How Do You Deal With Envy?

   I think everyone envies, but almost no one admits. Envy is simply a desire to have something better that is human - no one strives to be bad. You may want to have her things, the point is not to want her gone. Is it better to fight in your chest how self-sufficient you are in front of people, and at the same time to act submissively in order to settle in someone's place at work, to sleep with another man, to slander someone "involuntarily"? Many people do this, but they will tell you a thousand tales about their unattainable wisdom, and they will never admit that they are simply attracted to someone else and are not satisfied with their own. In my opinion, you have no problem, unless you dream that your girlfriend will fail, to lose everything that they and you can afford to show off that you are over her one day.

   Try to motivate yourself and achieve what others already have.

   Everyone has their bad things in life. She may be beautiful and have a good life, but believe me, she doesn't like something and something is bothering her. In her eyes, she can be ugly. And under a good life, you probably mean that she has opportunities, but she can live in fear of killing her parents if they do illegal things. Maybe she also envies you that, for example, your parents do honest things and you are not afraid of them. With envy you will achieve neither her beauty nor her life. You will only be ugly and you can get sick from many diseases, because envy is quite possible to happen. Be content with what you have, learn to appreciate. These people who dig in the buckets and sleep on the benches would also envy you for having food and a bed.

   You will even be surprised that there are an awful lot of people like you. In fact, all fashion magazines are based on this - if you make up and dress like this, you will have a life like hers. Try talking to this acquaintance of yours, if you can't find a common language, then try watching more series and movies than you watch a day. Or do something sideways until your years together in a school are over and you are free. I don't know how to guarantee, but I think that over the years this problem disappears, I hope. Especially when the person you envy is not in front of your nose, I know it is very annoying.

   The truth is that if you try to suppress this feeling, not only will it not disappear, but it will fight you and develop even more. It is up to us to compare ourselves with others and this is normal. There is nothing wrong with envy, as long as it does not turn into actions, intrigues, etc. If it is just a feeling and you do not want the bad, it is not a problem, on the contrary, it can be your motivation. That's nice, they call him noble envy. I think yours is more of a noble envy, so instead of fighting it, you better turn it into an advantage, namely motivation. And without that there is no way to overcome it. You dream and work on your dreams and one day you will achieve everything. It will be even sweeter for you when you have achieved it in a difficult way, and not ready-made. When it is ready, one does not appreciate it and can easily lose it. And you know it falls from a high bad. So you are in an even better position, because you will be able to truly enjoy what you have achieved to be different from it. Just don't be an intriguer, please. Then not only will you achieve nothing, but you will lose your friends and be lonely among everything else. Many people make this mistake.

   Through spiritual growth! Unfortunately - there is no other way.

   I have never been interested in others and I do not envy because I am beautiful, I have a great husband and family. And even before I had them, I still did not envy, but admired others who had things I wanted.

   It's human ... I think it's happened to everyone at least once. But if there's something you don't like - change it! For example, if you don't like your appearance, start to support yourself more - change your hairstyle, update your wardrobe, make up ... for example, there are many videos on the Internet that show ways to make up, how to make hairstyles that do not burn your hair. A better appearance will give you more self-confidence. Read articles related to spiritual growth, how to attract positive energy to you and the like ... travel, you don't always have to be with someone else, communicate with positive people. Do something new.

   Oh, I understand you! I also had a period when I was terribly jealous of a very good friend. It really feels awful! It went by itself - just one day I felt that I no longer envied her. Many people will probably tell you that it just seems to you that her life is perfect and that everyone has problems, even if it is not visible. This should, in theory, "reassure" us that we are not so bad, but in reality it is not. I think you're missing something definite, something big, and that's where the other problems come from. Try to understand what this thing you are suffering from the most is missing and try to change the situation. In my opinion, other things will get better from there and this feeling of envy will decrease. What do you think? I wish you success!

