How Do Single People Cope? Does It Make Sense?

   I just remembered this phrase - "beautiful mind" ... And by the way, the movie itself ... Somehow it reminded me of you. How can I tell you ... You are too young and I do not believe that you understand the words as I see them, through the prism of so many years. But I will still try. You know, at your age, I was like you - and I was annoyed by the mediocrity of my peers. But not everything was black and white, and I managed to find 2 real friends with whom I had my moments. Nevertheless, I have been quite close to the "bare plateau in front of the abyss," where you are now. Many thoughts passed to me then, similar to yours. But when we hit the mark, the conclusion is that society really does not tolerate outsiders. Being a "black sheep" will not help you survive in this society. And you have no choice if you want to have a future. Notice that I'm not saying you have to have a future that society thinks is "normal" or "appropriate for you." I know it disgusts you. That's right. The simple truth is that you need to know him well enough to be able to "navigate" among him to provide yourself with the necessary conditions and means to pursue your goals, your dreams, your views. Think of it as a tax that we all pay, where consciously, where not. Which more, which - less. The line is very thin - as you have already understood - "it is not a sign of good health to be part of a sick society". But as you know very well - "tired horses kill them, don't they". Don't look at things so pessimistically. How did you decide at the age of 19 that a lonely life awaited you? Tomorrow you may meet someone who understands you, yourself. Yes you " that you are independent and have the purely financial and practical freedom to do the things you really want. Now, if you manage to combine these 2 things - well done. So you were lucky :) But it is more likely that these are 2 different worlds in which you will live. They will have different rules and features. And you have to teach them well. Socially, it will be more difficult - I know you will not compromise with the people around you. But communication with others and contact with others in general is based on compromise, more or less. Only you and the future know whether you will meet those whom you allow to "enter your circle". And this topic in itself is long, often discussed here. Personally, I don't think it should be that hard to find other young people like you who have a similar mindset. Not everyone dreams of "the perfect life to advertise in front of others", or "to shake in the disco and wipe a cool piece with a nice ass" :) Nowadays it is easier than ever to find a place to find like-minded people . Although this remains relatively difficult, our breed traditionally treats strangers with suspicion :) We always weigh, judge :) And this is not very motivating are the other side :) But you have enough time to try :) But from now on I can to tell you that there is no easy way and easy answer :) Not that you didn't know it anymore :) PS - Be careful with "God". Ask yourself the question - how many answers does he have for you, but really. However, I want to emphasize strongly - With the above I do not want to affect the believers, nor to discuss this topic. I am a man of logic and Truth. And this as a concept does not fit much with "God".

