn't do it until I graduated from university, because I was paid my fees, etc. And I don't regret it at all, because if I had done it earlier, they would have ruined my education and my whole life. Otherwise, I started telling only my friends then and at that moment I realized which friendships were real and which were not. Otherwise, you can seek support in many places. Search this site http: // www. deystvie. org /. If you are from a bigger city, you can go to one of their meetings. It is very unloading and you find understanding, you meet many people with similar problems as yours, you exchange experiences, etc. The same organization has published a very good book "My Discovery". It will be quite useful to you, at least in my opinion.
Don't tell them. That is better not, you have another year to leave you do not know how things will react can become ugly. I would keep quiet. Why? Because it will be better for you and for them. This is not something to be ashamed of or anything else. It's you. If you feel like a boy, you will be a boy. It's simple and clear. It's just that your parents are conservative, you can't know how to react. Shut up. I don't see why you feel bad? This is you and you should not be interested in the opinion of others, but still these are your parents. Tell them later, as you are not dependent on them. I can wish you success.
Emmy, don't tell them if you know they're conservative ... they don't need to know everything.