   It is good that you realize it, you admit it, you understand that it is negative. Believe me, it is very difficult for a person to get to know himself, it is even more difficult to recognize his negative qualities. So, you have achieved the hardest thing. Now all you have to do is get to know each other a little more, so that you know how to be happy. If you know exactly what would satisfy you, you will also know how to achieve it. Just divert your attention from your friend's happiness, look for yours. Do not be ashamed of your feeling, (envy) many people envy, few have the courage to admit it.

   The topic is not stupid at all, but very important. Being ashamed of being jealous shows that you are a good and intelligent person. It's very good that you want to deal with this. I had the same problem, but managed to read relevant literature. If one wants one can handle this. I had a terrible day. At work, only malice, everyone makes some hints to you ... what is happening to us humans? I think we need to be better, you can't always get back when someone does something bad to you. You need to forgive and move on. You can't envy your neighbor all your life and harass yourself and others. You have to face this at some point and fight!

   Accept yourself as you are ... then it's easy. The problem is not in the girlfriend;))

   Ehee, tighten up! Surely you also have something that people envy you, something that they would like to have, but do not have .....

   Hello, I think the answer lies in this parable. I hope I was helpful. One man decided that his fate was too hard and his cross too heavy. And he turned to God with a request: - Lord, my cross is heavy, I can not afford such a load, I can no longer bear it. All the other people I know have a better life and a lighter cross. Have mercy on me, please! Replace my waist with another, lighter one. God heard the desperate prayer and answered, "All right, my son, I invite you to my storehouse of crosses. Choose the one that suits you best." The man went to the vault and began to choose carefully. Measure this cross, measure that one, it all seemed either heavy, or uncomfortable, or bulky. He examined everything and only at the end, to the very exit, found a cross just like for him: far lighter than the others. He turned to God: "God, please let me take this one." And God answered: - Of course, my son, take it! Either way, it's your own cross that he left at your door before you started measuring the others.

   Hello! It has happened to every person in the world to experience this feeling. Personally, this is what motivated me to be better and to strive for better things in life, etc. But sometimes the feeling is very strong and degrading and you just wonder why I'm not better than her and why I don't have all this. Well, I do it, first of all I stopped comparing myself to everyone, but it happened later in my life. That is, do not compare yourself with her in any way and set her free. There is a ritual called liberation. You imagine a person as a small child and you liberate him in your mind with the words: I completely forgive you and release you with love. The image of the child is because there is no way to envy or hate a baby, so this thing works with envy and problems and hatred. As long as you can imagine the person to whom you feel these feelings and be able to release him from the heart and soul. The first time is difficult, but over time it will be much easier. Try not to bother, you will be fascinated. Chantiel

   Well, stop being jealous. For me, friends who envied me are already my former "girlfriends"

   eh, eh, not everything that shines is gold. over time I learned that EVERYONE has a drama. Of course, no one takes it out on display and so the shiny one remains on display. When you envy someone, you want to be in his place, but you don't know what's lurking around the corner of the window ... I was very jealous of a friend, just like you, for years, until lately I've been learning from here -from there for her problems and when you look around - it's the same with everyone. So just remember the hidden side of things and it will go faster.