   You are not right. I was a small child when adults began to explain to me that I was too old for my age. At puberty I thought it was a difference that could not be skipped, I was negative. I have never loved noise, it has always been relatively quiet at home. Our doors are open for guests, there are always strangers, there are always laughter and conversations, within normal limits. No loud music, no gossip, no drooling and no scandals. I grew up that way, and as a grown-up I didn't need discos, but real friends I couldn't find anywhere. At one time I was lonely and it was my fault. I had a negative attitude, I didn't like most people. I put everyone who goes to a party on Friday under a common denominator. It is very wrong. I fell in love three times. The common denominator between the three I felt was that they were different. It was only with the latter that I had grown up enough to behave perfectly adequately and not be gloomy. Only he did not have a drop of negativity in him. We were doomed with the others, minus and minus does not make a plus in human relations, but rather makes a minus infinity. We are still together with the third, I do not feel the need to accumulate a number and I feel good, he is my first intimate friend. Before him I was afraid, I was always dizzy - but sex will make me a light girl, but they can lie to me, but how to trust, how to relax, how to accept my body and show it to someone .. ( What !?) When I did, I was already light years ahead of myself. I accepted that I might be hurt, but I trusted my feelings and knew that no matter how things went, I would be able to do it because I wanted to. Just sex, nothing scary or burdensome, I didn't want a prince, I did not find everyone unworthy. I grew up and went to university. I was positive about the new people. I always like the company of mansions, and we all felt like mansions. I like my colleagues, they were a great support for me in the new city. We drank coffee in front of the university, told each other stories and accepted each other as we are. If I had met the same people 4 years earlier, things would have been different. I wouldn't accept that they were partying, I wouldn't want to listen to their drunken stories or know that their hearts were broken. No one judges me for not falling for alcohol and missing most gatherings. They accept me. They call me when I'm not going to lectures. They call me if they have a personal problem. They listen to me if I'm sad myself. I do the same for them. Communication is two-way, everything is mutual. I would say, that they value me as part of the team because there is no case in which I have not helped someone. To be honest, I get along with the person no one else can talk to. I get along with him because he is a man, and I was the same. Do not think that your preferences exclude you from any team and they make bad company. It's one thing on the table, it's quite another during the day with a cup of coffee. I'm not a man for a table, I'm a man for a cup of coffee from a chat. Seriously, I dance horribly, I can't sing, I find it hard to relax, I don't like noise and I don't like my hair to smell like cigarettes, hookahs, all kinds of fumes. But I like to have guests, I like to listen to conversations, I like other people's stories, laughter and sharing. Nobody cares that I'm like that. I do not judge them, nor do they judge me. I try to get to know everyone, if I like it, it becomes my friend, if not, we just say hello and happy holidays. I don't put people under a common denominator anymore and the picture has acquired new colors, more and more beautiful. I was a loner, and like many loners, I had chosen that myself. I was not interested in people because I found them primitive. Now I am ashamed of the behavior and my thoughts that were normal for me 4-5 years ago. It is not normal to have a bad opinion of people about whom you know nothing significant. Others feel when you are negative about them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person radically changes his life if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. I don't put people under a common denominator anymore and the picture has acquired new colors, more and more beautiful. I was a loner, and like many loners, I had chosen that myself. I was not interested in people because I found them primitive. Now I am ashamed of the behavior and my thoughts that were normal for me 4-5 years ago. It is not normal to have a bad opinion of people about whom you know nothing significant. Others feel when you are negative about them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person radically changes his life if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. I don't put people under a common denominator anymore and the picture has acquired new colors, more and more beautiful. I was a loner, and like many loners, I had chosen that myself. I was not interested in people because I found them primitive. Now I am ashamed of the behavior and my thoughts that were normal for me 4-5 years ago. It is not normal to have a bad opinion of people about whom you know nothing significant. Others feel when you are negative about them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person changes his life radically if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. I was not interested in people because I found them primitive. Now I am ashamed of the behavior and my thoughts that were normal for me 4-5 years ago. It is not normal to have a bad opinion of people about whom you know nothing significant. Others feel when you are negative about them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person changes his life radically if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. I was not interested in people because I found them primitive. Now I am ashamed of the behavior and my thoughts that were normal for me 4-5 years ago. It is not normal to have a bad opinion of people about whom you know nothing significant. Others feel when you are negative about them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person radically changes his life if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. when you are negative towards them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person radically changes his life if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything. when you are negative towards them and consider yourself very different. You're not different, there are many like you, but you probably don't give them a chance or they don't give you a chance. My story is an indicator of how a person radically changes his life if he just learns to accept others and not judge. Something very small, very elementary, which changes everything.

   You are normal, but unfortunately you live in an abnormal world, and even more abnormal time ... As a man who has been through this, I will tell you about the "meaning" - no one tells you and do not wait for it ... People find "meaning" in all sorts of madness, if you are not satisfied, your personal problem is ... The only meaning I have built is to stand up to yourself and believe, but really in yourself. To clear all your doubts, no matter who says what. This does not mean to deceive yourself that you are not wrong, but to make at least your own mistakes, not those of someone else ... I am older than you and in my time there were still people with whom to really communicate, and in person, and chat. The processes you are talking about are still in full swing. I had a Christian acquaintance, the only true religious person I know, a strong person, smart, but unfortunately quite brainwashed, because she hadn't made a choice of what to believe, and her parents had done it for her. I personally read all kinds of religions and philosophies, and I can state a more general thesis, against which she could not make logical arguments. So what has it always been about - can billions of "Christians" be wrong and you are right? And I yell at her - yes, maybe ... She never managed to get rid of the thinking of the masses, because she was breastfed with that. It's the same with your generation, they create such an environment for them, and they become that, they perceive this as "normal". Most people are extremely amorphous and life caresses them as they please. Their problem is that the song is constantly changing. What is considered "normal" today, after 10 years can become a defendant, and vice versa. These are people who don't know who they are, but it's their choice. Who does not do like them is "special". Just don't think that only you are like that, but being "special" by their criteria does not mean that things happen with everyone else "special", because being "special" actually means being a person, and personalities of all kinds. ... That's why we are often left alone. Many cannot be accepted, and are constantly looking for a way to be "normal," at least in some way. They get married, have children, enter some communities ... life sprays them. But whatever you do, you will still suffer, because that is what this life is all about. It is better to accept it so that you do not make illusory choices that you can get rid of it somehow. Your choice should be honest, not with the idea of ​​what you will get through it. Because whatever you get will be an illusion, and the only real thing is you and what you invest. Anyway, it took a very long time, if you need to communicate with someone, my mail is interim in the ABC. Look at things more positively, even if you don't find motives. After all, life is so short and fleeting, we tend to invest more than it really deserves ...

