I am a woman of 32 years. I can't take it mentally anymore. all my life I have been unhappy personally. I always like people who don't want a relationship with me, but people who don't like me are looking for me. This contradiction tears me apart internally and does not give me peace. Outwardly I look liberated, radiant, happy, but inwardly I am hellishly depressed. I want to have a child now, to live with a man. But it seems more and more impossible to me. The more I look for men, the more they run away from me. I tried not to be insistent. One of the men I like, 40 years old, single for 10 years, called me once. I refused him on purpose because he is used to always being online and I think that is what repulses him and the others. No effect. He hasn't shown any interest in me in a week. Let's just say I just don't like this one. Yes, but everyone behaves like that. They want to be hunters, to be dominant, for you to pull. Only when I refuse them does any interest in them awaken and they want me a lot. Yes, but we don't get anywhere. There is no serious connection between chasing games. Should I make myself inaccessible all my life so that I don't get bored of someone? Things have gotten complicated lately after I fell in love with a man my age and the same thing happens again. At first I pulled - very strong interest. The moment I started looking for him - he totally became the one for me. How do you women approach men who are dominant? so as not to be boring to anyone? Things have gotten more complicated lately after I fell in love with a man my age and the same thing happens again. At first I was pulling - very strong interest. The moment I started looking for him - he totally became the one for me. How do you women approach men who are dominant? so as not to be boring to anyone? Things have gotten complicated lately after I fell in love with a man my age and the same thing happens again. At first I was pulling - very strong interest. The moment I started looking for him - he totally became the one for me. How do you women approach men who are dominant?
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These are not dominant personalities, these are simpletons and complexes. From such - far. At 30, you should know it perfectly.
I listen to them and compliment them. Alpha, w. 30 years
Don't choose your appearance. With it, the appearance, for a month get used to. While the character is in circulation on a daily basis, for Tiva emphasize choices in this area. I did it and for the first time in 20 years I am happy.
I think you are using the dominant incorrectly. At this stage they are interested or uninterested. And posture is not what will attract a man. They are attracted by appearance and chemistry. If you stick to your appearance, you look good, they will like you and they will look for you. And this with the toys, if you are looking for a serious man, you will only lose him if you play games in pursuit with him.
At 32 you think like 15. Enough with these games, you're looking for a man and not a "player". Look for the clean and open person - the one with whom you will not have to enter the game of cat and mouse. You will recognize him by his eyes. He will not chase you or annoy you, but he will not run away from you and ignore you. He will listen to you, look you in the eye and enjoy your company.
In my opinion, you are very fixed in these games of persecution. It is a fact that today's men have become more humble and prefer the convenience of internet communication and subtle psychological tricks to the responsibility of live contact, but women also have something to be desired. A man's dominance has little to do with whether or not he's looking for you after you've cut him off, rather his ego is involved. So that I don't waste your time with unnecessary thoughts ... my advice is to stop thinking a lot, to count who wrote to whom more, and to accept as many invitations for live meetings as possible. You never know where your happiness will come from, even a person you didn't particularly like on the internet can be much more interesting and charming live. Just have fun and act casual. I do not know you, I can't judge how attractive and interesting you are, but as a man I wanted to have a drink with you than to play hide and seek for a few months on the net. And yes, when I look for you for a live meeting, I would rather you accept. If you refuse me for an objective reason, without offering me any alternative, I will accept it as a lack of interest. I really have to like you very much, I want to continue to pursue you after that, at the risk of accusing me of sexual harassment. Of course, if after the meeting one of us did not like the other, it is normal to withdraw. The other must grasp the hint and not take it personally as much as possible. It is clear to me that most women would like to be persecuted and stubbornly courted while bowing, this is in their nature and makes them feel wanted and beautiful .... but you see how our society is gradually changing, quick pleasures are sought, and fewer and fewer men have this "old-fashioned" style of courtship "to the hole." And let's not underestimate the influence of movements like MeToo :) So, go out and have fun. I wish you luck! M40
Hello, as I look at the comments, no one has written anything significant to you. I understand you honestly, because there really is a confusion. Supposedly men like to chase, we have to be inaccessible blah blah blah and finally we are fucked again. You behave kindly and of course they take you for granted, you behave reservedly, they don't care. I do not understand the male psyche and I can no longer strain. Someone had said above that you should stay away from such people, that there are no other than such people. Either if someone is aware he is already bound or it is generally. Don't despair, just try to relax and be yourself. I hope you come across decent men and have a family and children is soon. Success!
I don't know who is always lying to you that we want to chase men, pull us, etc. Up to a certain age it can, but then it becomes annoying. After 30-35, the last thing I want is for a woman to pull myself together and try to create some games in order to make me more interesting. If I'm in high school, yes, otherwise I would be annoyed by this done by a 32-year-old woman who should know what she wants. As someone said above, if you refuse my offer to go out without offering an alternative, I would not write to you a second time so as not to waste my time. And what the author wrote has nothing to do with whether the man is dominant or not.
If you are 32 alone, without marriage or a serious relationship, then something is lame in the tactics you have chosen to pretend to be inaccessible. Which does not mean the opposite. Just be yourself, as number 7 says, if someone likes you and wants to be with you, they will appreciate it. If not - then he is not your man and does not think so. It doesn't happen with a game of something you are not, or with lies, such a relationship is not stable. You can't make anyone love you, that's why you need two after all. Try to look for the reasons in yourself, maybe you have too high requirements for others?