   Hello author, I will speak to you on behalf of a man who has carried this envy in himself all his life and in the end managed to overcome it. When I was a child I lived in a particularly poor family. When you see what the children around you have and what you don't have - here we are talking about even basic security for tomorrow - you are left with the impression that you are a second class person. Everyone else also sees you as such. Gradually, until puberty, I developed the belief that I was worse than others, that I cost less as a quality and as a person. During puberty it got worse, social difference also had its say. And I envied. As a child, I envied chocolates and dolls. As a teenager, I no longer envied objects, but I envied those around me because I thought they were far superior to me. My dreams were not what I would have when I grew up, and what will become like dust. Social isolation has fueled my illusion that everyone is superior to me. When envy diminished - as an adult I stubbornly, work and a lot of effort pulled to a position and call it security (although to this day it is rooted in my psyche that there is certainly nothing in this world) that would satisfy me. Let's just say that I became part of the things I wanted to be when I grew up. Large enough for me to be relatively happy with myself and achieve some inner peace. Also as an adult I realized that: 1. If your goals and ambitions are always too big, you will never be happy with yourself 2. You can not please everyone around you. In fact, there will always be an idiot who hasn't lifted his ass off the couch in his life to do something, to criticize you for how you coped. It is good to ignore them - unsuccessful people become critics, successful people act and make decisions, which implies mistakes for which many experts will criticize them. Get rid of people who explain to you how you can't and how you're wrong. Send them to look after their own lives. 3. People's lives are never as perfect as they seem to you. Don't idealize people, don't idealize their lives. Here I can give you an example with an event from my life. When I was about 16, I started helping organize small charity campaigns (nothing to do with politics). There was a girl, about 26 at the time - young, beautiful, educated, working in her specialty, she had a stable man by her side. I thought her life was perfect. Although she was a good person, I envied her a little. I met her again by chance years later, we exchanged contacts, we talked. It turned out that her life was not so perfect. Her specialty is not as well paid as I thought then, she has financial problems. The stable man I imagined when she mentioned him with an amorous look turned out to be less stable, a rude man who kept insulting and throwing things at her. Hence her beauty, he often found flaws in her, and she tried to please him. Her life is a mess, believe me, it is not perfect at all, she is a ball of nerves, and she is a nice and good girl and I sincerely wish her life to be in order. The conclusion is that you do not envy the lives of others, but some idealized idea of ​​your life of others. So, in short, what helps against envy and constant comparison with others: 1. Helping others helps you too - it makes you realize that you are not so insignificant and that if you can't change the world, then at least you can change a person's day for the better 2. Achievements - become what you want to be. Naturally, limit your ambitions and bring them into line with reality. 3. Love - helps a lot to be really important to someone, opposes the feeling that you are small and incapable of anything. It also helps to make someone happy and make their life better. You are not powerless, you are not worse than others. You're probably more ambitious, but that's not necessarily a disadvantage. dare until you achieve some inner peace with yourself. Good luck Naturally, limit your ambitions and bring them into line with reality. 3. Love - helps a lot to be really important to someone, opposes the feeling that you are small and incapable of anything. It also helps to make someone happy and make their life better. You are not powerless, you are not worse than others. You're probably more ambitious, but that's not necessarily a disadvantage. dare until you achieve some inner peace with yourself. Good luck Naturally, limit your ambitions and bring them into line with reality. 3. Love - helps a lot to be really important to someone, opposes the feeling that you are small and incapable of anything. It also helps to make someone happy and make their life better. You are not powerless, you are not worse than others. You're probably more ambitious, but that's not necessarily a disadvantage. dare until you achieve some inner peace with yourself. Good luck

   I can't do it because I don't allow such emotions in myself. I am beautiful, I look good, I have wonderful parents and most of all a unique father, for whom I am very envied and cursed even by malice. Because my father is a man that everyone would dream of having such a parent. I'm angry about my appearance because I'm thin, I have nice hair, eyes and everything. I have a great family and they envy. My comment on this topic came out very boastful, which is not in my style to stand out. But since this is the topic, I say it, otherwise I will never go to tell, I have this and that ... !! We even went to a woman recently, and she told us that they swear at us and think bad of us out of envy and malice. Being jealous of someone is too much attention to him. I also have a case where I was commented that I envied people,

   "I want to have something more than others to be happy" - And what are you better than others at wanting something more? Who in the world is obliged to ensure your own happiness? Your parents provide for your life and happiness until you become a great person, and from then on your happiness is your concern. The word "I want" is very funny to me - well, ask, but whoever wants, if he doesn't do what he has to do, stays with the request. And what you need to do is focus on your own development so that you can be liked. One is happy when one likes oneself as one is.