   It says a boy who is devoted to "social" life. I have friendly relations with many people, I am liked, respected, I have no problems finding friends for almost anything, boyfriends too. BUT I recently realized that it was time to pay attention to myself and grow physically and mentally every day. Yes, over the years I have collected many good moments, many parties of nonsense, I do not regret, but I also regret that I did not bet on myself and did not use my potential purposefully in my own development. So use loneliness is a big plus sometimes train build yourself up as a person and if your desire is to socialize it will definitely happen in time. But the "social" spend much of their time in pointless activities and stay in one place for years. Regarding your question, even some people get used to loneliness and then have a hard time getting used to it, charge the peace it gives you. Everything can turn into a plus as long as you change your point of view;)

   You are a beautiful person. :) True aesthetics.

   There are many others like you, they just meet less often, and some people find an environment later, as will probably happen to you (if at 19 it can be said to be late at all). In the future you will inevitably meet all kinds of people and you will always like someone. Loneliness can be deadly, but you can always use it to develop a new hobby, set and pursue a goal, read books or whatever you want. You say that you are unattractive: firstly, it can only be in your eyes and secondly - there is always a way to make yourself more attractive with at least one idea, be it sports, healthy eating, skin care, hair care, etc. , you just have to find your ways. Black Sabbath

   "If you stare into the abyss for too long, the abyss will stare at you." Friedrich Nietzsche

   You think almost like them and you are going to become the same, if that is what you want, it will happen. There were times when you compromised with me to be in one company or another. But now there is no way, sooner or later, however, you find your people. I hadn't had one for 2-3 years, but it was still great, maybe the best time. And now those you describe, calling me to a disco for example, I do not go, because I am disgusted mainly by their fallen souls. You are rather in the middle, you have the choice to be an animal or a human being.

   I read the letter with great sympathy, because I am also a loner. Yes, we different really have a huge difficulty in relationships. Of course, I suffer a lot. He never gets used to loneliness, but it changes a person a lot in a negative sense. As a reassurance for you, I will say that you are probably not as lonely as you think - you are young, you probably have parents and relatives. I hope you get along with them. You too be blessed and may the new year bring you a lot of health and the dream of friendship with a soulmate!

   Just be careful not to tie it to an aging dude or an uncle, because you sound quite emotionally vulnerable. Enroll in a university and there you will have a better opportunity to find a boy like you with a character and temperament like yours. There are a lot of guys like that, you won't worry. He is looking for people like himself in general - not all people are scoundrels. at 19 you are not old, you are a girl.

   Egati complex ..

   It's like describing me. Complete mansion without friends. This is how I met my first love, because he was more special even than me. Of course, we hoped for a thought. Precisely because he is special, but not special as acceptably special, but special to the extent that he refused to work, because he thought that society was stupid to work, he did not do normal things that are necessary for the survival of the individual in society. It was wonderful to have a special person next to you with your thinking, but with age the responsibilities become bigger and you more or less have to keep these thoughts to yourself and come to terms with some of the things you don't like. I ran away from this boy, even though I loved him very much, because I realized that with a man who lives literally day by day, I can't build anything. No family, no business, no home. After I broke up with him, because I was like a horse with caps, I gave a chance to those I didn't like and I thought I was stupid. They turned out to be people with pure hearts, and I saw that they could be amazing friends ... most of them, not all of them. They know that I don't like discos, sometimes I make compromises, sometimes they agree to go out in the evening for a glass of wine somewhere quiet. People change. Give them a chance, and you'll find more than sex and alcohol. Here, the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" applies in full force. Give them a chance, and you'll find more than sex and alcohol. Here, the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" applies in full force. Give them a chance, and you'll find more than sex and alcohol. Here, the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover" applies in full force.

   to number 15 and I am unfortunately in the same situation but what to do bad luck